Dirty Rotten SOB

minks · 10-03-2008, 07:42 PM

Yesterday a good friend of the family committed suicide... He got into a spat with his wife, he drove about an hour out of town and he shot his self.

I know generally we mourn the death of our peers and family but I can't help the anger I feel.
He destroyed the family life he had, his wife and his 5 year old and his 3 year old no longer have their husband/father in their life.

My brother and his wife have to take an emergancy flight home to attend to his wife his family and his funeral.

He has ripped the hearts out of my brother and sis in law, my folks, myself, my children, our friends etc.

There is nothing more selfish than taking your life.

EP I wish I could have told you not to take your life... many people struggle and fight for their lives daily but you so freely took yours without regard to those you left behind.

May you rest in Peace as best as you can, and may the city police force still salute you and give you an honerable passing because I am not sure I can do so next week.

Omni_Skittles · 10-03-2008, 07:52 PM

I've often felt like this when people kill themselves... mostly i want to know how they lost hope...

Odie · 10-03-2008, 07:54 PM

so so sad and very selfish when you have family, there was help out there!

CARLA · 10-03-2008, 08:03 PM

Tragic for everyone left behind.

We had a young girl in the office try and OD on Monday we got to her in time she is only 23. I will never understand the desire to kill yourself. I feel for them and the demon's that torment them, but as was said there is help out there.

Odie · 10-03-2008, 08:06 PM

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Originally Posted by CARLA

Tragic for everyone left behind.

We had a young girl in the office try and OD on Monday we got to her in time she is only 23. I will never understand the desire to kill yourself. I feel for them and the demon's that torment them, but as was said there is help out there.

sometimes I think people are so destraut at those times, they are to far from help............they just have to much on their minds.

RedGlitter · 10-03-2008, 08:24 PM

We are so judgemental when it comes to this issue. I understand the anger but selfish? No. Tragic yes. But to blame them for the disharmony in their soul is not right in my opinion.

minks · 10-03-2008, 08:31 PM

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Originally Posted by RedGlitter

We are so judgemental when it comes to this issue. I understand the anger but selfish? No. Tragic yes. But to blame them for the disharmony in their soul is not right in my opinion.

too true Red maybe we just don't know how to feel in these kinds of situations it certainly is a mix of emotions.

Patsy Warnick · 10-03-2008, 09:51 PM

Minks
so sorry to hear - your going thru steps of mourning
just in a different order than what your usually accustomed.
Next week - you'll be sad, and the familiar mourning steps proceed.

I don't/won't choose a side involving a suicide.
I feel sorry for the souls with the need to go.
I feel sorry all family member's involved in the ripple affect of grief.
I place no blame

I'm so sorry - I've had to deal with the same - it's a roller coaster of emotions.

Support the Family - your's & friends? try to keep your opinions out of the mix of things - suicide's can get messy with speculation & under currant.

Take care of yourself
Patsy

abbey · 10-04-2008, 12:11 AM

How very sad and so so tragic.
You and everyone concerned have every right to feel anger but you'll find that eases.
I was so angry when my nieces husband hung himself, my heart ached for my sister who found him, she was just seconds too late to save him.
As the years have moved on I found that family feelings changed, from anger to guilt, pity then grief at the loss and waste of life.
My thoughts are with you at this very sad time.

Milly · 10-04-2008, 12:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RedGlitter

We are so judgemental when it comes to this issue. I understand the anger but selfish? No. Tragic yes. But to blame them for the disharmony in their soul is not right in my opinion.

Yes.... I agree with that too....

Minks - I'm so very sorry for your loss

...... xxx

10-03-2008, 07:42 PM	#1 (permalink)
minks superstar Supporting Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: igloo apparently Posts: 25,681	Dirty Rotten SOB Yesterday a good friend of the family committed suicide... He got into a spat with his wife, he drove about an hour out of town and he shot his self. I know generally we mourn the death of our peers and family but I can't help the anger I feel. He destroyed the family life he had, his wife and his 5 year old and his 3 year old no longer have their husband/father in their life. My brother and his wife have to take an emergancy flight home to attend to his wife his family and his funeral. He has ripped the hearts out of my brother and sis in law, my folks, myself, my children, our friends etc. There is nothing more selfish than taking your life. EP I wish I could have told you not to take your life... many people struggle and fight for their lives daily but you so freely took yours without regard to those you left behind. May you rest in Peace as best as you can, and may the city police force still salute you and give you an honerable passing because I am not sure I can do so next week. __________________ "Now you know us eh" John Furlong President of VANOC quoted saying at the closing ceremoy of the 2010 Winter Olympics
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10-03-2008, 07:52 PM	#2 (permalink)
Omni_Skittles the awesomest one :) Supporting Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Waxahachie, Texas Posts: 2,411	Re: Dirty Rotten SOB I've often felt like this when people kill themselves... mostly i want to know how they lost hope...
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10-03-2008, 07:54 PM	#3 (permalink)
Odie Senior Member Supporting Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Toronto, Ontario. Posts: 18,914	Re: Dirty Rotten SOB so so sad and very selfish when you have family, there was help out there! __________________ One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure its worth watching.
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10-03-2008, 08:03 PM	#4 (permalink)
CARLA ALOHA..!! Supporting Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: San Diego, California (Native born and raised) Posts: 11,726	Re: Dirty Rotten SOB Tragic for everyone left behind. We had a young girl in the office try and OD on Monday we got to her in time she is only 23. I will never understand the desire to kill yourself. I feel for them and the demon's that torment them, but as was said there is help out there. __________________ ALOHA!! MOTTO TO LIVE BY: "Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, champagne in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming. WOO HOO!!, what a ride!!!"
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10-03-2008, 08:24 PM	#6 (permalink)
RedGlitter Banned Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: In the middle of the Arizona desert Posts: 15,953	Re: Dirty Rotten SOB We are so judgemental when it comes to this issue. I understand the anger but selfish? No. Tragic yes. But to blame them for the disharmony in their soul is not right in my opinion.
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10-03-2008, 09:51 PM	#8 (permalink)
Patsy Warnick Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Golf Course Posts: 3,238	Re: Dirty Rotten SOB Minks so sorry to hear - your going thru steps of mourning just in a different order than what your usually accustomed. Next week - you'll be sad, and the familiar mourning steps proceed. I don't/won't choose a side involving a suicide. I feel sorry for the souls with the need to go. I feel sorry all family member's involved in the ripple affect of grief. I place no blame I'm so sorry - I've had to deal with the same - it's a roller coaster of emotions. Support the Family - your's & friends? try to keep your opinions out of the mix of things - suicide's can get messy with speculation & under currant. Take care of yourself Patsy
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10-04-2008, 12:11 AM	#9 (permalink)
abbey BORN TO BE A RED! Supporting Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: UP NORTH Posts: 15,362	Re: Dirty Rotten SOB How very sad and so so tragic. You and everyone concerned have every right to feel anger but you'll find that eases. I was so angry when my nieces husband hung himself, my heart ached for my sister who found him, she was just seconds too late to save him. As the years have moved on I found that family feelings changed, from anger to guilt, pity then grief at the loss and waste of life. My thoughts are with you at this very sad time.
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