What do women want?

[plazul]

We've been talking about this issue ever since Sigmund Freud, the father of modern male chauvinism, first posed the question as an exasperated psychotherapist.

But seriously, many men, myself included, go through much of their lives never really understanding the female mind, or the female body for that matter. We've been raised on myths about the "weaker sex" and the strategies we devise for living with women often blow up in our faces.

If you're a woman, or a man with some insight to offer, what, in your view , are the most common mistakes that men make in relationships and what are the most common misconceptions that men have about women?

[jwolf7722]

i honestly dont think we will ever know what they want. everyone women is different in there own way. its so hard to figure out what women (in general) want. i say most women are just wanting a good guy. but like i said i think it depends on the women and there characteristics.

[plazul]

Yeah, you kind of make my point for me. Most of us don't know where to start.

I don't mean to make a broad generalization (bad pun) about women but they do have common complaints about male behavior. Define "good guy." I thought I was in that category until my recently departed significant other made me out to be a selfish, uncaring, scoundrel who ought to be strung up by his cajones to suffer a slow and painful death.


Geez, you think you know somebody and then they turn on you like some maniacal ax murderer.

[jwolf7722]

they usually want a guy that is perfect. i know what you mean about them changing dramatically. i have had that done to me alot. its like they have multiple personalities sometimes. but i to do that sometimes change all of the sudden. i think my big point was all women are different and want different things. its hard to sit down and say well women want this when most women are very different.

[jayboy]

I believe the creator had a sick sense of humor when he took that rib and gave each a mate. But he did advise not to touch that apple. So the way I see it is, it's our own fault. We had it good and as my main man said, “stupid is as stupid does”, man blew it. By his actions he agreed then never to be in Paradise again. What we live today is all part of that monumental screw up. He wanted it to work and he wanted it in Paradise but by his rules.

A movement started about 10 years ago in NOW when one wrote all male female sex is rape. I have reason to believe by threads and my life the movement is huge and growing. A disappointed woman can be an awesome vindictive thing and this action will end in some sort of hell on earth

There was a time when my libido was healthy I would figuratively kill to be next to a beautiful woman ( beauty in or out by the beholder) I learned too late I know absolutely nothing about the that gender or what they want so I just gave up. Pity. What can I say?

[Tombstone]

I think each woman is different as well. I think there are several underlying things that each of us (men/women) look for: companionship, love, understanding, being there, friendship.

I think a large part of a successful relationship is luck. Luck on finding the "right" person. Someone who will stay your friend for a lifetime. What a daunting task!

If you are lucky enough to have found this right person, then usually, both of you will weather the tough times and work hard at keeping things going well. It only takes one person to ruin a relationship. You can't save anything if the other decides they want to "walk away."

It's a fingernail biter for those who are looking for a mate!

[maritori]

Wow!! What a big question. Almost as big as what is the meaning of life??? I can't tell you what all women want, but I can tell you what a good woman wants! A good woman wants a man who will cherish her and make her feel special. She longs for romantic kisses even after you've been married for years and years and years. Women want the fairy tale. Open the car door, hug her in the mornings, in the afternoons and at night. All women love to cuddle. We might not like to snuggle all night, but we all enjoy cuddling. Touch her hand or hold her hand as you take a walk, when you sit in the movies, when you are on your sofa watching television, or as you lie in bed at night before you sleep. Good women want to be treated like a lady, and know that they are number one in their man's eyes. Women actually want simple things. We are not as complicated as men think. We just want to be loved and feel safe. We all want a Prince Charming, and you don't have to be Royalty to be that Prince Charming. You also don't have to be rich. Just go out of your way to let your special lady know just how special she is. And last but not least, women want unconditional love as we are so good at returning it when it is there for us too.

[jayboy]

“a successful relationship is luck. Luck on finding the "right" person. Someone who will stay your friend for a lifetime.”

Amen. The keys are, luck, right and friend for life. That’s why I quit. It’s about my luck lately. My ex father and mother-in law had one of these perfect associations. She was the personification of sadism and he a died in the wool masochistic slob, but a great guy. They fulfilled each other’s needs and had a great lasting life. Not necessarily my way though. I had the good fortune to be associated with a Guy who was a Fire Marshal with the strength of an ox. When his wife passed he slowly wasted until the man we all knew had no identity. That was what I was looking for in a marriage not the wasting but the association. I just didn’t know how to choose the right friendship.

[anastrophe]

there are two very interesting books that i read many years ago that try to answer these questions. The books are entitled "He" and "She", written by Robert A. Johnson many years ago - checking - wow, "He" was published in 1974, and "She" was published in 1977. And I just checked on amazon, both are still in print, along with another called "We".


they're very slim little books, each under a hundred pages. but they are really illuminating. highly recommended.

[jwolf7722]

sounds like i have another book to pick up after i finish against all enemies
thanks for the recommendation