Today is a special day.

[RedGlitter]

It's my mom's 66th. birthday. It's a hard one to swallow, but I refuse to be a total mourner on this day. The day she came into the world is a day to be celebrated because my mom truly left the world a better place and is undoubtedly still doing good in her new life.

In time I will have created a ritual just for this day, that will honor my mom and temper my grief a little. But for today, all I can do is bake a cake. I always gave her a birthday cake and this year will be no different.

I am pretty upset that my dad and I won't be going to her grave to put flowers down today, of all days. We're too broke for a cab and can't get a ride and it's a long way out there. I don't drive and my dad has limited vision so that means get a ride. I know my mom would understand this because that's how my mom is. (I don't like "was" because she and I never believed in actual death, but existence after this one.) But when I think of her grave out there with no flowers it tears me up.

So I'm going to concentrate on this cake and on the wake of love and goodness she left in her path.

You have no idea how much I envy the love you and your mother share. To leave this world and have someone still celebrating your birth is a much more special tribute, IMO then grieving the day of her death. It is her life, after all that gave you some awesome memories and building blocks for your own life.

It was her life and the way she lived it, that shaped you. That makes you special. I think she would be proud of her accomplishment with you.

You are a good kid..

[Bez]

Originally Posted by flopstock

You have no idea how much I envy the love you and your mother share. To leave this world and have someone still celebrating your birth is a much more special tribute, IMO then grieving the day of her death. It is her life, after all that gave you some awesome memories and building blocks for your own life.

It was her life and the way she lived it, that shaped you. That makes you special. I think she would be proud of her accomplishment with you.

You are a good kid..

I agree with Floppy......celebrating her birthday is a fantastic thing to do. She won't mind about the flowers...it's the love coming from your heart that matters.

[Carl44]

red i feel both sorrow for missing a much loved one

envy for my mother and i had a very bad relationship

but most of all happiness for you i still rejoice if thats the right word in the good times i used to share with my loved ones that are no longer with us

take care red you are a very special person suzy and me loves ya

[abbey]

What a lovely caring daughter you are Red.
Sending big hugs your way x

Hugs & love to you Red

[cars]

Originally Posted by flopstock

You have no idea how much I envy the love you and your mother share. To leave this world and have someone still celebrating your birth is a much more special tribute, IMO then grieving the day of her death. It is her life, after all that gave you some awesome memories and building blocks for your own life.

It was her life and the way she lived it, that shaped you. That makes you special. I think she would be proud of her accomplishment with you.

You are a good kid..

What flop said!

(The tear in my eye won't let me write any more.)

Big hugs for you Red..........

((((((Red))))))))))

[Imladris]

Red that's lovely, why not put a few flowers beside a photo of mum, that way she can 'see' them (I hope that doesn't sound too wacky)

[Bez]

Originally Posted by Imladris

Red that's lovely, why not put a few flowers beside a photo of mum, that way she can 'see' them (I hope that doesn't sound too wacky)

Lovely idea...........and light a candle