<t>flop, it sounds as if you're saying that you are a survivor so I'll answer as if you were. I am so happy for you that you speak from such a position of power. Your words are true and self evident. You speak not as a survivor but a thriver! But realize that if my wife were in the same place or ...

<t>I missed it that you had to go to a second page to see additional replies so I edited my last post. I took out the part where I said I hurt because it sounded maudlin to me. I guess I'm in a different frame of mind today. I added;<br/>
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I just don't understand why my wife isolates herself ...

<t>Babyrider, I understand. I did not mean to imply that either of our partners were pursuing a goal that had a definite end. We all are the sum of our experiences and the road never ends. I only wanted to know how long it was before you had a place in his life. I do not presently have a place in my ...

<t>I have been attending individual counseling for the last three years. It helped me deal with my own abuse issues (physical and emotional not sexual) and my counselor credits my progress with being the reason that my wife decided to stay in the marriage rather than leave it for her lover. My ...

<t>I understand your confusion Valerie, I know how it sounds. I'm not posting here to vent or to list any grievances I have with my wife and it would be a huge post to try to explain what is going on in my life. I truly believe that anyone who loves a survivor will know where I'm coming from and it ...

<t>Well, the heading says if you need advice ask for it so I'm asking. But I'm asking for help for myself. <br/>
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The title of this thread was deliberately chosen. I think that anyone who is involved in a situation similar to mine will instantly know what I'm talking about when they read it. My ...