i need advice!

[cindy28]

ok.... i have a 4 year old son. He just started pre-k, and now he thinks he is a big boy.. i mean he is bossy and doesnt listen.whines, argues and has screaming fits.What should i do? I have put him in his room to cool down then talk to him about why he is in there, but 10 minets later he acts out again. If i put him in his room all the time he would bein there all day... HELP!

Originally Posted by cindy28

ok.... i have a 4 year old son. He just started pre-k, and now he thinks he is a big boy.. i mean he is bossy and doesn't listen.whines, argues and has screaming fits.What should i do? I have put him in his room to cool down then talk to him about why he is in there, but 10 minets later he acts out again. If i put him in his room all the time he would being there all day... HELP!

ah, the joys of socialization.. just wait til you hear some of the language he'll come home with

So, you put him in his room when he misbehaved, he came out and behaved the same way. He needs to go back to his room. If he spends half of his day in there, for the next week, you will bring him to the understanding that mom means what she says. If you don't, you've taught him that mom caves. And then the next time, it will be even harder to lay down the law, because he now knows that mom will cave.

He needs to know that no matter how his outside world may change, in your family he is not 'the boss'. Mom is. And once you've reestablished that, he'll be a lot happier guy.

but what do I know

[Sheryl]

Actually his bedroom is not the best place to put him for time outs. That's usually where their toys and stuff are at. Or atleast that's how it is in my house. Find a spot in your house and have him do his cooling off time there.

And another option, I know it sounds cruel. But my grandma would make me bite a bar of soap everytime I back talked her. After a few times of having to bite a bar of soap I didn't backtalk my grandma.

[libertine]

I don't disagree with the previous posts, but maybe you should also determine if he is having a little separation anxiety. Even 6 year-olds when they go to school for the first time are a little dicey about it (not to mention college freshmen). He might be testing to make sure that you will always let him come home.
If you ask about school, and what he did, and who his friends are, he may become more socialized. If he doesn't, then send him to time out until he co-operates

[KARENSVINEYARD]

Originally Posted by cindy28

ok.... i have a 4 year old son. He just started pre-k, and now he thinks he is a big boy.. i mean he is bossy and doesnt listen.whines, argues and has screaming fits.What should i do? I have put him in his room to cool down then talk to him about why he is in there, but 10 minets later he acts out again. If i put him in his room all the time he would bein there all day... HELP!

if you put him in his room and you know he'll be too upset to play with anything in there, and you're tellin' why he's in there, go for it, you know your kid best and repetition is sometimes only thing that gets 'em. might want to try a couple other things, dont know how good my advice is, but i only give what i try so here goes nothing.




- try to do something like a chart that he has to paricipate in. To get my little firecracker accustomed to school routine and rules, theres and chart on the fridge. She gets in trouble then its her thats gotta put the check mark on it and i take something of hers for a set amount of time like a probation lol. when she does what she's supposed to (anything you make it/choose) then she gets something back. whether its gotta be somethin' you ask him to do or not is up to you, things have'ta be around how you know your child and sometimes it's trial and error to find out for yourself whats gonna work. things that work always change, its alot of repitition and dedication to your decision


- try takin' him to a park where there's other kids on none school hours like weekends and whatnot. that'll help him more to gain a respect of other kids and help him get used to bein' around them alittle more.


just remember that no one knows whats best for your kid than you. go with your gut and no different.

[KARENSVINEYARD]

Originally Posted by flopstock

ah, the joys of socialization.. just wait til you hear some of the language he'll come home with

So, you put him in his room when he misbehaved, he came out and behaved the same way. He needs to go back to his room. If he spends half of his day in there, for the next week, you will bring him to the understanding that mom means what she says. If you don't, you've taught him that mom caves. And then the next time, it will be even harder to lay down the law, because he now knows that mom will cave.

He needs to know that no matter how his outside world may change, in your family he is not 'the boss'. Mom is. And once you've reestablished that, he'll be a lot happier guy.

but what do I know

COMPLETELY AGREED

[Accountable]

Grab him by the scruff of the neck and carry him to a quiet corner. If he struggles just give him a little shake so he'll know who's boss. Lie down with him in the corner. If he tries to leave, a heavy paw on his back is quite effective. He'll soon learn his place in the pack.

I don't have kids, but I once had a mama dog that was very skilled at parenting.

[KARENSVINEYARD]

Originally Posted by Accountable

Grab him by the scruff of the neck and carry him to a quiet corner. If he struggles just give him a little shake so he'll know who's boss. Lie down with him in the corner. If he tries to leave, a heavy paw on his back is quite effective. He'll soon learn his place in the pack.

I don't have kids, but I once had a mama dog that was very skilled at parenting.

alrighty then there Dances With Wolves. i was wonderin' why i hadnt seen ya around accountable. its you and redglitter helpin' me out and made feel welcome here, wanted to say hi again, but hadn't seen ya

[Accountable]

Originally Posted by KARENSVINEYARD

alrighty then there Dances With Wolves. i was wonderin' why i hadnt seen ya around accountable. its you and redglitter helpin' me out and made feel welcome here, wanted to say hi again, but hadn't seen ya

Hi!
I can't log on near as much as I used to. I'm employed now and they have certain "expectations" about how I spend my time.

[KARENSVINEYARD]

Originally Posted by Accountable

Hi!
I can't log on near as much as I used to. I'm employed now and they have certain "expectations" about how I spend my time.

oh my god! you have a j..o...b (cold shiver) dont be so graphic while i'm eatin' my grits. i'm employed but on vacation and been on here alot cause i've been hunting a descent law school