How could she do that to him?

[fuzzywuzzy]

I'm so sorry for your boy Victoria. If that had happened to my son nothing would hold me back from confronting the girl. (I'm a bit protective that way )
But it's better to find out the depths of this girls motives now than later on when it really could be devastating.

I good learning experience whilst still young . Tell him to put it into his back pocket and try to move on. He'll meet a loverly girl one day but in the event he meets another just like her he'll be prepared.

Like woppy said, he's had a lucky escape. Imagine in years to come what crap she could make up and devastate his life.

[along-for-the-ride]

As you know, Victoria, life is full of learning experiences. As a mom, it is always difficult to see a lesson causing pain to your child, even when that child is an adult. Many of us have suffered a broken heart only to find true love later in life.

Hopefully, he has learned to be more "careful" with his intimate relationships. Believe me, I have a 20 year old son...still single with girlfriends........so I would say the same to him.

[oscar]

Originally Posted by Victoria

My son is 24 and a really gentle loving man.
He started going out with L 2 years ago but about 6 months ago they split up.
A few weeks later he was with her again I asked him what was going on and he told me she was pregnant. For him that changed everything even if they couldn't remain Gf/BF he would support her and the baby.
He would dearly love to be a father, he told me he didn't really want it to be accidentally but the baby would never be short of love.
A couple of weeks later he came home and I could see he had been crying, she had had a miscarrage and was at home resting.
He was very supportive and she was here regularly,at christmas, new year and even last week.

But two days ago he was speaking with her mother and she let slip that the girl had never been pregnant.
He confronted her and its true she made the whole thing up.
My son is devestated he cant understand how anyone could do that.
He had been pleased at the thought of being father and then grieved the loss of his 'baby' but now it turns out to have been a sick prank to prolong their relationship.
Yes he is better off without her and yes he realises that there never was a baby but it doesn't make it any less painful.
For him life is precious so he cannot come to terms with the idea that she would make up something like this.
I feel so sorry for him he is mourning this 'baby' as if it had been real. But it is his dream that has been shatterd along with his trust.

An absolutely wicked thing to do and i sympathise greatly.
My nephew has just become a dad at 15 yrs old (yes, i know, tut) but he was so excited all through her pregnancy. He carried a pic of a scan for months in his coat pocket and was there to cut the cord when he was born.
What your son is feeling is in many ways similar to how a woman feels after a mis-carraige. Although there is no baby, you dream of how she/he will look and be.
I suspect this may have an affect on your son next time this happens for real. Tell him, not all woman are as wicked and to not stop trusting.

[weeder]

Sadly, I am not unfamiliar with this kind of behavior. As a female myself, I am always ashamed of young women who stage this kind of stunts. The heart break for young men who feel deeply, can be devastating. I have tried to tell both my sons that some females will do anything to hold on to someone they want. and I hate to have to warn them, but I must. My older sons girlfriend intentionally got pregnant when he was 17, and she was 21. My younger son married his girlfriend when he was 18 ( I begged him not to) they had a baby boy. She packed up and left when the child was 6 weeks old. He has never gotten over it. There is nothing we can do but try to help them make good choices in relationships. When they are hurt, we can only try to comfort them, and hope that they learn to be more careful with who they get involved with. Why did she do this? There are so many possible reasons why..the scariest being to cause hurt, because she was hurt by the break up. The greatest lesson I wish I could share with all of todays young people would be that they should not becme intimately involved without knowing someone for a very long time. I havent bee successful honestly. Hopefully your son will recover from this experience, and learn from it. It should make him more wary, and that is a good thing.