Shock......or nothing!!!

[Florrie]

Hypothetically
How would people here feel if they suddenly found out they were not who they thought they were?.
If you suddenly discovered that the name on your birth cert was different than the name you had used all your life, and the place /county where you thought you were born was not correct.
Would you be shocked or................................? WHAT!!!

[capt_buzzard]

I alway's had a sneaky feeling that I was a son of the Archbishop of Dublin, and that they had opus dei erased all known knowledge of same.

[valerie]

I would be really, really shocked... especially since I and my 3 siblings
look so MUCH like my father... I used to tease Mom and say I knew my
daddy wasn't the mailman!

Are you okay? Did this just happen to you? Do you need a hug?

[Florrie]

.....I do.

[minks]

Originally Posted by Florrie

Hypothetically
How would people here feel if they suddenly found out they were not who they thought they were?.
If you suddenly discovered that the name on your birth cert was different than the name you had used all your life, and the place /county where you thought you were born was not correct.
Would you be shocked or................................? WHAT!!!

Interesting......
I dunno I think it would be rather shocking. But I think it would be interesting I mean you are always going to be who you are, you didn't live this long to be anything else. I think it would be cause for some investigation and see what comes about. I like a mystery. But that is just me personally.
Do enlighten us, how did this all come about??

[Beth]

I was shocked before, lied to from birth about my father.

Anyway, if I discovered I was really an heiress, I would be estactic. Otherwise, knowing I really was born with other parents, name, etc. would not change who I am.

I would be thrilled to learn I was born in another nation, dual citizenship rocks!, but would be really pissed to realize my dreams of being President were dashed away on the annuls of deceit.

[koan]

I think the amount of deception I have already experienced would reduce the amount of shock I would feel. We recreate ourselves every day. If that recreation is consistent with yesterday it is likely to be consistent with tomorrow. We choose our friends not our family. I consider my friends to be my family and if family of origin are friends then they remain family the same as they always were.

[Beth]

Originally Posted by koan

I think the amount of deception I have already experienced would reduce the amount of shock I would feel.

I think I would be the same way. Honestly, I am no longer suprised to find that I have been deceived by things. If my mom was not really my birth mother, she would still remain my mum., and so on, and so forth. But I can deeply sympathize with people who find out things are not really as they seem. When I was told in a most hateful way that the man who was supposed to be my dad was not really my dad, I felt uprooted. I felt a desperate desire to understand who I was, but my mother would not tell me who my real father was. It was very selfish on her part. When I finally did discover who my father was, he died from AIDS before I had ever met him. I sometimes still get bothered by the loss of being denied the oportunity to know who I came from while I still had the chance.

Later I found that that really does not make who I am and that I must look internally to find who I am, rather than look to external sources to find my identity. Sometimes I still struggle. My little bit of deception was difficult enough to trudge through, as I said, I do deeply sympathise with people dealing with deception.


Kensloft, you get to celebrate two birthdays? I can understand both the frustration and fun of that. I would try to milk it, as well.

[valerie]

I'm so sorry, Florrie. I hope the best for you to recover from this
shock.

Take a little time for yourself and talk to us when you need to. I
think you'll be alright, hun, I really do.

And here's another coupla hugs:

[Beth]

Originally Posted by Florrie

.....I do.

Somehow I missed this post. I'm really hurry you had to experience this. I imagine you must be overwhelmed with emotions. I'm sorry.