DORE, anyone used then before? *Update* - Being taken into Foster Care

[crazygal]

Those who know me know that for years I have had problems with my son which have just gotten worse and worse. Today I gave up, for his sake as well as mine as it is making me ill with the way things are, it isn't fair on me, him or Jade.

My parents have got him tonight then tomorrow Social Services are finding him a placement for him. This has been far from easy and something I have put off for over a year, before I moved to this place last July. It is truly breaking my heart as I love him so so so much but things are that bad now I needed someone else to take over.

I contacted a company called Dore earlier http://www.dore.co.uk/ did the ADHD assessment and it comes out that he has it as I and most people have said. They are calling me back regarding an appointment for an assessment. I'm hoping that it doesn't cost too much and they let me pay the charge off. Really I should charge the Social Services for letting us down so badly. I'll see how it goes with them and if he does have a disorder I am going to get my solicitor to sue them. I haven't yet told them what is happening, it's been a bit fast but will do once I've been to the place.

What I wanted to know is have any of you dealt with this company before? (I have one friend who did years ago). Can anyone offer any advice please or this or similar conditions?

Thanks for listening,

Claire xXx

[abbey]

It sounds like you're going through a tough time at the mo CG.
Must admit, i've never heard of it so i googled it and came up with this forum that have discussed it.
It may answer some of your questions, it seems it costs £2000 for the programme!

http://www.parentscentre.gov.uk/foru...threadid=22328

eta..
I should think very carefully before involving social services, you must be at the end of your tether to have reached this decision, it may be better to ask for some respite instead.

[crazygal]

Originally Posted by abbey

It sounds like you're going through a tough time at the mo CG.
Must admit, i've never heard of it so i googled it and came up with this forum that have discussed it.
It may answer some of your questions, it seems it costs £2000 for the programme!

http://www.parentscentre.gov.uk/foru...threadid=22328

Thanks so much, it's a shame they don't have their own forum really. I spoke with someone there on the phone earlier, she was really nice. Said the programme is £2000 as you said but that's over three years and you can pay it over the 26 months so it doesn't work out so bad. It's also drug free with is a big plus.

[crazygal]

I'm going to look at this one that is recommended by someone there.

www.learningbreakthrough.com

[minks]

CG may I ask how is it ADHD (if he has it)is affecting everybody so badly that you have been forced into such drastic measures? I have no hidden agenda or judgement calls I am merely asking out of curiousity if you don't want to answer that is ok or if you would like to PM that is fine to. I just can't even begin to imagine what you are going through and maybe there is more to this than I know. Gosh Girl I wish there was a way around all this without Surrendering your son. You pooor pooor dear girl. My heart goes out to you and your babies.

[Sheryl]

Wow I feel sorry for your son. Poor kid must really be wondering what he did so bad to make his momma wanna give him away!

I think it's great that you're getting your lad some help, but please, please think twice about giving him over to social services. Think about the sense of rejection he's going to feel...he's not old enough to make sense of his feelings.

[crazygal]

Originally Posted by minks

CG may I ask how is it ADHD (if he has it)is affecting everybody so badly that you have been forced into such drastic measures? I have no hidden agenda or judgement calls I am merely asking out of curiousity if you don't want to answer that is ok or if you would like to PM that is fine to. I just can't even begin to imagine what you are going through and maybe there is more to this than I know. Gosh Girl I wish there was a way around all this without Surrendering your son. You pooor pooor dear girl. My heart goes out to you and your babies.

Thanks hun. I did the child test for him on the Dore site and two others on similar sites, they come out that he has it. Also reading their symptoms he has almost all of them. The police have even suggested he has it. I hope he doesn't but there is definately something going on.

[minks]

Originally Posted by crazygal

Thanks hun. I did the child test for him on the Dore site and two others on similar sites, they come out that he has it. Also reading their symptoms he has almost all of them. The police have even suggested he has it. I hope he doesn't but there is definately something going on.

ADHD is a tough condition to manage with or without drugs, however this just seems incredibly drastic in my eyes My youngest daughter has ADHD she is in her late teens now and we get by drug free. It's a lot different than raising a non ADHD child like her sister but nothing terribly drastic. Oh CG I just don't know what to tell you my heart breaks for you and yours.

[Carl44]

the biggest mistake i ever made in my life was taking chantelle back to her mother ,the only option i had was to go on the run with my daughter ,her whole life since has been a horror story ,the emotional scars she has encountered has left her with major personality disorders ,the damage and hurt your son will go through just not even bare thinking about , i really urge you to try every avenue before you shatter both of your lives ,i made a terrible judgement call eleven years ago it has taken me all these years to try and repair some of the damage ,its ironic that in the very week i try to undo the damage i caused you are contemplating making the very same decision

when my girl comes over i will try everything in my power to make her happy and for things to work out


you have that opportunity to do that now before your lives are shattered don't waste it