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Originally Posted by OpenMind
I have wondered about that also. There is resentment on my part but I feel no anger. I believe he thought he was doing the best thing at the time. It would be nice to know more about my Father's side of the family. I would only contact him if he wanted this also. But I would also want something good to tell him. I'm not entirely sure but he must be at least 71 if he's still alive.
My concern for now is to get myself into a better position to be a good Father for my own daughter. This is more important to me now, that and fulfilling my purpose in life.
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Not at all, your needs are important as well. Imagine growing old, looking back and wishing you had made contact when it's all too late. When tracing a parent it is best to use a third party as the go between. Some adopted children grow up with no disire to trace their biological parents but for most, they have to know their roots. You say you have no reason to contact him yet i bet he thinks of you as much as you do of him. One thought that will be going through his mind will be if he has any grandchildre. If it's something you want to do, this is the perfect time and reason to do it.......To show him his beautiful grandchild and give her a sense of her ancestry for when she's older.