Problem people

[Happy Gram]

When you encounter a problem person... one who is demanding, rude, critical, mean.... when they can't be avoided... how do you deal with them? For instance, to run into them at a party or on the street.... I have a hard time being rude.... it takes alot for me to completely ignore someone..... your thoughts?

[spot]

Before taking any hasty steps you may later regret, ask yourself "am I married to her".

[Patsy Warnick]

I don't have a problem ignoring someone - my choice

I've written several people out of my life

Couldn't do it when I was 30

I sure as hell can do it at 50

Lovin every minute of it ..!!!!


Patsy

[jones jones]

Originally Posted by Happy Gram

When you encounter a problem person... one who is demanding, rude, critical, mean.... when they can't be avoided... how do you deal with them? For instance, to run into them at a party or on the street.... I have a hard time being rude.... it takes alot for me to completely ignore someone..... your thoughts?

i am always extremely nice to such people ... or i try to be ... it takes quite an effort but it seems to work every time ....

often when they are rude and i am not ... then THEY ignore me as they think i must be weird ....

they solves the problem of me having to ignore THEM ....

[mrsK]

Originally Posted by Happy Gram

When you encounter a problem person... one who is demanding, rude, critical, mean.... when they can't be avoided... how do you deal with them? For instance, to run into them at a party or on the street.... I have a hard time being rude.... it takes alot for me to completely ignore someone..... your thoughts?

Just ignore them,it gets easier with practice

[Before Sunset]

Ignore them. They're not worth your time or trouble. I have no trouble whatsoever ignoring people. I do it all the time. I don't even bother with the stupid small talk that I used to think (when I was young) was the right thing to do. Nope. I just live my life and as someone else said, I'm lovin' it! Very freeing.

[jennyswan]

One of the most difficult things to learn in life is how to not get bothered by other people.

Is this person like this in general or just towards you?

If the person is like this in general the I would just say a quick hello and make my excuses and if the person is like that towards just you trying being nice and friendly and interested in them. This is a trick that a counsellor told me and I thought he was batty at first but I agreed to try it out and low and behold, the person totally changed. I realised it was my attitude towards them that was putting them on the defensive and when I changed myself a little they were totally different too.

Anyway just my 2 cents

[flopstock]

Originally Posted by Happy Gram

When you encounter a problem person... one who is demanding, rude, critical, mean.... when they can't be avoided... how do you deal with them? For instance, to run into them at a party or on the street.... I have a hard time being rude.... it takes alot for me to completely ignore someone..... your thoughts?

I almost never let people be mean spirited about other folks with me. For every negative thing you tell me about someone I can counter with something positive, until you catch a clue and shut the hell up. I can however get just as mean spirited if I feel someone is attacking someone who can't or won't snap back.

I honestly don't care when folks are critilcal of me anymore. I just tune them out - unless it is work related, or I've asked for an opinion. I am way more critical of my own shortcomings then anyone else could be.

If someone does ask for an opinion, they have no place being offended if I am honest with them in giving that opinion. If they don't want it, don't ask. I am past the point of just patting folks on the back to pep them up.

[spot]

Originally Posted by flopstock

I can however get just as mean spirited if I feel someone is attacking someone who can't or won't snap back.

Been there. Got thumped. She's good is our floppy!

[The Rob]

I listen patiently and then correct their grammar.