Do you talk to the ex-wife or husband?

[nvalleyvee]

What a trip...............You know when you have to talk to the ex because of under 18 year old kids..............and it's the second contact with them. The first contact for me and BTS with his ex was his heart attack...........typical snippy remark about BTS. It was ignored. Now I'm making a second attempt for his children. I will always be a step-mom.....no illusions here. I will be respected though or they won't be a part of our life,

As far as my T-Girl and her Dad ............never denegrated him and he paid me the same respect. Result............she loves us both.

[nvalleyvee]

OK I pressed the submit line too many times............I swear I didn't do it ...shame.......HOW THE HECK DO I DELETE A NEW THREAD?

[Peg]

Me and my husband's ex email each other jokes and pics all the time. It wasn't always good. It got better when she stopped calling us when she was drunk.

[chonsigirl]

I talk to the ex, send the kids to see him, but mine are full grown. We never had a problem with it.

[Valerie100]

I don't talk to my ex-husband at all. I had a stepdaughter in that marriage. When she was 13, her father and I split up. She's 18 now, and I haven't talked to her or spoken to her in all of this time.

The problems between her father and I are just that, our problems. She's got a good life with her mom and family, which I was no longer a part of. My ex-husband put a bridge of distance between her and I, anyway. She called her stepfather dad, but my ex wouldn't have her call me mom. She did at times, though, but mostly, I got called by my first name. I hated the disrespect. The ex felt that since he never called his stepmother mom, that she shouldn't call me mom either. It hurt, and it automatically put a distance there. My ex-husband was such a selfish man.

Since my ex is no longer a part of my life, I felt it best to just completely cut ties.

[pina]

My ex and I still talk, when I visit my family I always go see him. We stayed on friendly terms mostly because of the kids but more so because we had been friends since school and could always make each other laugh.

To be honest I sometimes get in touch with him for no other reason but to annoy his new wife, she is sooo jealous of me even after 10 years.

[minks]

Originally Posted by pina

My ex and I still talk, when I visit my family I always go see him. We stayed on friendly terms mostly because of the kids but more so because we had been friends since school and could always make each other laugh.

To be honest I sometimes get in touch with him for no other reason but to annoy his new wife, she is sooo jealous of me even after 10 years.

I keep my ex at arms length, he was a crap father way back and still is, the good thing, my girls are old enough now to make the choices as to when to see him and when not. It works well for them, as well he keeps out of my life, I keep out of his, and our paths cross only when it comes to Jr. Minks, The other is 18 so she is on her own.

[Betty Boop]

Right now as little as possible, maybe in a couple of years things will be better but I somehow doubt it!!

[Uncle Kram]

The D-I-V-O-R-C-E was a real war of attrition. My son kept asking me to get a flat and take me with him from the age of 8. He's 22 now and refuses any contact with his mom. My daughter wanted to live with me. Had to take it to court as ex said I could see her once a fortnight for tea with no stopovers. I don't get home til late so settled for 2 stopovers per week and Saturday plus taking her to school everyday which I'd always done for both of them. Daily contact is good. Ex is finally mellowing as she is expecting another kid. Means I see even more of my daughter than agreed in court. For my daughters sake I've always been civilised but my ex has only just got there. Hope the arrival of the baby reunites my son and ex as years of hatred have mashed his head up. After this post I'm making something to fit into my ex's house. That's progress ...right?

Originally Posted by Valerie100

I don't talk to my ex-husband at all. I had a stepdaughter in that marriage. When she was 13, her father and I split up. She's 18 now, and I haven't talked to her or spoken to her in all of this time.

The problems between her father and I are just that, our problems. She's got a good life with her mom and family, which I was no longer a part of. My ex-husband put a bridge of distance between her and I, anyway. She called her stepfather dad, but my ex wouldn't have her call me mom. She did at times, though, but mostly, I got called by my first name. I hated the disrespect. The ex felt that since he never called his stepmother mom, that she shouldn't call me mom either. It hurt, and it automatically put a distance there. My ex-husband was such a selfish man.

Since my ex is no longer a part of my life, I felt it best to just completely cut ties.

Your feelings are your own and you certainly don't have to validate them to an online nitwit like me, but I'm not really sure that the stepdaughter using your first name is disrespectful. "Mom" wouldn't be appropriate since she's already got a mother. What other choices are there?