There was me thinking that your poor MIL needs some support and help
You've been incredibly patient putting up with her all these years, I'd be inclined now to tell her to sort it out herself - sod it if she gets nothing.
My husband's first MIL has never got over losing her daughter, completely understandable and I have huge amounts of compassion for her, until she starts telling me that I should do this and that, and that I married G too soon, and forgets that for the last 17 years I've brought up her grandkids with no her from her!! I won't tolerate the disrespect she shows me any more and nor should you.
Much love to you - say what you think and then let her get on with it!
Silly ducker....
