Someone help me out here, PLEASE

I've talked about this friend of mine a couple of times now...

This friend has been in bed basically since last Tuesday.. yeah, you heard right.. over a week now.

#1... WTF??
#2... It doesn't occur to family members that it may be time to throw some water on the bed?
#3...WTF???
#4...That means they just haven't gone to work for over a week..excuse me -but how do people do that?
#5...WTF????
#6... I finally got a response by threatening to call the friends father to go check up on them(below the belt since father is not well ) So I says 'f u, f me and f the folks getting to you.. get your ass out of bed because you have a daughter who is being taught by example how to handle life....'. A tad harsh? maybe.. but i have a very low threshold on most things..

I'm thinking professional help is really being screamed for here.. I mean seriously - over a week because you are feeling so sad?

[valerie]

Intervention time.

Did something really traumatic happen to the friend?

Sounds like meds are needed, for sure. MAJOR meds.

[AussiePam]

Yes, Floppy. Do ring the alarm bells!!!! Is there a mental health 'first aid' team at your local hospital? Or a mental health help line to call. That's what I'd do here.

Sounds like depression to me. Been there.

[Patsy Warnick]

Depression or is the friend already on meds.? Alcohol involved?
Someone needs to get the friend out of bed, into a shower - have a good cry if that's what it takes, and off to a DR.
Who's taking care of the child ? Is she a single parent? She could get herself into trouble with custody - well being for the child ??
Get her up and to a DR.
Been there !!
Patsy

She does need professional help- I was like this once in my life. It was when I miscarried. Actually I wouldn't leave the hospital for 2 weeks because I was in denial about my baby being gone. Then once I got home I was in major depression- took me almost 2 years to get outta it. I'm not over it and I will never be. In a few weeks my son would have been 8 years old.

[Patsy Warnick]

Tmbsgrl
Sorry to hear about your loss. Depression can hang on for some time.
I had my own - 1988 my husband died 30 yrs old, we were both 30 at the time.
He went to work one day and never came home. (heart attack) Major set back - I remember sleeping alot - I woke up one morning drank some old coffee - real old, I don't know when I made coffee last, this had mold floating on the top, I still sipped it as if it was hot. Denial !! I opened my drapes for the first time in ??, and saw snow.
I packed my car and belongings, drove until I found sunshine.
Since 1988 I've had several other set backs, it never goes away - good days and bad.

Patsy

[Rapunzel]

Oh tmbsgrl, I really feel for you!

I had 3 miscarriages - well, 2 really because once was twins. The twins would have been 11 by now and the baby would have been 6 months old. He was actually due when we had the FG meet up in London, so it was a lovely way to take my mind off it and stop me wallowing in grief! It makes the children you DO have, infinitely more precious and thats what you have to concentrate on!
As for the lost babies, I named them and had masses said for them, I pray for them, light candles for them (and my 2 also) and I firmly believe that I'll see them when I die. Losing a baby is something you never forget - even though it was a miscarriage, it was still alive, still a part of you. You keep these babies in a gentle corner of your mind, love them, remember them, but concentrate on the precious children you have now and not on the lost babes - thats too hard! We have to be grateful that we have these precious children, some women continually miscarry and none of their little ones survive. I don't think I could cope with that.

Big hugs to you Susie.

[Marie5656]

Definatly depression!! Has there been some sort of stressor recently in her life she needs to deal with? An interesting thing that Rick learned...he has type 2 diabetes, and his Doctor told him that this can trigger depression. Not depression over the diabetes..but just the depression! And there are times he is very down.

She definatly needs intervention, like yesterday.

[cherandbuster]

These responses have been amazing. It seems we *all* have our stories to share, don't we?

Floop, I had a friend (kind of an acquaintance/friend) who did the same thing. She would stay in bed for days. She had twin daughters. And this was how she was teaching them to cope with life's problems? It was really sad.

TGirl, Patsy, Rapper, Di -- thanks for opening up. My love to all of you.

Floppy, keep us posted on your friend.