Is Cyber Sex Adultery?

[fuzzy butt]

And how do people justify it as Adultery?

the reason I ask this is I've just found out someone had (not related to me) cyber sex text saved to their computer .................Now the excuse from the said husband was "I didn't respond to this person I just saved it" . Now does that then turn the cyber sex into pornography literture?

[Lon]

Originally Posted by fuzzy butt

And how do people justify it as Adultery?

the reason I ask this is I've just found out someone had (not related to me) cyber sex text saved to their computer .................Now the excuse from the said husband was "I didn't respond to this person I just saved it" . Now does that then turn the cyber sex into pornography literture?

Pornography for most normal adults and teens is nothing more than curiosity.
How do others do it? It's when it become an obsession, a daily consuming activity and the correspondence with others on pornographic sites that it can become dangerous to any relationship. Adultery??? That's a bit of a stretch.

[fuzzy butt]

But the cyber was sent to this person by the author.....................doesn't that mean there is a sort of relationship going on there?

[Lon]

Originally Posted by fuzzy butt

But the cyber was sent to this person by the author.....................doesn't that mean there is a sort of relationship going on there?

No more than someone saying that you and I are having a physical relationship.

[spot]

Originally Posted by fuzzy butt

But the cyber was sent to this person by the author.....................doesn't that mean there is a sort of relationship going on there?

There's a tutorial someplace for beginners, it has around a thousand lines of copy/paste endearments graded from gentle glow to explosive throb. If I remember right it's called "Help! That Woman I Had Cybersex With Is Really a Man!", I'm sure that ought to be enough to find it. But. - my point - with a page like that on the internet there can't be anything in the saved text that would titillate by comparison. The only reason for saving the message in question would be to go back and work out why it had been sent at a later date, in which case it was presumably unsolicited from a relative stranger.

[fuzzy butt]

Originally Posted by Lon

No more than someone saying that you and I are having a physical relationship.

Shhhhhhh you'll let the cat out of the bag.



oh the man knows the author of the text. i think you're misunderstanding me. It was a 'chat' text.

[koan]

It's a chance to explore where one's heart really stands. If someone indulges in cybersex while married and decides that they don't want to meet the other person then they discover that they are still attached to their marriage. If the person decides to try and meet the cybersex buddy then the problems in the marriage are severe. Either way, the discovery that the marriage is dysfunctional is an important one. Trying cybersex if a person finds him/herself tempted is a good way to explore their feelings and a lot less dangerous than secretly dating someone in person. Shoving the temptation away means it remains hidden inside, most likely festering.

[ur_next_ex]

[Patsy Warnick]

YES....
I say yes, if you have a question - ask your mate.
If one is spending alot of time on this cyber sex - there's a problem.

I've never looked - inquired ..?

Have you? OK, then - I don't think my mate would appreciate it..?
I wouldn't appreciate it.
Just ask me - will talk.. and if you don't have open communication - then you really don't have much of a relationship....?

Cyber Sex is no more than a pick up - being available..

yes - adultery - so why look, somethings wrong if you need to look/inquire..
Patsy

[mikeinie]

Is it adultery?

The answer I guess is if you are keeping a secret from your partner, or if you would not want them to see it. If that is the case then there is something wrong.