I Want To Share This

[scholle-kid]

To One In Sorrow
Let me come in where you are weeping, friend,
And let me take your hand.
I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.
Let me come in--I would be very still beside you in your grief;
I would not bid you cease your weeping, friend,
Tears bring relief. Let me come in--and hold your hand,
For I have known a sorrow such as yours, And understand.

-Grace Noll Crowell


I wanted to share this with all the very special people here in The Garden , It is as close as I can come to describing the real support and true caring that is shown here from one to an other without any hesitation . It really is a comfort to know people like you all.

[along-for-the-ride]

So true that people in sorrow do not need to feel all alone in their grief.

[fuzzywuzzy]

You just made me cry ...............................................tha nkyou

[oscar]

Originally Posted by scholle-kid

To One In Sorrow
Let me come in where you are weeping, friend,
And let me take your hand.
I, who have known a sorrow such as yours, can understand.
Let me come in--I would be very still beside you in your grief;
I would not bid you cease your weeping, friend,
Tears bring relief. Let me come in--and hold your hand,
For I have known a sorrow such as yours, And understand.

-Grace Noll Crowell


I wanted to share this with all the very special people here in The Garden , It is as close as I can come to describing the real support and true caring that is shown here from one to an other without any hesitation . It really is a comfort to know people like you all.

Beautifull words. Sometimes those of us who have lost can not emotionally discuss their feelings with those closest to us. I know i don't. I think it's a defence mechanism plus those closest to you are hurting as well. We fear that to show our distress in front of our closest one's, will upset them, so we don't do it. We log on here to what started as total strangers because it's so much easier to tell some-one here what we feel. They only see our words, not our faces or our tears. For eg, i just would not say to one of my sister's children 'Know what? I really missed your mum today' because i know they'd cry and i don't want to see them cry. So instead, i'll make a crap joke about the how often she pranged the car or something. When their deaths are un-fair, un-justified and un-timely, we also feel rage and anger that we can't vent on our closest, so we put on a smile and tell them we're OK. Well, sometimes we're not OK are we?
I also thank the members of Fg who have me the opportunity to speak a little of my lost family. It is some-thing we must all do and never stop doing. To speak of them a little each time we come here is to keep their memorie alive within us.

[Kathy Ellen]

Beautiful Scholle Thank you

[scholle-kid]

Oscar, you so hit the nail square on the head, When in a room with another person who misses and loved the one who's passed on, just as deeply and as true you , sometimes the feelings are to strong so a little happy memory is shared as someone is walking out the door ,


Thank you Kathy.

I came to a conclusion a while back about sharing grief online in a ' close knit' community' like The garden .
the grief is real i know it and you know it , without question, but you don't have to 'deal with my grief , so that leaves you to hold close the memories you or blessed with of your loved one and i can do the same with my memories , but, we aren't alone ,, I don't know if that makes any sense but after more then 6 years of lurking and joining grief support online sites that is a conclusion I have figured out.

[OpenMind]

Thoughtful words.
I can never release my grief until I am completely alone. It is as though I feel I am not supposed to draw attention to myself, to not be selfish and, being a man, I am not supposed to cry. Yet, I always feel as though I need someone just to hold me just as Grace offers to do in her words.

[scholle-kid]

Originally Posted by OpenMind

Thoughtful words.
I can never release my grief until I am completely alone. It is as though I feel I am not supposed to draw attention to myself, to not be selfish and, being a man, I am not supposed to cry. Yet, I always feel as though I need someone just to hold me just as Grace offers to do in her words.

((((((((((OpenMind))))))))))

I feel when a man shows emotions during an emotional situation he is only doing what is healthy and natural. I worry more about a man, close to me ,that refuses to admit to or show 'un manly' emotions because then anger uaslly replaces those emotions and thats never a good thing.

[oscar]

Originally Posted by OpenMind

Thoughtful words.
I can never release my grief until I am completely alone. It is as though I feel I am not supposed to draw attention to myself, to not be selfish and, being a man, I am not supposed to cry. Yet, I always feel as though I need someone just to hold me just as Grace offers to do in her words.

OM..... we have been here before. As you know, i often talk in music and their words to save my own. Remember the song i posted for you a while back on your thread? Here it is again.

YouTube - Ugly Kid Joe - Cats In The Cradle

You have the precious gift of your beautiful little girl. Remember this song sent a chill up your spine?

[mrsK]

Originally Posted by OpenMind

Thoughtful words.
I can never release my grief until I am completely alone. It is as though I feel I am not supposed to draw attention to myself, to not be selfish and, being a man, I am not supposed to cry. Yet, I always feel as though I need someone just to hold me just as Grace offers to do in her words.

OM


I think it is great if a man can show emotion & cry.
Nothing wrong with it at all.
Men who hold in their emotions must suffer no end.