I don't get this...

[David Hill]

Ok, I may not be a parent, or an adult, but why??

ok so here is the story: I was hanging out in the park with this girl one day and her friend came up about 10 minutes after we got there. So me and this girl are swinging on the swings and this kid goes and sits on a bench and pulls out a pack of cigs... I figured his brother or someone got them from him so ok... but later i found out his mom bought them for him. I repeat HIS MOM BOUGHT HIM THE CIGARETTES. I'm 16 and this kid was 15... why in HELL would his mom do this? She may seem cool to him but to me, it justs seems the mom doesn't love her son at all... This just amazes me by all means...

[SweetDarlin]

I'll assume his mom smokes. Maybe she thinks by giving them to him she will stop him from stealing or acquiring them in dangerous ways. She knows not what she does. But ignorance is no excuse.

There is no good reason for giving children cigarrettes... and it's against the law. *wink

[Clint]

I agree that ignorance is not and excuse. There can't be anyone alive today who doesn't know how dangerous cigarettes are. A mother who would buy them for her son doesn't know what love is or is not well mentally.

[orangesox1]

My daughter is 16 and smokes, as do all her friends, She has asked me a few times to buy them for her but I refuse. I have two student borders 17 and 18 whos mother smokes and buy them for her girls, I put it down to her not really understanding the danger in smoking and what it's doing to the girls because she also smokes.

If my daughter goes to a party and asks me to by drinks I do, because if I don't she'll drink what others give her and drink too much. By buying her drinks, I can then give her a lesson on the fact that this is plenty for her and if she drinks more than this she'll end up throwing. She is pretty good and returns home looking quite normal and not drunk.

I had a party for my 13 yr old son a couple of years ago,( no alcohol ) some of the girls went down the street at 6.30 for a walk, at 8.30 I had to deal with an irrate parent who had come to get his daughter who was blind drunk, I copped the blame for that from him and still don't speak to him. What happened was..

His daughter turned up here with money to buy alcohol, the girls went to one of the other girls mothers down the street and she bought loads of alcohol for them and I mean loads. they drank it secretly and his daughter 14 got totally drunk. He blamed me, however when the police went to charge the Mother she said she had given it to her daughter at home who had passed it on. I have never had another party.

[venus]

She is not doing herself or her son any favours..

She is in a way killing him herself...

some people

[Clint]

When my son was a senior in high school he was asked by the elementary school to talk to the students at an assembly. They wanted him to tell the kids how he made it through school without using alcohol, drugs or tobacco. I tell you this so you will know that I’m not just another naive parent who thinks their children didn’t do that stuff.

We talked to our children about the danger involved in drugs, alcohol and tobacco fairly frequently. We also let it be known that they were not permitted to use them and that if they did they would be disciplined for it. Now that they are adults, our children partake of adult beverages and as far as I know, they do it responsibly.

Giving children alcohol is a bad idea. They can’t think straight without it yet... let alone with it. Allowing them to smoke is......

[orangesox1]

Originally Posted by Clint

When my son was a senior in high school he was asked by the elementary school to talk to the students at an assembly. They wanted him to tell the kids how he made it through school without using alcohol, drugs or tobacco. I tell you this so you will know that I’m not just another naive parent who thinks their children didn’t do that stuff.

We talked to our children about the danger involved in drugs, alcohol and tobacco fairly frequently. We also let it be known that they were not permitted to use them and that if they did they would be disciplined for it. Now that they are adults, our children partake of adult beverages and as far as I know, they do it responsibly.

Giving children alcohol is a bad idea. They can’t think straight without it yet let... alone with it. Allowing them to smoke is......

That is what I would like ideally, but I know she will go to a party and drink everyone elses and that would scare me as I wouldn't know what was in the drinks or how much she would drink. Unfortunatly I can't stop her from going to a party as she will just tell me she is spending the night at a friends house and go from there.

I also find it extremly difficult raising teenages alone and would have loved for them to come from a home with a Father who could be a bit firmer with them than I am. I do my best and sometimes it doesn't seem to be good enough, but there still pretty good kids and have learned not to get drunk.There nowhere near as bad as I was at their age

[Clint]

Originally Posted by orangesox1

That is what I would like ideally, but I know she will go to a party and drink everyone elses and that would scare me as I wouldn't know what was in the drinks or how much she would drink. Unfortunatly I can't stop her from going to a party as she will just tell me she is spending the night at a friends house and go from there.

I also find it extremly difficult raising teenages alone and would have loved for them to come from a home with a Father who could be a bit firmer with them than I am. I do my best and sometimes it doesn't seem to be good enough, but there still pretty good kids and have learned not to get drunk.There nowhere near as bad as I was at their age

The single parent thing is tough. If we could all get our children to teach their children to improve on what they experienced growing up, it wouldn't take many generations before this world was a much better place. If your children are doing better than you did, then congratulations. I know mine did better than I did so maybe we are heading in the right direction.

[orangesox1]

Originally Posted by Clint

The single parent thing is tough. If we could all get our children to teach their children to improve on what they experienced growing up, it wouldn't take many generations before this world was a much better place. If your children are doing better than you did, then congratulations. I know mine did better than I did so maybe we are heading in the right direction.

Sometimes I'v wondered if the Stats on divorce will change because the children know the pain they went through and wouldn't want to put their children through it. But then staying together for the children sake is not always the best thing either.

[Clint]

Originally Posted by orangesox1

Sometimes I'v wondered if the Stats on divorce will change because the children know the pain they went through and wouldn't want to put their children through it. But then staying together for the children sake is not always the best thing either.

We have to hope they will. The difficulty will be in getting them the tools necessary to make good choices when they are looking for thier future mates. If they only could know somehow that passion doesn't equal love and that good looks don't equal sability and strength of character. I think it is essential for a single parents to expose thier children to the best possible examples. I think they sould get them around the kind of a family they would hope for their children as often as possible by carefully choosing their own friends and opportunities for fellowship.