Falling apart - Page 2

qsducks · 03-09-2009, 11:56 AM

I'll keep you in my prayers honey. I always do the sign of the cross on my chest when I hear these things.

along-for-the-ride · 03-09-2009, 02:35 PM

Thank you for sharing with us. I mean it. Remember you are not truly alone. You have friends here who do care about you.
Grieving is a process and we all have our own way of grieving. Anger is a part of it too. After my son died, I was angry that the world went on just like before. How dare it!
If I could, I would put my arms around you.

Rapunzel · 03-09-2009, 04:20 PM

Victoria I'm so sorry. You've been through so much and you've stayed so strong. Talk to people here and on the other recommended sites, you need to let your grief out, not bottle it up. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Victoria · 03-10-2009, 01:29 PM

Mum phoned this evening and Im shaking with anger the ex-wife asked if she could have some of his ashes to turn into a paperweight.

I think that must be the most obcene thing I have ever heard..I feel sick I know if I were there I would hit her how dare shhe even suggest such an awful thing..
words fail me

abbey · 03-10-2009, 01:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Victoria

Mum phoned this evening and Im shaking with anger the ex-wife asked if she could have some of his ashes to turn into a paperweight.

I think that must be the most obcene thing I have ever heard..I feel sick I know if I were there I would hit her how dare shhe even suggest such an awful thing..
words fail me

The cheeky insensitive cow!
I hope your mum told her to shove her suggestion where the sun dont shine.

Chezzie · 03-10-2009, 01:39 PM

I have no soothing words Victoria.

So so sorry

Sending positive healing beams to you and your family

OpenMind · 03-10-2009, 02:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Victoria

Mum phoned this evening and Im shaking with anger the ex-wife asked if she could have some of his ashes to turn into a paperweight.

I think that must be the most obcene thing I have ever heard..I feel sick I know if I were there I would hit her how dare shhe even suggest such an awful thing..
words fail me

Put her out of your mind, Victoria. Don't think about her or dwell on her. Let her cease to exist as anyone you know so that if her name is mentioned it would have the same reaction as a stranger's name. This way, she'll hurt you no more. She is inconsequential and has no meaning for you.

fuzzywuzzy · 03-10-2009, 04:38 PM

OR...............glue her photo to a puching bag and send it to your mum. And have your mum invite her around for a coffee so she can see it. No words even have to be spoken

Or.............stick a broom up her arse and turn her into a clothes line. ( I have lots of suggestions if you'd like to hear them?)

Make sure you get your anger out of your system Victoria, It's important for your own healing.

I'm so terribly sorry for your brothers death, from what you've written it's obviously devastated your family and it will take a long time to heal sweetheart. Try to get some support please ..................one day at a time.

Odie · 03-10-2009, 06:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Victoria

Mum phoned this evening and Im shaking with anger the ex-wife asked if she could have some of his ashes to turn into a paperweight.

I think that must be the most obcene thing I have ever heard..I feel sick I know if I were there I would hit her how dare shhe even suggest such an awful thing..
words fail me

try if you can to put her out of your mind...she is not worth the ground she stands on.

you have gone through enough.....its time for you now.

03-09-2009, 11:56 AM	#11 (permalink)
qsducks Senior Member Supporting Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Philadelphia, PA Posts: 32,233	Re: Falling apart I'll keep you in my prayers honey. I always do the sign of the cross on my chest when I hear these things. __________________
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03-09-2009, 02:35 PM	#12 (permalink)
along-for-the-ride Senior Member Supporting Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: on the road of life Posts: 6,162	Re: Falling apart Thank you for sharing with us. I mean it. Remember you are not truly alone. You have friends here who do care about you. Grieving is a process and we all have our own way of grieving. Anger is a part of it too. After my son died, I was angry that the world went on just like before. How dare it! If I could, I would put my arms around you. __________________ Life is a Highway. Let's share the Commute.
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03-09-2009, 04:20 PM	#13 (permalink)
Rapunzel Black sheep again! Supporting Member Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 5,558	Re: Falling apart Victoria I'm so sorry. You've been through so much and you've stayed so strong. Talk to people here and on the other recommended sites, you need to let your grief out, not bottle it up. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. __________________
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03-10-2009, 01:29 PM	#14 (permalink)
Victoria Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Netherlands Posts: 721	Re: Falling apart Mum phoned this evening and Im shaking with anger the ex-wife asked if she could have some of his ashes to turn into a paperweight. I think that must be the most obcene thing I have ever heard..I feel sick I know if I were there I would hit her how dare shhe even suggest such an awful thing.. words fail me
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03-10-2009, 01:39 PM	#16 (permalink)
Chezzie Senior Member Supporting Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 16,536	Re: Falling apart I have no soothing words Victoria. So so sorry Sending positive healing beams to you and your family
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03-10-2009, 04:38 PM	#18 (permalink)
fuzzywuzzy Senior Member Supporting Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: victoria Posts: 1,698	Re: Falling apart OR...............glue her photo to a puching bag and send it to your mum. And have your mum invite her around for a coffee so she can see it. No words even have to be spoken Or.............stick a broom up her arse and turn her into a clothes line. ( I have lots of suggestions if you'd like to hear them?) Make sure you get your anger out of your system Victoria, It's important for your own healing. I'm so terribly sorry for your brothers death, from what you've written it's obviously devastated your family and it will take a long time to heal sweetheart. Try to get some support please ..................one day at a time. __________________ "It requires strength of character to act upon one's ideas; it requires no less strength of character to resist being seduced by them." "But if I hurt you? I'd make wine from your tears"
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