poor people?

[ryk22]

the world wasn't made for poor people...children need time alone with their mother...how can we afford to do this,, any ideas??

[Peg]

I'm not quite sure what you are asking here. Are you talking about her working and still having time with the children? How old are they?

[gmc]

I don't approve of political jokes. I've seen too many of them get elected.

I love that brilliant one liner.

[ryk22]

yes I'm not sure myself now! Apart from an imminant divorce being made all the more difficult for not having enough money to buy 2 properties big enough in fact not being able to buy properties at all. The funds from the sale of the house wont be enough we'll both have to rent ...what a waste of money!!!!

[Suresh Gupta]

Originally Posted by ryk22

the world wasn't made for poor people...children need time alone with their mother...how can we afford to do this,, any ideas??

When God created the world, he did not think of people as rich or poor. For Him every body is same. It is we who have created these differences. And then who is rich and who is poor? If we differentiate them on the basis of how much money one is having then it is wrong. The concept of money has been developed by people not God. There were times when there was nothing like money. How people were differentiated as poor in those times? In my opinion, a poor person is whose espenses are higher than his income, irrespective of the amount of money he or she is having. A person earns an amoint 'A' and is fully satisfied. Another person is earning million times of 'A' but is not satisfied. Now who is poor? Another example - A person changes his car every year and another changes his aircraft every six months. Due to some financial problems later person is not able to change his aircraft for two years and is very unhappy about it. Should he be connsidered a rich person?

Children need more time with their mother whether alone or with others present. In India mother is considered the first and the best teacher. As far as affording to do this is a matter of priority. If a mother considers her children as her first priority then she will find time for the children, irrespective of how busy she is elsewhere. In India no mother treats this issue as a problem.

[ryk22]

mmm, do Indian mothers (can we generalise?) see their role as mothers as important ..I don't think my wife does. She seems to want her freedom as she calls it, no responsibilities to a husband and children and the benefits/pleasures that children bring.She is not very patient with them or me ,she only seems to have time for her friends!

[Suresh Gupta]

Originally Posted by ryk22

Do Indian mothers see their role as mothers as important ..I don't think my wife does. She seems to want her freedom as she calls it, no responsibilities to a husband and children and the benefits/pleasures that children bring.She is not very patient with them or me ,she only seems to have time for her friends!

Indian mothers see their role as mothers as most important part of their life. They are child's first and the best teacher. Ans this does not dilute their responsibilities to their husbands. In India married women keep fast and pray to God for health and prosperity of their husband and children. In Indian household, mother is the most patient person. Father may loose his cool, children may create all sort of problems, but mother is always cool and helping. All her time is for her husband and children. Her friends come afterwards if she has spare time. It is her home and she is free to run it the way she likes.

[Peg]

Originally Posted by ryk22

mmm, do Indian mothers (can we generalise?) see their role as mothers as important ..I don't think my wife does. She seems to want her freedom as she calls it, no responsibilities to a husband and children and the benefits/pleasures that children bring.She is not very patient with them or me ,she only seems to have time for her friends!

If you feel this way, why not go for custody? It is easier now than it was even 10 years ago for men to get custody. Or why not shared custody? A father in their lives is just as important as a mother in their lives.

[Bill Sikes]

Originally Posted by Peg

If you feel this way, why not go for custody? It is easier now than it was even 10 years ago for men to get custody. Or why not shared custody? A father in their lives is just as important as a mother in their lives.

He's in the UK. Things are very different here, and there is a presumption in
favour of the mother as it "is best for the children". This can of course be
very unfair. When the child is of an age where he can be reasonably
expected to make in informed decision, then his views will be taken into
account. If the child is much younger, the mother will in the vast majority
of cases get custody, unless she's a raving drunken prostitute with a
drug habit and a propensity for violence, for instance. It is important
to establish an agreement for "access" either way, one of the reasons that
an amicable divorce is the best if at all possible. Have you seen what Batman
and Robin have been up to recently, or heard about "our fascist leader"
having flour hurled at him in the Commons, or similar protests? They are
protesting about "access rights" being refused, etc, etc.

[ryk22]

yes thanks for that.. she wants the house, the kids , maintainance for her and the kids and me to have the kids every other weekend when I'm not working...I just can't afford it..I could barely afford a room in a shared house!!!