Marriage

02-04-2005, 04:16 PM

April 17th seems to be coming up fast for me! I am so excited about getting married, yet i am REALLY nervous! I know Tim is the only man that is perfect for me but i can't help feeling scared. He has been married before this is my first and my last. I guess it just makes me nervous to think about forever, when i just live for today not for tomorrow.. I make the best of everyday! I love him with all my heart and i know that this is the right thing to do. Is this completely normal?!? I am gonna marry him.. I want him to be my husband more then anything. Why am i so nervous!???

LottomagicZ4941 · 02-04-2005, 04:28 PM

'cuz it is a BIG step even if it is a good one

Then again he has been married before?

Why did the last marriage go down?

It may not have been all her fault.

I love my wife but I am her second marrage and some of the things she has put me through can only be described as crule.

For me marriage is a life time commitment but if she does not get her way she threatons to divorce me.

I threatoned to end our relationship prior to marriage.

Marriage is till death due us part!!!!!!!!!!!

Divorce is failure and is way to accepted in our society.

Marriage is not something that should be taken into lightly.

02-04-2005, 04:32 PM

His first marriage ended BC she was psychotic.. She had 2 children from another man. Tim didn't want to have children with her.. So she threatened to kill him and the kids while they were sleeping.. She took like 15 or 16 different kinds of Crazy people medicine.. She IS WAY out there.... she is 26 and has been married 4 times!

abbey · 02-05-2005, 12:06 AM

Calm down luv you're just having pre nuptual nerves and thats perfectly natural, its plain to see that you love Tim with every fibre of your being and you would'nt be normal if you did'nt suffer from these jitters.
Lets face it TG Tim had an awful 1st marriage & he must really love you and want that commitment from you to want to get married again.
I suppose every bride wants their day to be special and for nothing to go wrong and lets face it you've had your fair share of problems but now is yours & Tims time ENJOY

weeder · 02-05-2005, 04:25 AM

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Originally Posted by tmbsgrl

His first marriage ended BC she was psychotic.. She had 2 children from another man. Tim didn't want to have children with her.. So she threatened to kill him and the kids while they were sleeping.. She took like 15 or 16 different kinds of Crazy people medicine.. She IS WAY out there.... she is 26 and has been married 4 times!

Why would he marry someone who had been married three times before she married him? Couldnt help myself.. had to ask.

Peg · 02-05-2005, 07:17 AM

My husband always jokes (I think), "Marriage is a fine institution. I just never liked be institutionalized." LOL Anyways, it's perfectly natural to be nervous. If you weren't, I'd worry then.

Raven · 02-12-2005, 08:03 AM

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Originally Posted by tmbsgrl

April 17th seems to be coming up fast for me! I am so excited about getting married, yet i am REALLY nervous! I know Tim is the only man that is perfect for me but i can't help feeling scared. He has been married before this is my first and my last. I guess it just makes me nervous to think about forever, when i just live for today not for tomorrow.. I make the best of everyday! I love him with all my heart and i know that this is the right thing to do. Is this completely normal?!? I am gonna marry him.. I want him to be my husband more then anything. Why am i so nervous!???

It's the most intense and wonderful nervous you'll ever experience. Congratulations sweety!

Godiva Girl · 02-12-2005, 08:49 AM

Tmbsgrl,
What you are having is just the premarital jitters that I think most brides to be have. You should talk to tom about this, it will make you feel better and he may be feeling the same way right now. Marriage is based on communication and honestly. If you sit down with him and get this off your chest now you will feel much better and the anticipation of the wedding may become even more exciting.

A Karenina · 02-12-2005, 09:01 AM

How can you manage a forever commitment when you live for today? One day at a time.

I've a friend (I think I mentioned this before), and each year on their anniversary, they commit to one more year. That way, they aren't thinking about 60 years plus, but a "smaller" commitment seems easier for them to handle. They've been married for many years.

I think I'd be more worried if you weren't thinking deeply about what you are doing.

Listen to our wise people here. Nerves don't mean a thing!

jahamaa · 02-12-2005, 02:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by tmbsgrl

April 17th seems to be coming up fast for me! I am so excited about getting married, yet i am REALLY nervous! I know Tim is the only man that is perfect for me but i can't help feeling scared. He has been married before this is my first and my last. I guess it just makes me nervous to think about forever, when i just live for today not for tomorrow.. I make the best of everyday! I love him with all my heart and i know that this is the right thing to do. Is this completely normal?!? I am gonna marry him.. I want him to be my husband more then anything. Why am i so nervous!???

Marriage is a lot of dirty, hard work. You should be nervous. Now, know that it is normal, the hard work is the same work that everybody else has to go through to make a marriage work and then you can do what you are supposed to do,

ENJOY your day.

02-04-2005, 04:16 PM	#1 (permalink)
tmbsgrl Guest Posts: n/a	Marriage April 17th seems to be coming up fast for me! I am so excited about getting married, yet i am REALLY nervous! I know Tim is the only man that is perfect for me but i can't help feeling scared. He has been married before this is my first and my last. I guess it just makes me nervous to think about forever, when i just live for today not for tomorrow.. I make the best of everyday! I love him with all my heart and i know that this is the right thing to do. Is this completely normal?!? I am gonna marry him.. I want him to be my husband more then anything. Why am i so nervous!???

02-04-2005, 04:28 PM	#2 (permalink)
LottomagicZ4941 Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Colorado Posts: 749	Re: Marriage 'cuz it is a BIG step even if it is a good one Then again he has been married before? Why did the last marriage go down? It may not have been all her fault. I love my wife but I am her second marrage and some of the things she has put me through can only be described as crule. For me marriage is a life time commitment but if she does not get her way she threatons to divorce me. I threatoned to end our relationship prior to marriage. Marriage is till death due us part!!!!!!!!!!! Divorce is failure and is way to accepted in our society. Marriage is not something that should be taken into lightly.
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02-04-2005, 04:32 PM	#3 (permalink)
tmbsgrl Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Marriage His first marriage ended BC she was psychotic.. She had 2 children from another man. Tim didn't want to have children with her.. So she threatened to kill him and the kids while they were sleeping.. She took like 15 or 16 different kinds of Crazy people medicine.. She IS WAY out there.... she is 26 and has been married 4 times!

02-05-2005, 12:06 AM	#4 (permalink)
abbey Senior Member Supporting Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: UP NORTH Posts: 12,744	Re: Marriage Calm down luv you're just having pre nuptual nerves and thats perfectly natural, its plain to see that you love Tim with every fibre of your being and you would'nt be normal if you did'nt suffer from these jitters. Lets face it TG Tim had an awful 1st marriage & he must really love you and want that commitment from you to want to get married again. I suppose every bride wants their day to be special and for nothing to go wrong and lets face it you've had your fair share of problems but now is yours & Tims time ENJOY __________________ http://www.imeem.com/people/JIKfMoF/...z_music_video/
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02-05-2005, 07:17 AM	#6 (permalink)
Peg American and Proud Of It! Supporting Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Ohio Posts: 5,181	Re: Marriage My husband always jokes (I think), "Marriage is a fine institution. I just never liked be institutionalized." LOL Anyways, it's perfectly natural to be nervous. If you weren't, I'd worry then. __________________
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02-12-2005, 08:49 AM	#8 (permalink)
Godiva Girl Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Chicago Posts: 176	Re: Marriage Tmbsgrl, What you are having is just the premarital jitters that I think most brides to be have. You should talk to tom about this, it will make you feel better and he may be feeling the same way right now. Marriage is based on communication and honestly. If you sit down with him and get this off your chest now you will feel much better and the anticipation of the wedding may become even more exciting.
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02-12-2005, 09:01 AM	#9 (permalink)
A Karenina Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Oregon Posts: 959	Re: Marriage How can you manage a forever commitment when you live for today? One day at a time. I've a friend (I think I mentioned this before), and each year on their anniversary, they commit to one more year. That way, they aren't thinking about 60 years plus, but a "smaller" commitment seems easier for them to handle. They've been married for many years. I think I'd be more worried if you weren't thinking deeply about what you are doing. Listen to our wise people here. Nerves don't mean a thing! __________________ We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle
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