My mother

[Saffron]

My mother is in ireland right now!

That's good. Isn't it?

[SOJOURNER]

Duty or pleasure?

[Saffron]

My mother has now moved far away to be near my brother and his kids and wife. As he is soooo much more important than I am. She even told me before she left that she "wants a new daughter". I guess that would be my sister-in-law. I think that men are more important than women are in my mother's way of thinking. She will do whatever a male tells her to do. I tend to think that this is part of the baby-boomer's generation of thinking.

I guess I am in grief over my mother going away. I don't think that she will be back to live in California again.

[spot]

I hope she's decided she prefers rain to sunshine then, Saffron.

What sort of view do you get from your window?

[weeder]

Originally Posted by Saffron

My mother has now moved far away to be near my brother and his kids and wife. As he is soooo much more important than I am. She even told me before she left that she "wants a new daughter". I guess that would be my sister-in-law. I think that men are more important than women are in my mother's way of thinking. She will do whatever a male tells her to do. I tend to think that this is part of the baby-boomer's generation of thinking.

I guess I am in grief over my mother going away. I don't think that she will be back to live in California again.

I am a baby boomer... I think. Women are more important to me than men. I would love to have a lovely daughter or daughter in law. My daughters in law hate me. Please dont feel bad,, sometimes people cant see a great thing, right in front of their noses.

[Saffron]

Originally Posted by spot

I hope she's decided she prefers rain to sunshine then, Saffron.

What sort of view do you get from your window?

Rain and cold, I guess is what she prefers.

TOday I called my dad and he told me my mother called him yesterday to get my address. She could not call me for it!? Very very strange. She never calls him for anything. She had my cell phone number, and she could not call me. I give up. I got 3 emails from her, and I am ignoring them all. She does not care about me any more. I have moved on with my life.

[Bryn Mawr]

Originally Posted by Saffron

....She could not call me for it!? Very very strange. She never calls him for anything. She had my cell phone number, and she could not call me.

Maybe she feels too guilty or too embarased to speak to you directly.

Maybe she's too weak to make the call but needs to let you know how she feels and can only do it in writing.

I don't know, maybe I'm only making excuses but it's a big step to give up on a parent.

[weeder]

My son John and I didnt speak from early January until just the other day. He has issues with me. I love him very very much. My heart bleeds to hear you say some of the things you say. Our parents or our children can cause us a lot of pain. If you dont feel anything for someone..... you dont feel anything. Youll work things out eventually with your mom. Family, no matter how difficult they can be, are your flesh and blood. You will always return to try to make things right with them.

[Rapunzel]

Originally Posted by Saffron

My mother is in ireland right now!

So's mine. She's also thoughtless, tactless, selfish, immature and plain bloody-minded!

Are you my sister?