When Is The Line Crossed?

[24Hours]

In your opinion, when is the line crossed between a healthy use and enjoyment of an internet forum site and a dysfunctional or unhealthy use of it?

I suppose when you stop doing normal, real life things in favour of being on the net instead?

[CARLA]

I think we have experienced this all to often in the past month. I accept being part of the problem. Sometimes you just have to go at it, doesn't slove anything and usually never feels very good after the fact. Much like have a family fight that everyone walks out of the house, and isn't heard from for a week at least, and all feel very stupid for having argued to no avail.

I'm going back to my peace and love mode I like it a lot, kinda like the 60's all is good.

[Nomad]

Originally Posted by 24Hours

In your opinion, when is the line crossed between a healthy use and enjoyment of an internet forum site and a dysfunctional or unhealthy use of it?

Yer funny.

[guppy]

when you let a little bad afect the good you get out of the forum. as, in life, you can;t always please everybody. not everybody will always like you. if you let that get to you then you are to emotionally involved.

[Galbally]

Originally Posted by 24Hours

In your opinion, when is the line crossed between a healthy use and enjoyment of an internet forum site and a dysfunctional or unhealthy use of it?

24, I understand fully why you are bringing this up right now, but can we have a bit of a pause before the next round of ritual bloodletting begins?

Its a pertinent question, but seriously I think people are too emotional at the moment, after what was said yesterday, they need to calm down, its likely that this thread will just take up where the last one left off, so let sleeping dogs lie, (at least for tonight eh?). It was upsetting just reading that thread yesterday, mercifully the power went here at twelve so I missed most of it when it was happening, I hope it doesn't start again tonight, so I ask you honestly not to persue this right now.

Originally Posted by guppy

when you let a little bad afect the good you get out of the forum. as, in life, you can;t always please everybody. not everybody will always like you. if you let that get to you then you are to emotionally involved.

I agree. I'm making an effort to get back to the Pinky who arrived...the one who didn't give a toss what anyone else thought. That's the best attitude to have IMO.
It doesn't do to become too gullible.

[24Hours]

I suppose when you stop doing normal, real life things in favour of being on the net instead?

Hi Pinky, that's one .. there are many other red flags to me, some I have dibbled in myself! One that I see all the time are people who treat it like a drug, taking advantage of the distance between computers, getting off on putting down others for sport, to make themselves feel better - indicative of emotional dysfunction and needs not being met. They are often transparent to me and that is a common way I see the line crossed.

Most of them would never say that crap in person, even if they say they would. Online, they get to feel "big."

The internet can easly allow misery to prey on others, and in my mind, the line is crossed when obsession takes over as they expect others to care too much like they do.

What say you?

Originally Posted by 24Hours

Hi Pinky, that's one .. there are many other red flags to me, some I have dibbled in myself! One that I see all the time are people who treat it like a drug, taking advantage of the distance between computers, getting off on putting down others for sport, to make themselves feel better - indicative of emotional dysfunction and needs not being met. They are often transparent to me and that is a common way I see the line crossed.

Most of them would never say that crap in person, even if they say they would. Online, they get to feel "big."

The internet can easly allow misery to prey on others, and in my mind, the line is crossed when obsession takes over as they expect others to care too much like they do.

What say you?

Couldnt have put it better myself

Well of course I could but I wont....ahem

[CARLA]

You say what Mr. Nutman..