My beautiful Ben

[Imladris]

I am so sorry that your family is suffering in this way. Cancer is the cruelest of diseases.

Do you have a childrens hospice near you? I know that they offer fantastic help and are not just a place to go to to die, they are a place for the whole family to be healed and helped.

I don't know how you feel but I have worked within the funeral industry for a number of years so I have had a lot of contact with the bereaved, I know that you are not at that point but in a way you are - the wonderful son you had has already gone to a degree and the pain you are feeling now is like a bereavement.

If you want to pm me please do so at any time even if you just want to let off steam. You will feel like you don't want to burden people sometimes but there will always be someone here who will listen.

[Elvira]

My heart is with you, as are my tears.....

Can I suggest that you get in contact with Cruise? They are trained in bereavement counselling, and whilst you are not bereaved in the traditional sense of the word you are grieving for the loss of your son's vitality and health.

They may be able to advise you on some coping mechanisms for now and certainly in the future....


http://www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/

[beautifulben'smum]

I have just logged on and am overwhelmed by all the replies. Thank you so much everybody for your kind words. It is great to know I have another outlet here on FG. I am crying but they are happy tears, knowing that people care. Thank you again. x