Nervous Breakdowns

[shelbell]

Originally Posted by almostfamous

Ignore most of my other reply... I had not seen this one yet.

There really aren't words to express how bad I think you're situation sucks and how I wish I could reach down and find some kind of solution or path to one at least for you.

I'm such a dang hippy at heart.... I wonder if alternative medicine might be a better approach?? Acupuncture therapy, herbal supplements like Raven suggested? With the supplements though ya need to double check with your primary care first because even herbal meds can alter your prescription ones.

You're in my prayers though, sometimes that is the only thing that can change things when we just release our control (or lack thereof) of the situation into His hands and trust a better day will come. (that being said, I mean no offense if you aren't a praying person... that just fell out of my mouth as it would have with any of my friends in RL)

I think your last paragraph is the most important. I get so wrapped up in everything going on, and I try to take it all on myself. It's so easy to forget the main thing in trying to deal with so much turmoil...."let go and let God". I need to spend more time praying and less time feeling for myself. Sometimes I just need reminders like this. Thank you Beth.

[shelbell]

Originally Posted by almostfamous

As Rob would say, I knew you'd figure it out if you argued with yourself about it enough

I love this!

[shelbell]

Thanks Patsy...wow, 30 yr old dying of a heart attack...kind of puts life in perspective. I do have kids, but the youngest is 17 so I don't have to worry about finding places for her to go, she does that by herself.

I don't think it's possible to explain our emotions you're right tho when you say it's like an out of body experience...it's surreal...it's not supposed to happen to us, it only happens to other people. It's really heartbreaking when my oldest grandson sees a picture and points "there's grandpa". He's not quite 5, but he'll only remember him in pictures and they were best buddies.

I try to find him when I sleep, but I haven't dreamt about him since shortly after he died...I guess my subconscious is still protecting me, even tho I wish I could see him in my dreams, I miss his face so much. I sure do sleep a lot tho and probably would never get out of bed if it weren't for my dogs and my turtles needing me.

Thanks for reaching out widow to widow to me. We did have 18 years together, but it wasn't nearly enough, but I'm still only 45. But you being widowed at 30, I'm sure you understand exactly what I mean...we could have had 50 years and it still wouldn't have been enough.

Thanks again Patsy.

[shelbell]

Beth, I'm so sorry, it seems like I've stolen your thread...I really had no intention of it. Thanks for letting me be a part of it.

[almostfamous]

Originally Posted by shelbell

Beth, I'm so sorry, it seems like I've stolen your thread...I really had no intention of it. Thanks for letting me be a part of it.

Honey, you have NOTHING to apologize for. I'm glad this has been a place for you to reach out too

[shelbell]

Originally Posted by almostfamous

Honey, you have NOTHING to apologize for. I'm glad this has been a place for you to reach out too

Thanks so much hun...some of this has really helped me feel not so alone.

[Nomad]

Im usually about 3 seconds away from a complete meltdown at any given moment. Well, only unless there are people around. I havent found a way to completely isolate myself yet but Im working on that.
I try keeping it together but if I feel like Ive been shitty to someone its important for me to go back soon afterwards and give them a hug, apologize and talk through it to settle things up. If you went way off the deep end perhaps you need to do some more damage control.
When a person gets kooky it can be pretty freaky for others. Everyones different.
See I took you for a total whackjob from the get go so you would have a hard time turning me upside down.
If your going to get your freak on maybe you could try acclimating people to "almostfamous world" That way they can brace themselves for your kooky self and expect some craziness once in awhile. In a nutshell if youre going to be loopy I think its important to really dive into the role. Lower peoples expectations.
Jump right in by making a statement. For Halloween you could drive a meat cleaver into the pumpkin you put out. Over night you'll be referred to as crazy meat cleaver lady.
I hope thats useful information for you.
As far as the wedding call your friend and discuss it.
You may or may not get what you want but sincerity is usually a welcome thing for most people.
On a footnote I personally have never met anyone who after getting to know them didnt come to realize theyre whack jobs too so have some fun with it.

[almostfamous]

Originally Posted by Nomad

Im usually about 3 seconds away from a complete meltdown at any given moment. Well, only unless there are people around. I havent found a way to completely isolate myself yet but Im working on that.
I try keeping it together but if I feel like Ive been shitty to someone its important for me to go back soon afterwards and give them a hug, apologize and talk through it to settle things up. If you went way off the deep end perhaps you need to do some more damage control.
When a person gets kooky it can be pretty freaky for others. Everyones different.
See I took you for a total whackjob from the get go so you would have a hard time turning me upside down.
If your going to get your freak on maybe you could try acclimating people to "almostfamous world" That way they can brace themselves for your kooky self and expect some craziness once in awhile. In a nutshell if youre going to be loopy I think its important to really dive into the role. Lower peoples expectations.
Jump right in by making a statement. For Halloween you could drive a meat cleaver into the pumpkin you put out. Over night you'll be referred to as crazy meat cleaver lady.
I hope thats useful information for you.
As far as the wedding call your friend and discuss it.
You may or may not get what you want but sincerity is usually a welcome thing for most people.
On a footnote I personally have never met anyone who after getting to know them didnt come to realize theyre whack jobs too so have some fun with it.

Good lord nomie I love your sillyass... see they all knew I was a whackjob to begin with but even I caught them off guard.... Jumping out of a car at 50ish mph in the middle of a busy street can freak anybody out. I, of course, don't personally remember what was going thru my mind to do it but remember walking down the sidewalk afterwards It was a rough time indeed but roughest on me. I've decided I've said all I can say or desire to say to them about it and it's their loss.

My neighbors may hate you for the meat cleaver idea though... of course I'm gonna have to do that now that you've embedded it into my almostloopy mind

[Patsy Warnick]

LOVE the MEAT CLEAVER idea - that's a must do Shelbell...!!

Give out pimple cream instead of candy

And jumping into this personality of being a "Crazy Lady " you could
work out alot of frustations. could be a real good thing.

Hug yourself Shel - this friends wedding thing - it's not so much she thinks your Crazy - inviting a young widow to a fun festive ceremony/occasion
well honey, that is putting a little glume in the air

and really - do you really want to be around all those people right now???
do you want them to give condolences at a wedding? do you want to hear they're sorry & & ..??
If this occasion is very important to you - you could always slip in the ceremony alittle late, sign the guest book, sit in the back, take your pics, smile alittle,
and avoid the reception, so then you can avoid the glume of condolences...

Your friend (what ever her reason was) is actually doing you a favor without the invite. you know you'll cry & you'll being remembering your wedding and everything will errupt inside you...
do you need it..??

Get the Cleaver
Love Ya
Patsy

[shelbell]

Originally Posted by almostfamous

Good lord nomie I love your sillyass... see they all knew I was a whackjob to begin with but even I caught them off guard.... Jumping out of a car at 50ish mph in the middle of a busy street can freak anybody out. I, of course, don't personally remember what was going thru my mind to do it but remember walking down the sidewalk afterwards It was a rough time indeed but roughest on me. I've decided I've said all I can say or desire to say to them about it and it's their loss.

My neighbors may hate you for the meat cleaver idea though... of course I'm gonna have to do that now that you've embedded it into my almostloopy mind

Jumping out of a car doing 50ish? How'd you live to walk down the sidewalk afterwards? I'm glad to see you've made a decision on your dilema, it's their loss to not have such a sweet lady there!