I lost her [will it last]

stickler00000 · 02-11-2005, 05:13 PM

I had been dating a a girl for 8 months we lived together with her 4 yr old daughter,who i loved dearly. Are first few months were great but then a guy she had previously dated before me had broken up with his fiance because he cheated on her. now my girlfriend had told me earliear that that guy had broken her heart they only dated 3 months or so.... Ok back to about 3 months ago they started talking again and it became more and more frequent.this is right after the 2 broke up [him and his fiance]...now tess is my girlfriend well ex now but she and him talked all the time while i was at work...found this out after i recieved my phone bill after she kicked me out on dec. 25......then they both got together instantly...now i want to know will this love that she thouhght she missed out on before work out or not??? they have been seeing each other now for 2 months,and remember that he broke it off with tess before to be with another women will he do the same again? And do you think she'll want to be with me again..someday? I need to let you know too that we were very in love and she had brought up marrage to me alot in the last few months of our relationship,i treated her with the ut most respect, and from what her family has always said about me is she never had anyone like you before,,,she always had assholes for boyfriends,and this new guy{ryan} is known as a [male shovanistic pig] and this guy is also her brothers best friend and a family friend to her family..Me and her brother still talk and he still hates his sister for what she did to me and doesnt agree with her decicions...whats your imput?????? you can plz email me too at ......................stickler000@yahoo.com thx

persephone · 02-11-2005, 05:21 PM

Even if they broke up, I wouldn't want her back.

You say you were BOTH very much in love, maybe you were with her, but not her with you. If she had been in love with you then she would not have kicked you out or have been spending your money calling him all the time.

He's a cheating SOB and by the sound of things she is too... Don't waste your time waiting.

May change my sig to something like it's easier to give advice

lady cop · 02-11-2005, 06:18 PM

hello and welcome to FG...i am a bit confused at this missive, but from what i can ascertain it may be wise to move on...this is someone you can never trust again...and without trust, what is there?

jahamaa · 02-12-2005, 03:05 PM

I hope you will forgive me if I sound harsh here but grow a back bone boy

She made her choice now let her live with it.

The best relationship advice my Dad ever gave me was about not getting worked up when a relationship breaks up. As dad said "Son there's a whole new batch turning 18 every day". This advice works for both sexes.

You need to chalk this one up as a bad decision and move on.

minks · 02-14-2005, 05:00 PM

Trust broken once is trust lost forever, move on and don't look back. It looks like your Tess does not really know what she wants out of life yet. Don't let her take you down with her.

bratgirl365 · 02-14-2005, 09:22 PM

I agree, you need to move on. You deserve way better

jgirl · 02-21-2005, 10:11 AM

no you should cause if she really loved you she'd never go back with him. she would still be in your arms right now. you deserve better.

Peg · 02-21-2005, 10:28 AM

Why would you want her back?

cherrypie · 02-24-2005, 06:48 AM

If she loved you she would be with you and what sort of attitude to relationships is she teaching her little girl? Move on and chalk this one up as a lesson learnt. Good luck.

CARLA · 02-26-2005, 11:42 AM

Why would you ever want her back. It's obvious she can't be trusted ever. Run and don't give it a second thought..

AS LADYCOP SAID.. A RELATIONSHIP IS BUILT ON TRUST, WITHOUT IT YOU HAVE NO RELATIONSHIP..

02-11-2005, 05:13 PM	#1 (permalink)
stickler00000 Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 1	I lost her [will it last] I had been dating a a girl for 8 months we lived together with her 4 yr old daughter,who i loved dearly. Are first few months were great but then a guy she had previously dated before me had broken up with his fiance because he cheated on her. now my girlfriend had told me earliear that that guy had broken her heart they only dated 3 months or so.... Ok back to about 3 months ago they started talking again and it became more and more frequent.this is right after the 2 broke up [him and his fiance]...now tess is my girlfriend well ex now but she and him talked all the time while i was at work...found this out after i recieved my phone bill after she kicked me out on dec. 25......then they both got together instantly...now i want to know will this love that she thouhght she missed out on before work out or not??? they have been seeing each other now for 2 months,and remember that he broke it off with tess before to be with another women will he do the same again? And do you think she'll want to be with me again..someday? I need to let you know too that we were very in love and she had brought up marrage to me alot in the last few months of our relationship,i treated her with the ut most respect, and from what her family has always said about me is she never had anyone like you before,,,she always had assholes for boyfriends,and this new guy{ryan} is known as a [male shovanistic pig] and this guy is also her brothers best friend and a family friend to her family..Me and her brother still talk and he still hates his sister for what she did to me and doesnt agree with her decicions...whats your imput?????? you can plz email me too at ......................stickler000@yahoo.com thx
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02-11-2005, 05:21 PM	#2 (permalink)
persephone Senior Member Supporting Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: UK Posts: 669	Re: I lost her [will it last] Even if they broke up, I wouldn't want her back. You say you were BOTH very much in love, maybe you were with her, but not her with you. If she had been in love with you then she would not have kicked you out or have been spending your money calling him all the time. He's a cheating SOB and by the sound of things she is too... Don't waste your time waiting. May change my sig to something like it's easier to give advice __________________ Bad Girls have very high standards, but they love you even if you sometimes fall short.
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02-11-2005, 06:18 PM	#3 (permalink)
lady cop Banned Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: margaritaville Posts: 14,677	Re: I lost her [will it last] hello and welcome to FG...i am a bit confused at this missive, but from what i can ascertain it may be wise to move on...this is someone you can never trust again...and without trust, what is there?
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02-12-2005, 03:05 PM	#4 (permalink)
jahamaa Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 322	Re: I lost her [will it last] I hope you will forgive me if I sound harsh here but grow a back bone boy She made her choice now let her live with it. The best relationship advice my Dad ever gave me was about not getting worked up when a relationship breaks up. As dad said "Son there's a whole new batch turning 18 every day". This advice works for both sexes. You need to chalk this one up as a bad decision and move on.
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02-14-2005, 05:00 PM	#5 (permalink)
minks superstar Supporting Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: igloo apparently Posts: 23,433	Re: I lost her [will it last] Trust broken once is trust lost forever, move on and don't look back. It looks like your Tess does not really know what she wants out of life yet. Don't let her take you down with her. __________________ “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” Dr. Seuss
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02-14-2005, 09:22 PM	#6 (permalink)
bratgirl365 Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 14	Re: I lost her [will it last] I agree, you need to move on. You deserve way better
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02-21-2005, 10:11 AM	#7 (permalink)
jgirl Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 1	Re: I lost her [will it last] no you should cause if she really loved you she'd never go back with him. she would still be in your arms right now. you deserve better.
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02-21-2005, 10:28 AM	#8 (permalink)
Peg American and Proud Of It! Supporting Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Ohio Posts: 5,180	Re: I lost her [will it last] Why would you want her back? __________________
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02-24-2005, 06:48 AM	#9 (permalink)
cherrypie Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Worcestershire, England Posts: 18	Re: I lost her [will it last] If she loved you she would be with you and what sort of attitude to relationships is she teaching her little girl? Move on and chalk this one up as a lesson learnt. Good luck.
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02-26-2005, 11:42 AM	#10 (permalink)
CARLA ALOHA..!! Supporting Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: San Diego, California (Native born and raised) Posts: 8,382	Re: I lost her [will it last] Why would you ever want her back. It's obvious she can't be trusted ever. Run and don't give it a second thought.. AS LADYCOP SAID.. A RELATIONSHIP IS BUILT ON TRUST, WITHOUT IT YOU HAVE NO RELATIONSHIP.. __________________ ALOHA!! MOTTO TO LIVE BY: "Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, martini in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming. WOO HOO!!, what a ride!!!"
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