I Want To Share This

[Odie]

Originally Posted by scholle-kid

To One In Sorrow
Let me come in where you are weeping, friend,
And let me take your hand.
I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.
Let me come in--I would be very still beside you in your grief;
I would not bid you cease your weeping, friend,
Tears bring relief. Let me come in--and hold your hand,
For I have known a sorrow such as yours, And understand.

-Grace Noll Crowell


I wanted to share this with all the very special people here in The Garden , It is as close as I can come to describing the real support and true caring that is shown here from one to an other without any hesitation . It really is a comfort to know people like you all.

beautiful words.

[OpenMind]

Originally Posted by scholle-kid

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I feel when a man shows emotions during an emotional situation he is only doing what is healthy and natural. I worry more about a man, close to me ,that refuses to admit to or show 'un manly' emotions because then anger uaslly replaces those emotions and thats never a good thing.

Usually, for me, finding somewhere to be alone isn't a problem.

[OpenMind]

Originally Posted by oscar

OM..... we have been here before. As you know, i often talk in music and their words to save my own. Remember the song i posted for you a while back on your thread? Here it is again.

YouTube - Ugly Kid Joe - Cats In The Cradle

You have the precious gift of your beautiful little girl. Remember this song sent a chill up your spine?

Yes. I remember well that feeling. But there has been more than one occasion for me. My parents, some of my family, etc.

[OpenMind]

Originally Posted by mrsK

OM


I think it is great if a man can show emotion & cry.
Nothing wrong with it at all.
Men who hold in their emotions must suffer no end.

Thank you. I get it out in the end.

[oscar]

Originally Posted by OpenMind

Yes. I remember well that feeling. But there has been more than one occasion for me. My parents, some of my family, etc.

It's funny in that way that society believe's 'men don't suffer the same emotions as women'. My husband is probably one of the most sensitive people i have ever known. If the world had more, we wouldn't be in the mess we are now.
What i meant by adding that song again was that you have a chance to right the wrongs you have suffered in life in the new life of your daughter. One day when she's grown, she'll look back and remember every happy day with you and she will grow old knowing that you gave her every moment of your time as i look back on my father.




'The greatest gift you can give your child is your time not your money' My dad.

[OpenMind]

Originally Posted by oscar

It's funny in that way that society believe's 'men don't suffer the same emotions as women'. My husband is probably one of the most sensitive people i have ever known. If the world had more, we wouldn't be in the mess we are now.
What i meant by adding that song again was that you have a chance to right the wrongs you have suffered in life in the new life of your daughter. One day when she's grown, she'll look back and remember every happy day with you and she will grow old knowing that you gave her every moment of your time as i look back on my father.




'The greatest gift you can give your child is your time not your money' My dad.

I know, Oscar and I understand the meaning behind the song. For as long as it is within my power, I shall not let this happen to my daughter and me. If it is not in my power, all I can do is pray.

[oscar]

Originally Posted by OpenMind

I know, Oscar and I understand the meaning behind the song. For as long as it is within my power, I shall not let this happen to my daughter and me. If it is not in my power, all I can do is pray.

I won't go into details on here but some-one very close to me was in the same position as you. Whatever happens or how it turns out, if you are parted, she will come looking for you. You know yourself that our strongest memories are from a young age. These memories of her happy times with you will always be the strongest and what will bring her back to you. Never give her a bad memory and you will reap the rewards.

[OpenMind]

Originally Posted by oscar

I won't go into details on here but some-one very close to me was in the same position as you. Whatever happens or how it turns out, if you are parted, she will come looking for you. You know yourself that our strongest memories are from a young age. These memories of her happy times with you will always be the strongest and what will bring her back to you. Never give her a bad memory and you will reap the rewards.

In actual fact, I have no memory of what my Dad looks like. The memory of him was replaced by another man, an RAF man, who she married. I remember my Father's presence and that he made me happy but that is all. My experiences, however, gave me a low impression of myself and I never thought that I should look for my Father. To make it harder, his surname is very common.

[oscar]

Originally Posted by OpenMind

In actual fact, I have no memory of what my Dad looks like. The memory of him was replaced by another man, an RAF man, who she married. I remember my Father's presence and that he made me happy but that is all. My experiences, however, gave me a low impression of myself and I never thought that I should look for my Father. To make it harder, his surname is very common.

I could help you with that but not on here. There are ways through records. Yes, it takes a bit of time and searching but it's knowing who to approach first of all. Having said that..... it opens up a whole new arena of dissapointment and possibly resentment once contact has been made. It's not some-thing to go into lightly.

[OpenMind]

Originally Posted by oscar

I could help you with that but not on here. There are ways through records. Yes, it takes a bit of time and searching but it's knowing who to approach first of all. Having said that..... it opens up a whole new arena of dissapointment and possibly resentment once contact has been made. It's not some-thing to go into lightly.

I have wondered about that also. There is resentment on my part but I feel no anger. I believe he thought he was doing the best thing at the time. It would be nice to know more about my Father's side of the family. I would only contact him if he wanted this also. But I would also want something good to tell him. I'm not entirely sure but he must be at least 71 if he's still alive.
My concern for now is to get myself into a better position to be a good Father for my own daughter. This is more important to me now, that and fulfilling my purpose in life.