Well, I've decided that if I get reincarnated back to earth I want a fricken rule book next time. I mean, damn! Nobody told me how much harder second marriages are. Step kids, exes, more used to be relatives, more baggage...don't get me wrong. I love my husband, we are happy. But! It took years to work out all our differences . Me and the steps! I'm proud to say the majority actually call me mom now. And all the grandkids love me. I'm grandy Rhonda. Lol. .....just wish someone had told me how it is....doh!