Conflict bewteen feeling and faith

iyaikone · 01-27-2005, 01:15 PM

A dissonance happens when a person in a romantic relationship makes a choice often detrimental to the heart because of a religious belief. Religion can drift people apart or bring them closer. The thing that i find intriguing is the fear that mobilize people to remain conservative to a religious belief despite the conflict with their heart. I find it hard to consume the fact that many today continue to choose a significant other because of a cherished belief.

If put one perspective, isn't it the same God we all believe in although named diffently?

Is there an alternative to this continuous conflict?

koan · 01-27-2005, 02:40 PM

I have found that religion can have a big impact on the long term success of a relationship. It may be a valid consideration. My ex-husband used to ridicule my spirituality as he was against all religion. This is an extreme scenario but it can be very important to some people. On the other hand, it can make for interesting debate as long as both parties respect the others beliefs.

Ted · 01-27-2005, 02:54 PM

Iyaikone

Some very good points. I agree that religion can be a force for bringing and keeping people together or the opposite. It is truly a shame.

Shalom
Ted

BabyRider · 01-27-2005, 03:12 PM

There is a "formula" for a successful relationship. If you and your partner can agree on 4 basic areas, you have a good chance for success: Religion, children, money, and in-laws. How accurate this formula is I don't know, but it makes sense. On the other hand, my grandparents were married for 65 years. My grandmother passed away about a year ago, still totally in love with my grandfather. He was a die-hard church-goer. In church every Saturday, constantly ministering to people. My grandma, however, rarely went to church. She had very different views on it, and I can probably count on one hand the number of times she went. And usually, that was only for significant occasions. A funeral, memorial, or when my grandpa was re-baptized. It was pretty interesting to see two people so diametrically opposed in their beliefs who loved each other so much.

LottomagicZ4941 · 01-27-2005, 03:44 PM

The Bibical view is that we are to be equally yoked as far as going into a marriage.

However Christians are not to divorce thier non christian partner if they are willing to remain in the marriage. Don't remember where the verses are that deals with this as far as location.

My wife is a younger christian then myself.

She has started reading the old testoment. I tried to get her to read the new testoment. It is kind of cute how she wants to start from the beginning.

Lotto
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01-27-2005, 01:15 PM	#1 (permalink)
iyaikone Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 4	Conflict bewteen feeling and faith A dissonance happens when a person in a romantic relationship makes a choice often detrimental to the heart because of a religious belief. Religion can drift people apart or bring them closer. The thing that i find intriguing is the fear that mobilize people to remain conservative to a religious belief despite the conflict with their heart. I find it hard to consume the fact that many today continue to choose a significant other because of a cherished belief. If put one perspective, isn't it the same God we all believe in although named diffently? Is there an alternative to this continuous conflict?
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01-27-2005, 02:40 PM	#2 (permalink)
koan anomaly Supporting Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Canada Posts: 12,879	Re: Conflict bewteen feeling and faith I have found that religion can have a big impact on the long term success of a relationship. It may be a valid consideration. My ex-husband used to ridicule my spirituality as he was against all religion. This is an extreme scenario but it can be very important to some people. On the other hand, it can make for interesting debate as long as both parties respect the others beliefs. __________________ Having the right to an opinion does not make your opinion right.
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01-27-2005, 02:54 PM	#3 (permalink)
Ted Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Gabriola Island BC Posts: 3,714	Re: Conflict bewteen feeling and faith Iyaikone Some very good points. I agree that religion can be a force for bringing and keeping people together or the opposite. It is truly a shame. Shalom Ted
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01-27-2005, 03:12 PM	#4 (permalink)
BabyRider Missin and LOVIN Bullet Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: My own private Hell Posts: 10,062	Re: Conflict bewteen feeling and faith There is a "formula" for a successful relationship. If you and your partner can agree on 4 basic areas, you have a good chance for success: Religion, children, money, and in-laws. How accurate this formula is I don't know, but it makes sense. On the other hand, my grandparents were married for 65 years. My grandmother passed away about a year ago, still totally in love with my grandfather. He was a die-hard church-goer. In church every Saturday, constantly ministering to people. My grandma, however, rarely went to church. She had very different views on it, and I can probably count on one hand the number of times she went. And usually, that was only for significant occasions. A funeral, memorial, or when my grandpa was re-baptized. It was pretty interesting to see two people so diametrically opposed in their beliefs who loved each other so much. __________________ I hope you cherish this sweet way of life, and I hope you know that it comes with a price. ~Darrel Worley~ Bullet's trial was a farce. Can I get an AMEN????? We won't be punished for our sins, but BY them.
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LottomagicZ4941 Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Colorado Posts: 749	Re: Conflict bewteen feeling and faith The Bibical view is that we are to be equally yoked as far as going into a marriage. However Christians are not to divorce thier non christian partner if they are willing to remain in the marriage. Don't remember where the verses are that deals with this as far as location. My wife is a younger christian then myself. She has started reading the old testoment. I tried to get her to read the new testoment. It is kind of cute how she wants to start from the beginning. Lotto http://www.flalottomagic.net/cgi-loc...gi?welcome-344 MagicZ4941
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