Moral Dilemma

[Odie]

Originally Posted by almostfamous

I have a job interview this afternoon at a medical clinic. Unfortunately, my excitement and relief of finally seeing a result of my resume being issued out to multiple job postings is overshadowed with anxiety and confusion.

I'm seriously worried that if they know I'm pregnant they won't hire me.

I know that as a former employer and hiring manager I am guilty of not hiring someone because I knew they were pregnant. I mean, seriously, who wants to hire someone, train them, and then in less than a few months that person has to take maternity leave.... leaving the position that they filled empty for X amount of days/weeks?

Logically speaking I feel like I'm wasting my time even though I've found an outfit that would make me pass as fat rather than pregnant.

BUT, morally I feel it's wrong to mislead them and then if I DO get the job, how do I break it to them that I'm pregnant??? A part of me thinks (knows) they'll be pissed when they find out.

So my question is...

Do I tell them straight up? And how do I broach the subject?

In the instance that I were to get it.... when would be appropriate to tell them? And how?

Help I seriously need this job to help me and my family and the market is just so slow right now that I was blessed to find this opening to begin with

how far along are you?


I forget now when your due?

[FUBAR]

Originally Posted by almostfamous

I have a job interview this afternoon at a medical clinic. Unfortunately, my excitement and relief of finally seeing a result of my resume being issued out to multiple job postings is overshadowed with anxiety and confusion.

I'm seriously worried that if they know I'm pregnant they won't hire me.

I know that as a former employer and hiring manager I am guilty of not hiring someone because I knew they were pregnant. I mean, seriously, who wants to hire someone, train them, and then in less than a few months that person has to take maternity leave.... leaving the position that they filled empty for X amount of days/weeks?

Logically speaking I feel like I'm wasting my time even though I've found an outfit that would make me pass as fat rather than pregnant.

BUT, morally I feel it's wrong to mislead them and then if I DO get the job, how do I break it to them that I'm pregnant??? A part of me thinks (knows) they'll be pissed when they find out.

So my question is...

Do I tell them straight up? And how do I broach the subject?

In the instance that I were to get it.... when would be appropriate to tell them? And how?

Help I seriously need this job to help me and my family and the market is just so slow right now that I was blessed to find this opening to begin with

These might be some help..

.Pregnancy and your job: discrimination and your rights


USATODAY.com - Pregnant workers report growing discrimination


Pregnancy Discrimination; Know Your Rights

There are loads of info sites for you just google pregnant looking for a job.

[CARLA]

I just hired someone who I know is pregnant she is an excellent worker and will be an assist to the orginization. We hired her as a temp for months and then paid her fee to the temp agency and hired her. Never gave it a thought that she would be out on maternity leave, that is life it happen doesn't mean employeers should pass up a good employee they do come back.

Tell the truth how will you hide it eventually they will know be honest why would you want to start a job that you lied to get.

[Patsy Warnick]

AlmostFamous

Hold your head up High - just state your pregnant
Pregnant is not a handicap - as another stated this is a Medical Clinic.

Nothing more than stating you had a paid planned vacation scheduled
your still a honest, good, reliable hard worker..

what do you mean Almost - Famous..?

you had 1 interview ?? are you scheduled to return for another or did they say they'd call?
2nd interview - look interested - enthusiastic - and your proud & honored to be working there. Ask about the nature of the job, training etc.
I do need to make you aware that I'm pregnant & due - - -.
I hope you appreciate the honesty here & I realise the temporary imposition.
now Almost F you have to sell yourelf - brag - realiable -your knowledge - your skills - work well with the public & always available to assist in any department/area needed.
close with stating your a Postive person with a Postive outlook/attitude and looking forward to any and all challenges....!!

You'll be fine - smile & hold your head up high..
good luck my dear - hope I've helped..

Patsy

[Peg]

Do not omit the fact that you are pregnant. I would be terribly upset to have this sprung on me after I hired you.

[Odie]

Originally Posted by Peg

Do not omit the fact that you are pregnant. I would be terribly upset to have this sprung on me after I hired you.

I agree Peg - after getting her on board, paper work, training etc.

[almostfamous]

Thanks for the replies all. I knew what I had to do I was just scared and didn't know how to do it.

I went for the interview, I dressed very professionally and didn't try to mask my pregnancy. Unfortunately, from the moment the *girl* laid eyes on me they went straight to my stomach and her demeanor changed instantly. I say girl because she looked much younger than me.... either that or she has been partaking in the Clinic's services a little too regularly. I failed to mention earlier that it was a cosmetic surgery clinic.

So, once in her office... directly following her invite to have a seat she says, "So when are you due?" I was actually in a bit of shock that she was so tactless about it. ANDDD, lol, then I catch her glancing at my 'ring finger' and notices the absence of a wedding band and precedes to say..... "and the baby's father?" It might've even been one thing if she'd asked the first question in a friendly manner but it appeared that this was already an inconvenience to her and a waste of both our time. But to ask the second question, I was actually appalled.. I kept it short and replied, "we are no longer together." I was so pissed that she'd be so intrusive that I almost said 'he's dead' just to make her feel like crap and shut her up about it.

All the same, I continued with the interview and kept my head up.

This was by far the most uncomfortable interview I've ever been on. I don't expect to hear back from them and to be honest I could care less. I was waaay overqualified for the position anyhow and would have been bored spitless so ... next please!

[Bruv]

Next time invest in a good corset and Lie.

It wasn't for you was it ?

[almostfamous]

Originally Posted by Bruv

Next time invest in a good corset and Lie.

It wasn't for you was it ?

It's all good. Honestly I would have been so bored out of mind I would have continued my job search so now I can do just that

I'm used to working in a more professional setting anyway so she pretty well let me know what type of atmosphere I'd be getting myself into