How could she do that to him?

[Victoria]

My son is 24 and a really gentle loving man.
He started going out with L 2 years ago but about 6 months ago they split up.
A few weeks later he was with her again I asked him what was going on and he told me she was pregnant. For him that changed everything even if they couldn't remain Gf/BF he would support her and the baby.
He would dearly love to be a father, he told me he didn't really want it to be accidentally but the baby would never be short of love.
A couple of weeks later he came home and I could see he had been crying, she had had a miscarrage and was at home resting.
He was very supportive and she was here regularly,at christmas, new year and even last week.

But two days ago he was speaking with her mother and she let slip that the girl had never been pregnant.
He confronted her and its true she made the whole thing up.
My son is devestated he cant understand how anyone could do that.
He had been pleased at the thought of being father and then grieved the loss of his 'baby' but now it turns out to have been a sick prank to prolong their relationship.
Yes he is better off without her and yes he realises that there never was a baby but it doesn't make it any less painful.
For him life is precious so he cannot come to terms with the idea that she would make up something like this.
I feel so sorry for him he is mourning this 'baby' as if it had been real. But it is his dream that has been shatterd along with his trust.

[Galbally]

Its an unpleasant situation for him, I suppose in time he will see it as a lesson about the way people can be sometimes, both men and women. The more sensitive young men tend to be a little naive about what some young women are capable of, not all of them of course.

Well, I hope that he realizes that this woman is not good for him, and some issues of her own to deal with. She sounds a little pathological to be honest; and he may love her or loved her, but he is well shot of her and my advice would be to keep going and don't look back. There are plenty of nice, kind, and trustworthy women out there for him.

[mrsK]

So sorry for what your son has been through

Life is one big learning program,I am sorry he had to be hurt that way.
Now on a happier note let him know that there are lovely ladies out there.
He will find the right one for him one day & hopefully that will lessen & help him forget the pain he is feeling now.

[Clodhopper]

It might be hard to see it at the moment, but he's been lucky: If she hadn't been lying he'd be shackled to her for a loooong time. She'd have made his life a hell. As it is - well, a painful lesson, but perhaps an important one.

Why'd she do it? Both men and women can behave very badly in relationships, but tend to do it in different ways. Men tend to violence, women to manipulation.

[Bill Sikes]

Originally Posted by Victoria

relationships

I wouldn't be too hasty in outright condemnation - it's hard to get the complete story second, third, or fourth hand. Everything needs to be taken with a pinch of salt, and some understanding - on each side.

So, they were g/f & b/f for a year and a half. That's quite a time... the reason for "splitting up" needs consideration. So, he'd like to be a father, and would've supported her - "even if they couldn't remain Gf/BF" - yet he was supportive even *after* the pretend miscarrage, and still maintains contact with her & her family. Are things between them really as hopeless as they might seem?

It's important to remember that he hasn't in fact "lost" anything - it's just something that never was. Was this really her "sick prank", or a desperate but unthinking measure to preserve something valued?

For him life is precious, you say - I could understand this degree of "hurt" if she'd had an abortion, which is in fact what I guessed when first reading your post - but that's not what happened. Nothing did happen, in fact.

He's 24 years old. That is, as you are aware, not very old. He's still got plenty of time to fulfil his ambition.

I'm not trying to solicit further information here - just putting a slightly different skew on things, for what it's worth, with a few rhetorical questions. I'm not saying that they should or should not get back together, either - that's a highly personal decision - but I should add that if there's a forced relationship purely "for the sake of a baby" that's likely to be quite unhelpful to all concerned.

[Odie]

So sorry to have your son go through this...there was no excuse whatsoever for her to tell him such a manipulative lie.



give him time, he will be alright.

[woppy71]

This sort of thing makes me sad and makes me question how some people can unashamably manipulate others to their own ends with scant regard to the feelings of those people. Very sad.

All I can say is, It looks like he has had a lucky break and I know that he will one day find someone special that he will spend the rest of his life with.

As said earlier, he needs to learn from this and treat it as one of lifes hard lessons.

Best wishes to him

[Betty Boop]

Originally Posted by Bill Sikes

I wouldn't be too hasty in outright condemnation - it's hard to get the complete story second, third, or fourth hand. Everything needs to be taken with a pinch of salt, and some understanding - on each side.

So, they were g/f & b/f for a year and a half. That's quite a time... the reason for "splitting up" needs consideration. So, he'd like to be a father, and would've supported her - "even if they couldn't remain Gf/BF" - yet he was supportive even *after* the pretend miscarrage, and still maintains contact with her & her family. Are things between them really as hopeless as they might seem?

It's important to remember that he hasn't in fact "lost" anything - it's just something that never was. Was this really her "sick prank", or a desperate but unthinking measure to preserve something valued?

For him life is precious, you say - I could understand this degree of "hurt" if she'd had an abortion, which is in fact what I guessed when first reading your post - but that's not what happened. Nothing did happen, in fact.

He's 24 years old. That is, as you are aware, not very old. He's still got plenty of time to fulfil his ambition.

I'm not trying to solicit further information here - just putting a slightly different skew on things, for what it's worth, with a few rhetorical questions. I'm not saying that they should or should not get back together, either - that's a highly personal decision - but I should add that if there's a forced relationship purely "for the sake of a baby" that's likely to be quite unhelpful to all concerned.

I would echo Bill here, huge fear of something going on there for her, can you step back, take your son out of the picture and wonder why she would be compelled to behave in such away.

[Patsy Warnick]

I also echo Bill Sikes reply.

I'd be interested in WHY the 2 ended their relationship. and
who decided to end this relationship.

This young girl is Insecure - and pulling some desperate means to hold onto your son. SPOILED BRAT TRICK

This TRICK Shows the real person she really is - and she's probably pulled severe lies / tricks all her life to get what she wants.. check with parents.?

Ugly trick - and your son should move on to a good hearted quality soul

Be happy she's gone - that's not losing anything..

Patsy

[YZGI]

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