Friend

[maritori]

In our lifetime we will have many acquaintances, but few that we can call a true friend. We are lucky to find one true friend and blessed if we find two. But rarely will you ever find more than two friends in your lifetime. A friend is someone that you can pick up the phone even after years of noncontact and pick right back up where you left off. A friend is someone you can tell anything to and whether they agree with you or not, they stand beside you. A true friend does judge you and does not tell your secrets nor sell you out. A friend is someone who never sees you or your problems as an inconvenience.

[jayboy]

Where does one find such a person?

[maritori]

Hello.

That's what I'm talking about exactly - you don't just find one, they find you. There are few and I think most everyone finds at least one in their lifetime, but they are few and far between. I honestly believe that to find one though, first you must be one.

[KittylovingBlond]

I agree that you need to be a friend before you can find one, but even then it's hard to do. I have all but given up on friends in the past few years because it's so difficult to find someone who is willing to put time and effort into a long-term friendship. I have "friends" who come and go, and we remain friends, but that I wouldn't confide in or count on for anything. I suppose they would be considered acquaintances...

I always think of it like, when it comes right down to it, who is going to be there through it all? Not many. I could never understand why when I was loyal and honest to others, they did not return the favor. I still have a hard time coping with the fact that almost no one I know can be counted on for the simplist things like showing up, and showing up on time! People are so flaky nowadays that we just concentrate on number one and let everyone else pick up the slack! It's such a self-centered society we live in, you know?

That's why I want to move south- I hear people are nice down there.

[petro]

I totally agree with you. This has been my experience, especially of late. It is so sad when you put forth so much time and effort and others just don't. It is not important to them because they are so self-centered. It would be so nice to just have a friend who you could talk to about anything and really get into some deep conversations and not worry about how they might get offended if you have differing views. A friend is that and someone you can just laugh with and feel comfortable with and most importantly, feel really good inside after having been with that person. That is hard to find!

[ilona17]

i will share with you the most amazing story of true friendship that i have expirienced in my years of growing up. My mother who is now in her 50's has had a friend since they were both in primary school. Although going their own way's marrying having kids they remain friends even after losing contact. My mother moved to holland to marry my dad and lived they're for twenty one years. my parents got a divorce and now we live in the uk and mum and her friend look like they have never beign apart and its like i have two mothers. dont think they're always perfect i mean no relatoinship is or ever will be perfect cuz humans all have faulghts but when they argue one of them always says sorry and they make up to me thats wot true friendship is. i have friends but one day i hope im blessed enough to have a friend like she's got!

[petro]

That is an amazing story for sure. I hope to also be lucky enough to find such a friend.

[Tinseltoes]

I have three wonderful female friends and also a kind and loving husband. These 4 relationships are hard work, as I have to maintain them with my time and money. They have to do the same. You must keep in contact and be apart of their lives and visa versa. I'm never really convinced by 'oh, we haven't spoken for years, but I know if I ever needed her she would come to my aid, and when we talk its like we have never been apart' That's called catching up with each other. How can that be friendship if they have no feeling for your day to day reality.

One thing that has really struck me over the years though is the 'Kindness of Strangers'. I am amazed how people who know nothing about you will move heaven and earth to help you if they can.

Anyway, what I think I'm trying to say is when you do become friends with someone, it is important to remain in their lives, and become important to them. That's when the friendship will be returned.

I have 2 wonderful friends.. One being my soon to be husband.. ( 3 more days) & the other being someone I have known since elementry.. I thank GOD everyday for them.

[along-for-the-ride]

Originally Posted by maritori

In our lifetime we will have many acquaintances, but few that we can call a true friend. We are lucky to find one true friend and blessed if we find two. But rarely will you ever find more than two friends in your lifetime. A friend is someone that you can pick up the phone even after years of noncontact and pick right back up where you left off. A friend is someone you can tell anything to and whether they agree with you or not, they stand beside you. A true friend does judge you and does not tell your secrets nor sell you out. A friend is someone who never sees you or your problems as an inconvenience.

I am lucky to have a sister like that. She is two years younger than I am, and we live over six hundred miles apart. But when we talk on the phone or e-mail, we just pick up where we left off and our conversations are always easy. I have two other sisters, but I only feel this way about this one. We have alot of history together and shared memories, and a few secrets.