My wifes mother

redman · 02-03-2007, 11:05 AM

My mother in law died in hospital on Friday morning, needless to say my wife is devastated as she is the only one,I have tried to console her but sometimes I do not know what to do or say.

They were so close and she lived just round the corner from us, we shall both miss her terribly, she was very generous and came on 3 holidays a year with us

The funeral is next Friday and I am dreading it,what can we do to eliminate just a bit of this grief ?

02-03-2007, 11:11 AM

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Originally Posted by redman

My mother in law died in hospital on Friday morning, needless to say my wife is devastated as she is the only one,I have tried to console her but sometimes I do not know what to do or say.

They were so close and she lived just round the corner from us, we shall both miss her terribly, she was very generous and came on 3 holidays a year with us

The funeral is next Friday and I am dreading it,what can we do to eliminate just a bit of this grief ?

Redman, I'm sorry to hear about that. It's always devastating when someone you're close to passes on. Of course you will both grieve for her loss, she was special to both of you. At least she was a part of your lives and you must have many wonderful memories of her, and you will always have those.

Marie5656 · 02-03-2007, 11:14 AM

Red, sorry about your mother-in-law. Check the poem I posted in this thread. I did not write it, but it may be comforting to hyour wife.

In Memory of my Friend

redman · 02-03-2007, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Marie5656

Red, sorry about your mother-in-law. Check the poem I posted in this thread. I did not write it, but it may be comforting to hyour wife.

In Memory of my Friend

That was fantastic,would not dare show her just yet it is so sad it bought tears to my eyes...........THANK YOU

abbey · 02-03-2007, 11:24 AM

Red, sorry to hear of your loss,
my thoughts are with you and your family at this awful time.

valerie · 02-03-2007, 11:26 AM

Sending cyber hugs to you and your wife...

The only way I know of really to lessen the grief is the passage of
time. But since you each have each other, that is some comfort.

Do you have pictures of your holidays together? Maybe if you
both looked at them, or put some together to display at the service,
that might help.

<<hugs>>

CARLA · 02-03-2007, 01:11 PM

Redman hugs to you and your wife the loss is great and you will have to grieve until you can't grieve anymore.

This isn't easy but necessary.

Then rejoice in the wonderful memories of your Mother in Law, and your wife's mother. It is these memories that will get you through the days, months, and years. Bless both of you, your in my thoughts and prayers..

Bez · 02-03-2007, 01:17 PM

It's really hard at times like this this redman....I was heartbroken when my mum died......angry - sad - wanted to talk - wanted to be left alone - in other words 'all over the place'.

I guess all you can do is 'be there'....sounds a bit glib, but It's all you can do at the moment. Lots of hugs help too.

Hugs and love to you both.

Clint · 02-03-2007, 02:10 PM

It saddens me to hear of your loss. It sounds like she was a wonderful person.

I've just been through five deaths of people close to me. It hurts. At this time grief is your friend. Embrace it. Learn how it works and go with it. Cry, get angry, feel lonely, feel guilty and be sad. You won't ever be over such a close loss but you won't be able to move on until you experienced all that grieving has to offer.

02-03-2007, 11:05 AM	#1 (permalink)
redman Senior Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Wilmslow, Cheshire Posts: 251	My wifes mother My mother in law died in hospital on Friday morning, needless to say my wife is devastated as she is the only one,I have tried to console her but sometimes I do not know what to do or say. They were so close and she lived just round the corner from us, we shall both miss her terribly, she was very generous and came on 3 holidays a year with us The funeral is next Friday and I am dreading it,what can we do to eliminate just a bit of this grief ?
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02-03-2007, 11:14 AM	#3 (permalink)
Marie5656 What? Me worry? Join Date: May 2006 Location: Rochester, NY Posts: 6,694	Re: My wifes mother Red, sorry about your mother-in-law. Check the poem I posted in this thread. I did not write it, but it may be comforting to hyour wife. In Memory of my Friend __________________ [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
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abbey Senior Member Supporting Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: UP NORTH Posts: 12,630	Re: My wifes mother Red, sorry to hear of your loss, my thoughts are with you and your family at this awful time.
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02-03-2007, 11:26 AM	#6 (permalink)
valerie Watanya Cecilia Supporting Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 6,358	Re: My wifes mother Sending cyber hugs to you and your wife... The only way I know of really to lessen the grief is the passage of time. But since you each have each other, that is some comfort. Do you have pictures of your holidays together? Maybe if you both looked at them, or put some together to display at the service, that might help. <<hugs>> __________________ Tamsen's Dogster Page http://www.dogster.com/?27525
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CARLA ALOHA..!! Supporting Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: San Diego, California (Native born and raised) Posts: 8,271	Re: My wifes mother Redman hugs to you and your wife the loss is great and you will have to grieve until you can't grieve anymore. This isn't easy but necessary. Then rejoice in the wonderful memories of your Mother in Law, and your wife's mother. It is these memories that will get you through the days, months, and years. Bless both of you, your in my thoughts and prayers.. __________________ ALOHA!! MOTTO TO LIVE BY: "Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, martini in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming. WOO HOO!!, what a ride!!!"
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02-03-2007, 01:17 PM	#8 (permalink)
Bez Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: West Sussex Posts: 8,393	Re: My wifes mother It's really hard at times like this this redman....I was heartbroken when my mum died......angry - sad - wanted to talk - wanted to be left alone - in other words 'all over the place'. I guess all you can do is 'be there'....sounds a bit glib, but It's all you can do at the moment. Lots of hugs help too. Hugs and love to you both.
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02-03-2007, 02:10 PM	#9 (permalink)
Clint So much to learn! Supporting Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 3,857	Re: My wifes mother It saddens me to hear of your loss. It sounds like she was a wonderful person. I've just been through five deaths of people close to me. It hurts. At this time grief is your friend. Embrace it. Learn how it works and go with it. Cry, get angry, feel lonely, feel guilty and be sad. You won't ever be over such a close loss but you won't be able to move on until you experienced all that grieving has to offer.
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