need someone elses point of view

stella · 02-28-2009, 06:00 PM

Hi everyone,
I am new to this forum and i really need to see this through someone elses eyes so here goes my question.
Recently i started volunteering in a law firm , i am in school for a legal assistant, now there is this one lawyer and well it goes from there...i go in only once a week as that is the day i have no classes...i noticed him on my first day, i was getting some files from the box under my desk ( i was sitting in my chair) , got the file and as i was lifting my head up to put the file on the desk i looked towards the door and i saw him , he was walking towards where my cubicle is and we just looked at each other, that made me weak in my knees , so later that day he passed by my cubicle numerous times, his assistant works 3 cubes down from me so when he is talking to her he has direct look at my cube so he goes to her million times a day( she is an old lady) and i can feel that he is looking, ( i am totaly shy and i am afraid to make another eye contact with him so i try to ignore him).He used to come to work around 11 am or noon and this time he came to work at 8: 30 same time i start. He walks by my cube many times in the day, keeps looking at me, if i go to lunch he comes to the cafeteria etc.
Around the time that i need to go he becomes very hyper and starts walking around again, then going around behind my desk or in front of my cube.
He saw me put my coat on and he left in his office, as i was going towards the door i had to pass by his office and he came out the door and we almost bumped into each other, we looked at each other and he said ( i am sorry) i said thats ok and i left.
I am 32 and he is in his 30 as well maybe mid to late 30's id say. We never said a word to one another other then that in alomost bumped part.
Is he trying something here or i am getting it all wrong.
What does it look like to all of you?

G#Gill · 02-28-2009, 06:11 PM

Hi Stella, welcome to Forum Garden !

Well all I can say is that it seems that the guy likes the look of you, but be careful. I suggest you ask around, maybe you have made some friends there or at least some that you chat to. Find out something about him, particularly if he's married, see what others think of the guy. Maybe he's the sort who does that sort of thing to any new girl who arrives on the scene. Maybe he is just shy, himself, and not sure how to approach you. I don't know what to suggest, except try to find important things out about him first, before you do anything else. Good luck Stella !

stella · 02-28-2009, 06:20 PM

Ty for your reply Gill, you know i have to agree with you, my first thought was is he doing this with other girls when they join, but i have to admit there are 2 other younger girls in the same side of the floor... rest of them are older and he only seems to be walking around my cube. I am afraid to ask any questions about him, i did make friends at job but i dont know if i can trust them since they have been with company for a long time, they may spill it out just to kiss up however i do have trust issues, and i dont wanna mess up at this because they are very large firm with a good reputation.

Patsy Warnick · 02-28-2009, 06:40 PM

Stella
He's definately flirting with you. and you both are attracted to eachother..?

Since your the "New Girl" on Campus, be cautious as G-Gill mentioned, and ingurie around to some you can confid in with creating gossip or trouble.

My honest gut feeling tells me: or just a scenario..?
He has a Significant Other - he's not faithful - your his next target.

The reason why I feel this is - he's going toooooo far out of his way to be noticed. Dig Me Yet..?

Most Young men - Gentlemen by now would approach with some conversation.

kinda weird to me - those kind of guys I avoid
No - I don't Dig Ya
Patsy

stella · 02-28-2009, 06:57 PM

yes i am definitely attracted to him, i do think about him alot and i really look forward to the day i go there..however i am being cautious as he is partner of the firm . If he is single with no wife or GF i wouldnt mind hooking up with him, however even if he has a GF i would definitely back off, i am not the type of person to break other ppl's relationships.

Patsy Warnick · 02-28-2009, 07:10 PM

Stella
My point here is - it's been sometime now where he should be comfortable enough to approach you with small talk. Certainly a man in a Partner Postion.

instead he's on a POGO Stick trying to keep track of you.

which is exactly why I feel he has a significant other.
it's like being on a leash & can or Should only look & don't touch, he POGO's..:wah

I don't like a Guy who goes out of his way to be noticed & noticed & noticed.
just talk Dude.
This Guy will always be a flirt - no female will be able to control his Leash.

Waste of time Guy
Patsy

Betty Boop · 02-28-2009, 07:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Patsy Warnick

Stella
My point here is - it's been sometime now where he should be comfortable enough to approach you with small talk. Certainly a man in a Partner Postion.

instead he's on a POGO Stick trying to keep track of you.

which is exactly why I feel he has a significant other.
it's like being on a leash & can or Should only look & don't touch, he POGO's..:wah

I don't like a Guy who goes out of his way to be noticed & noticed & noticed.
just talk Dude.
This Guy will always be a flirt - no female will be able to control his Leash.

Waste of time Guy
Patsy

Patsy makes sense, thats so true, on a pogo stick, I like that term.
Welcome to the garden Stella.

Nomad · 02-28-2009, 07:36 PM

The tension is too high. The passing by and not speaking has gone too far. Its become akward for him now. You need to make it easy for him to approach you. Just say hi and do that smile that girls do that makes our hearts flip upside down.

Patsy Warnick · 02-28-2009, 07:39 PM

No No No

Don't listen to Nomad...

You do not make it easy on him...

akward ??? he's on a Pogo Stick .. they already did the Bambi Smile & eye flutter.

no no no

Patsy

Nomad · 02-28-2009, 07:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Patsy Warnick

No No No

Don't listen to Nomad...

You do not make it easy on him...

akward ??? he's on a Pogo Stick .. they already did the Bambi Smile & eye flutter.

no no no

Patsy

Oh.
Im not a smooth operator.
I thought she said she couldnt make eye contact.
Maybe hes trying to find out if she knows hes alive.
Maybe cleavage is the way to go.
You can never go wrong with cleavage.

02-28-2009, 06:00 PM	#1 (permalink)
stella Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 14	need someone elses point of view Hi everyone, I am new to this forum and i really need to see this through someone elses eyes so here goes my question. Recently i started volunteering in a law firm , i am in school for a legal assistant, now there is this one lawyer and well it goes from there...i go in only once a week as that is the day i have no classes...i noticed him on my first day, i was getting some files from the box under my desk ( i was sitting in my chair) , got the file and as i was lifting my head up to put the file on the desk i looked towards the door and i saw him , he was walking towards where my cubicle is and we just looked at each other, that made me weak in my knees , so later that day he passed by my cubicle numerous times, his assistant works 3 cubes down from me so when he is talking to her he has direct look at my cube so he goes to her million times a day( she is an old lady) and i can feel that he is looking, ( i am totaly shy and i am afraid to make another eye contact with him so i try to ignore him).He used to come to work around 11 am or noon and this time he came to work at 8: 30 same time i start. He walks by my cube many times in the day, keeps looking at me, if i go to lunch he comes to the cafeteria etc. Around the time that i need to go he becomes very hyper and starts walking around again, then going around behind my desk or in front of my cube. He saw me put my coat on and he left in his office, as i was going towards the door i had to pass by his office and he came out the door and we almost bumped into each other, we looked at each other and he said ( i am sorry) i said thats ok and i left. I am 32 and he is in his 30 as well maybe mid to late 30's id say. We never said a word to one another other then that in alomost bumped part. Is he trying something here or i am getting it all wrong. What does it look like to all of you?
Local Time: 08:40 AM Local Date: 03-22-2010

02-28-2009, 06:11 PM	#2 (permalink)
G#Gill Recycled Teenager Supporting Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 9,131	Re: need someone elses point of view Hi Stella, welcome to Forum Garden ! Well all I can say is that it seems that the guy likes the look of you, but be careful. I suggest you ask around, maybe you have made some friends there or at least some that you chat to. Find out something about him, particularly if he's married, see what others think of the guy. Maybe he's the sort who does that sort of thing to any new girl who arrives on the scene. Maybe he is just shy, himself, and not sure how to approach you. I don't know what to suggest, except try to find important things out about him first, before you do anything else. Good luck Stella ! __________________ I'm a saga-lout, growing old disgracefully ! http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=HiwwOttHuv0
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02-28-2009, 06:20 PM	#3 (permalink)
stella Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 14	Re: need someone elses point of view Ty for your reply Gill, you know i have to agree with you, my first thought was is he doing this with other girls when they join, but i have to admit there are 2 other younger girls in the same side of the floor... rest of them are older and he only seems to be walking around my cube. I am afraid to ask any questions about him, i did make friends at job but i dont know if i can trust them since they have been with company for a long time, they may spill it out just to kiss up however i do have trust issues, and i dont wanna mess up at this because they are very large firm with a good reputation.
Local Time: 08:40 AM Local Date: 03-22-2010

02-28-2009, 06:40 PM	#4 (permalink)
Patsy Warnick Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Golf Course Posts: 3,238	Re: need someone elses point of view Stella He's definately flirting with you. and you both are attracted to eachother..? Since your the "New Girl" on Campus, be cautious as G-Gill mentioned, and ingurie around to some you can confid in with creating gossip or trouble. My honest gut feeling tells me: or just a scenario..? He has a Significant Other - he's not faithful - your his next target. The reason why I feel this is - he's going toooooo far out of his way to be noticed. Dig Me Yet..? Most Young men - Gentlemen by now would approach with some conversation. kinda weird to me - those kind of guys I avoid No - I don't Dig Ya Patsy
Local Time: 07:40 AM Local Date: 03-22-2010

02-28-2009, 06:57 PM	#5 (permalink)
stella Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 14	Re: need someone elses point of view yes i am definitely attracted to him, i do think about him alot and i really look forward to the day i go there..however i am being cautious as he is partner of the firm . If he is single with no wife or GF i wouldnt mind hooking up with him, however even if he has a GF i would definitely back off, i am not the type of person to break other ppl's relationships.
Local Time: 08:40 AM Local Date: 03-22-2010

02-28-2009, 07:10 PM	#6 (permalink)
Patsy Warnick Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Golf Course Posts: 3,238	Re: need someone elses point of view Stella My point here is - it's been sometime now where he should be comfortable enough to approach you with small talk. Certainly a man in a Partner Postion. instead he's on a POGO Stick trying to keep track of you. which is exactly why I feel he has a significant other. it's like being on a leash & can or Should only look & don't touch, he POGO's..:wah I don't like a Guy who goes out of his way to be noticed & noticed & noticed. just talk Dude. This Guy will always be a flirt - no female will be able to control his Leash. Waste of time Guy Patsy
Local Time: 07:40 AM Local Date: 03-22-2010

02-28-2009, 07:36 PM	#8 (permalink)
Nomad LIFE IS SHORT...LIVE HARD Supporting Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: LOOK BEHIND YOU Posts: 25,054	Re: need someone elses point of view The tension is too high. The passing by and not speaking has gone too far. Its become akward for him now. You need to make it easy for him to approach you. Just say hi and do that smile that girls do that makes our hearts flip upside down.
Local Time: 09:40 AM Local Date: 03-22-2010

02-28-2009, 07:39 PM	#9 (permalink)
Patsy Warnick Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Golf Course Posts: 3,238	Re: need someone elses point of view No No No Don't listen to Nomad... You do not make it easy on him... akward ??? he's on a Pogo Stick .. they already did the Bambi Smile & eye flutter. no no no Patsy
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