<![CDATA[ForumGarden - Friends, Relationships, & Advice]]> http://www.forumgarden.com/forums Need help? Ask for it. Serious Discussions Only. en Sat, 21 Nov 2009 00:08:47 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.forumgarden.com/forums/images/misc/rss.jpg <![CDATA[ForumGarden - Friends, Relationships, & Advice]]> http://www.forumgarden.com/forums Three Little Words http://www.forumgarden.com/forums/friends-relationships-advice/48974-three-little-words.html Wed, 18 Nov 2009 01:20:32 GMT ----------------------------------------------------------------------------
The Most Powerful Three Words
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The following three-word phrases can enrich every relationship. They are very powerful.

I'll Be There
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase " I'll be there. " Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we're truly present for other people, important things happen to them & us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.


I Miss You

Perhaps more marriages could be saved & strengthened if couples simply & sincerely say to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired & loved. Consider how ecstatic you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."


I Respect You / I Trust You

Respect and trust is another way of showing love. It conveys the feeling that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds & become close friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships


Maybe You're Right

This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed emotions. The flip side to "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting maybe "I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have a heated argument with someone, all you do is cement the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not change their stance and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to further explore the subject, in which you may then have the opportunity to get your view across in a more rational manner.


Please Forgive Me

Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.


I Thank You

Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.


Count On Me

A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can count on me."


Let Me Help

The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and help.


Go For It

We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how weird they seem to you. Everyone has dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to "go for it."


I Love You

Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words "I love you."


-- Author Unknown--


The human language can be a powerful thing. Not in it's abilty to be loud and commanding, but in it's abilty to comfort, to share tender emotions, to soothe, to convey a thought or desire.

How often have we spoken any of the above three letter words?
When was the last time?

:)
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]]> along-for-the-ride http://www.forumgarden.com/forums/friends-relationships-advice/48974-three-little-words.html Born too soon http://www.forumgarden.com/forums/friends-relationships-advice/48840-born-too-soon.html Mon, 09 Nov 2009 20:12:47 GMT Not sure I should be watching this, if anything can reduce me to tears in seconds it's a programme like this, heartbreaking :-1 ]]> Betty Boop http://www.forumgarden.com/forums/friends-relationships-advice/48840-born-too-soon.html Married Older Woman/Single Younger Man http://www.forumgarden.com/forums/friends-relationships-advice/48789-married-older-woman-single-younger-man.html Fri, 06 Nov 2009 16:32:19 GMT Quick background. Im 51, grew up with an absent alcoholic dad. Thank god my mother had the strength to get out. I vowed never to let my kids grow up without a dad because as a little girl I longed for that. So as we all know history repeats itselfs and I am married to an alcoholic who kicked... Quick background. Im 51, grew up with an absent alcoholic dad. Thank god my mother had the strength to get out. I vowed never to let my kids grow up without a dad because as a little girl I longed for that. So as we all know history repeats itselfs and I am married to an alcoholic who kicked up a notch to also being a drug user. My daughter is an adult now and is out on her own. Looking back I realize I should have left years ago as she has issues of her own which I feel are directly linked to his drinking, my weakness to leave and stubborness because I wanted her to have her dad in her life since I never had my dad that was big for me. Was a def mistake staying with her father. We have been married over 25 years and have a thriving business together. Another reason its hard to leave. Our marriage is basically sexless since I cannot bring myself to be with a drooling drunk. He is not or never has been physically abusive, but def verbal and certainly emotional. His daily drunkeness is intolerable and he constantly babbles about nothing for hours on end, its painful to be around daily.

Last spring I met a man who is 14 years my junior, we had a business deal going that eventually fell through but we remained in touch through emails. During that time he asked me to lunch and to go here and there, which I did. I really liked talking to someone who is coherent, intelligent and has it going on. We became friends and the relationship has progressed to a physical one during the last few months. I see him when I can, I love being with him. He makes me feel alive and appreciated. I know what I am doing is wrong. The strange thing is that the first time it happened I was consumed with guilt until my husband came home with his daily dose of booze, which consists of 2 to 3 bottles of wine a night. After that I just go with my heart and it tells me to go see my guy. I have no guilt, what does that make me? I know this new situation wont amount to anything. He is younger and has told me he def wants a family and I certainly will not have any more children. I also feel his parents would never accept the relationship and I cant blame them at all. We dont speak about the relationship (if thats what its even called, I call it an affair of the heart) or about what will happen in the future. Its just about the time we have when we are together, its glorious. When I see him I just lose all my stress and fall into his arms and its wonderful. When I come home and see my husband I tense up and cringe. I want to leave and its not about leaving because of this new man. Ive wanted to leave for years, never had the courage and I honestly dont think I have the courage now. I know I cant keep going on like this and Im not really asking for an answer. Im wondering your thoughts on this situation. Like I said, I know what I am doing is very wrong and my husband prob doesnt deserve it but from all his drinking and drugging just pushes me away and I really dont like being near him at all. Its very difficult for me to leave since my job is at his business and could be difficult for me to get another job at that payscale. I have been saving money and have a significant amout stashed. If anyone has any thoughts bad or good, please share them with me. I appreciate all you do! ]]> pccs http://www.forumgarden.com/forums/friends-relationships-advice/48789-married-older-woman-single-younger-man.html Sex Personality Test http://www.forumgarden.com/forums/friends-relationships-advice/48747-sex-personality-test.html Thu, 05 Nov 2009 13:07:53 GMT About Sex Personality
Different strokes for different folks; it's a common truth that applies not only to every day life and habits, but also to the secretive world of the bedroom. What starts one person's engines may repulse another, and everyone expresses the natural human need for sexual intimacy in a unique and individual way. That's the beauty of mankind - we are not homogeneous robots. Just as we love and communicate with others in different ways, so we bring diverse styles with us into the sack. These approaches to sex stem from a wide range of factors; how in touch we are with our sensual side, the way we learned about sex as we grew up, our moral and religious beliefs, the strength of our need to express ourselves sexually and the physical relationships we've had in the past. All this is to say that there is no right or wrong way to be. What is important is being satisfied with the way you are and accepting your uniqueness.

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Please share your results! :) ]]> Jazzy http://www.forumgarden.com/forums/friends-relationships-advice/48747-sex-personality-test.html Can Long Distance Relationships Survive? http://www.forumgarden.com/forums/friends-relationships-advice/48746-can-long-distance-relationships-survive.html Thu, 05 Nov 2009 12:54:12 GMT A long-distance relationship or LDR is typically an intimate relationship that takes place when the partners are separated by a considerable distance. Before the popularity of internet dating, long-distance relationships were not as common but were certainly in existence and were a successful way... A long-distance relationship or LDR is typically an intimate relationship that takes place when the partners are separated by a considerable distance. Before the popularity of internet dating, long-distance relationships were not as common but were certainly in existence and were a successful way of keeping a relationship flourishing over distance. But we’ve come a long way from the time that the only communication between long distance lovers was telephone or corresponding via mail. With the help of the Internet, long distance relationships have exploded in popularity as they become easier to sustain with the use of modern technology. Technologies including cell phones, e-mail , online chatting and web cams have made it possible to keep in touch.

In your opinion, do long distance or LDR relationships have a survival rate? Are they "real" relationships? ]]> Jazzy http://www.forumgarden.com/forums/friends-relationships-advice/48746-can-long-distance-relationships-survive.html <![CDATA[confused by my ex's behaviour]]> http://www.forumgarden.com/forums/friends-relationships-advice/48653-confused-my-exs-behaviour.html Thu, 29 Oct 2009 22:18:12 GMT I ended a 7 year relationship 4 weeks ago as i suspected my partner was having an affair, 2 weeks after we split he addmitted that he was having feelings for another woman at work and they had disscussed there feeling for one another but no sexuall contact happen untill after we had split up. He is... I ended a 7 year relationship 4 weeks ago as i suspected my partner was having an affair, 2 weeks after we split he addmitted that he was having feelings for another woman at work and they had disscussed there feeling for one another but no sexuall contact happen untill after we had split up. He is now dating this woman who has left her husband.
We have a 18 month old son together and my ex would call every day to see how he is , i found this very hard as i need some time and space from him, i told him i couldnt be his friend and the calls have now reduced . Things seemed to settle down as it had been quite a messy split with lots of arguing . I just wanted him to distance himself from me so i could recover and try to move on.
I was just starting to feel relaxed about the situation and starting to make plans for the future, when my ex came to the house a few days ago and saw my halloween costume for a party myself and my son are attending, it is a big event with around 100 people going. The costume is i nice figure hugging black dress, his face changed and i could tell he wasnt happy. We were both invited to this event as a couple and i did give him the option of going instead of me the week before, but he declined.
My ex then phoned me the next day to check if i was working the day after the party and if he was having our child, which he already knew, and made a point of telling me that he had changed his work commitments for the night of the party and would now be going out himself(not to the same event).
Later that day he contacted me again to see i we could get together to sort out some money matters. I agreed and he has arranged to come round the day of the party and invited himself for dinner. I was a little taken back by this but agreed as i didnt want to seem off hand with things just settling down .
I dont understand why he is doing this, he has a new woman in his life and during the breakup he even told me he hadnt loved me for the past two years. I am i little confused as to why he is behaving like this. is it just a normal reaction for a ex following a split. ]]> betrue http://www.forumgarden.com/forums/friends-relationships-advice/48653-confused-my-exs-behaviour.html