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<t>chonsigirl;541723 wrote: I say no-we don't need one, and it is an easy avenue to say hurtful things to others. It is bad enough to see it on regular threads, but a thread devoted entirely to this is would be horrid. It's less horrid to see it in good threads throughout the forum?...

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Hey.....these posts "could have" been moved to a muck section. Ok, I'm done talking about this in this thread (yet another spin off thread is out there folks). My apology to Pinky.

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<t>Lulu2;541707 wrote: Minx, if you don't agree...that's just fine! You didn't jump in and bomb me with negative words because we're adults! Disagreement is healthy when it's respectful and impersonal. As far as I know, disagreement is still allowed here, right? Somebody not taking ...

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<t>I know it's admins world here but I'm just wanting to discuss opinions of a muck section added here. And please don't think I'm wanting to turn this place into another "forum", I've just seen having a venting section work really good at several forums. Usually, it's set up either as on...

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<t>DesignerGal;541689 wrote: It should have been left between Lulu and Spot if he just HAD to make it personal. Koan, you just proved the theory about gangs jumping into disagreements between others. No, what this shows is that if you had a muck section, lulu and spot could of said ...

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<t>Lulu2;541562 wrote: Let me offer another possibility about the "don't let it fester/get it off your chest" idea. There are members at FG who only show up when someone's in a war. Some people ONLY post to certain members when they sense that member is under attack. They seem to thrive on public co...

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<t>Lulu2;541636 wrote: OK...but with women, you don't have that "getting past the sex" thing. I have friends who are lesbians. TRUST ME, it's come up. Lulu2;541636 wrote: And I find a much deeper understanding of women because we can actually discuss emotions, etc, witho...

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Bill Sikes;541649 wrote: I thought I answered, but apparently the answer didn't get there!

Anyway, yes, I do judge, as everyone does - it's just like risk analysis, everyone

does that, too!

You may have. Thanks for driving it home.

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<t>sunny104;541639 wrote: I think we have to judge/check out/decide (whatever word someone wishes to use...) what someone is like if we're going to choose to have them in our lives. The outside package has never concerned me, it's what's on the inside that counts. And that's the part I 'j...

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<t>spot;541638 wrote: The problem with judging someone is the likelihood that you don't have all the relevant facts to hand with which to form a valid and sustainable judgement. The bad side of judging is when it's done on the basis of labels - she's a hell-bound deviant because she's gay, for examp...

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<t>weeder;541630 wrote: Honestly? I am not very tolerant at all. I abhor angry, vengeful, spiteful, agressive, bigoted, and over bearing personalities. I am also not wild about people who threaten, degrade, or attempt to humiliate other human beings. I think I just found my new sig....

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<t>guppy;541615 wrote: a person with a serious self esteem problem and covers it by always bragging about how good they are eventually gets on my leave alone list......the last uaully takes me the longest because i make every excuse in the world for them and the way they are acting first before i FI...

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<t>koan;541624 wrote: The word judge seems to have a negative connotation. A person can be judged and found reasonable, rational, kind and generous etc. One can hardly form an opinion about another without some judgment involved. I agree. You hear people getting called "...

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<r>Lulu2;541621 wrote: And I've said it before but it's worth repeating--there is NOTHING better than women friends! <E>;)</E> Here I am just the opposite. I have many more male friends than female friends and I don't know why. I've found once I get past the "we're not having sex" i...

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<t>Wendybird;541622 wrote: Nope I still "interact" with them on occasions and they say they "need" me to understand what happened. I can understand it but I cannot accept it. They hurt me so hard it was like a physical pain. People who are allowed that deep into your mental being who then go and sni...

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<t>guppy;541623 wrote: I know...you are watching me let someone else run over me on another forum...i get that....and i see it....now, to accept it....that takes me some time.....i respect what you are telling me and obviously i need it . there is nothing you could say to make me mad devist.....:-4<...

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<t>Betty Boop;541609 wrote: Do we need friends that are opposites, apparently these people are usually showing us something we dislike within ourselves. I always thought that was something you saw in your enemies that you disliked because it was something in your subconscious you ha...

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<t>Wendybird;541603 wrote: Seriously babes you are such a sweet and loving person that I can imagine some people abusing and using your friendship in a big way. You have to look out for YOU. But there is always that side to us all when we want to be liked and loved and are willing to accept the abus...

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<t>Wendybird;541598 wrote: Strange that but I too go with my gut feeling. I am not usually wrong but recently I have been proved wrong in this so hard it hurts. We live and learn. I will still go by my gut feeling an if I ever let a friend I hope they will realise that it is not malicious it is just...

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<t>Betty Boop;541596 wrote: I don't judge my friends at all, or maybe I should say I try not to, everyone has issues and everyone copes with those issues differently. Well said. I use to boast how I didn't judge people at all by their words or actions. I've come to realiz...

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<t>Betty Boop;541596 wrote: Anyone stabs me in the back then thats up to them, yes they hurt me but I'm a big believer in what goes around comes around, they won't get a second chance with me but I don't feel the need to seek revenge. They don't get a second chance with me either, r...

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<t>Lulu2;541571 wrote: We'll never be successful at friendships if we don't become a friend ourselves. Having a heart open to friendship means you take the person at face value. If your develop a friendship, IMHO, you accept someone, flaws and all. If those flaws are something you can't l...

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<t>Betty Boop;541566 wrote: I go with my 'gut' feeling, I generally know instantly whether I'm going to be good friends with someone or just an aquaintence. I'm definetly not that smooth. And god forbid a friend does stab me in the back after I've let my guard down and entrusted the...

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sunny104;541561 wrote: In real life and online I'm the type to hang back and get a feel for people before interacting with them.

I'm the same way. You can tell a lot about a person just watching them interact with others.

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<t>minks;541560 wrote: if you as my friend see something about me you don't like, or feel is bad in some way, go on speak up and this allows me the chance to change or correct. If not given that chance I won't know to make that adjustment. Make sense??? What if you don't ...

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<t>koan;541558 wrote: I have acquaintances. Very few friends. I started writing this for someone, a new friend, to explain what friendship means to me. So it's funny you should ask. I just wrote this yesterday. I value your opinion. I wouldn't wish to be friends with you if I d...

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minks;541557 wrote: eyes closed and open minded.

I see the good in a person until they mess up... I don't know that that is always good cause believe me I have scars to prove it.

I've got those scars too. They keep it real.

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<r>devist8me;541493 wrote: Sorry Jimbo but I am pessimistic about human behavior in others. jimbo;541513 wrote: i'm not like that d8, the way i look at it this if you go into a friendship expecting that person only to do nasty deeds that is all you will see your friendship will wit...

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<t>minks;541523 wrote: I have to wonder do we need our muck pit where we can jump in and fling dirt at our enemies... I dunno part of me says yes, throw it around get it out of your system then come out shaking hands and it ends. I've seen this work well. It'...

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<t>jimbo;541490 wrote: but i'm damned if i'm just gona lay here and let fate crap all over me once again , this time its different i can prepare i know what could be coming and i'm going to do something about it, me and the suze have to be strong a lot of people are counting on us , and starting wit...

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I'd say anything that keeps your mind off of something (like a problem) would be considered theraputic. It's like some people can forget about a problem watching a movie or going to a game. Yours escape happens to involve soap and a vehicle.

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Depending on the subject, I've found most people would prefer to be unhappy than face the unknowing and unpredictable change result. Fear of the unknown can prevent change.

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<t>There's a reason you didn't get that job, you just don't know or see it yet. These things always work out somehow. I believe in the old saying "There's a reason for everything". You've possibly got a better job option coming up. Perhaps the old job you would have ended up HATING. Keep your chin u...

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<r>My post here is thoughts throughout the entire thread and not just directed at recent posters. Personally, I don't feel it's admins job to babysit his forum. He has enough going on dealing with real problems or making this place fun for everyone with the extra features the software has...

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<t>koan;537774 wrote: I think it odd that some people spend their time whining about members of one forum on another forum instead of calling them names to their face. That's the way I prefer to do things. :p No doubt. Sure takes care of things quick fast and in a hurry. (Well somet...

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<r>RedGlitter;537776 wrote: people right now are being raped, shot, bludgeoned, abducted from their homes, murdered, stolen from, are starving and in pain and right now we're ragging on people over who's in Bobby's Clubhouse. Who cares? You know what this thread is about. If you don...

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<r>Lulu2;537768 wrote: "I think it's very odd to say the least, for a person or persons to go look somebody up on the Internet, follow them around, and see what they are writing. IT really sounds obsessive. Actually a bit scary? And who has the time to do this?" +++++++++++++++ Oh, I thin...

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cinamin;537366 wrote:

Is there a Saffron on a forum? Which forum?

That would be the forum your running around looking for backup on. Planning a raid I presume?

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Freedom to speak your mind rules

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<r>Peg;536426 wrote: Why do people find it neccessary to "tell on" each other? How do you suppose these people find out what is said about their forum or when something is said on another one about the garden? Personally, if I went to another forum and didn't like it, I'd just stop going and not sta...

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<r>Pinky;536425 wrote: , maybe some of you guys will get to know some of us, which would be cool. I'll vouch for this. There are some cool ones here, you included. Sure would like to hear from Mz Cinamin sometime soon. <EMOJI seq="1f914" tseq="1f914">:thinking:</EMOJI></r>

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flopstock;536390 wrote: You're welcome to hang around here, sweetie... just ignore her and she'll ignore you while you're here.. I do that with a few 100 folks here and find I end up in very few arguments..

hahahaha!

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<t>RedGlitter;536383 wrote: Funny Kid, that's the same kind of post I see from others over there. I see no difference. Looks like she fits right in. It might be nice if you refrained from calling any more of us rude names. This is FG after all. Your absolutly right! There is no prob...

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<r>SuzyB;536357 wrote: I know what your saying Pinks, I had a look at the site which Cinamin was talking about and to be honest with you she was the worst offender in a thread she had started and the subsequent posts, a bit like the pot calling the kettle black. I'll be truthful i found it offensive...

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<r>cinamin;536162 wrote: I was referred to another forum where I joined. And it's basically a bashing place. IT's like a place where ppl go to get out their anger. And I don't go around using the f-word constantly in real life. So why would I do it online? I know others here are using th...

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<t>Pinky;536333 wrote: Okay, I don't know the particular site, I haven't read any of what's being complained about in context, so I can't really judge for myself, but if someone comes across a bad taste thread that upsets them, for instance the one that the OP was quoted in, I'd probably have someth...

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<r>Tabasco;536327 wrote: Yeah, a board about Egypt <E>:D</E> a small board, where people generally get along pretty well, until saffron comes along and starts spewing her venom.......and then she comes on here and tries to tell you it's the other way round. Dunno why she posts there, she'...

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<t>RR is not for the thin skinned, however, there are some really nice people over there. Had she not fled the forum, she would have seen that. I thought cinamin had some guts going right to the ranting forums. Folks usually come in slow and hit the general section first, where things are...

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Hi Minks!!!:yh_hugs

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