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    Peaceful Living

    It was suggested that a thread be started to discuss how to resolve stress and live a peaceful life. I figured Body, Mind & Soul would be the right place for this. Figuring out where to start is always the hardest part. Luckily I have a tool to help. The Zen Cards by Daniel Levin. These cards have provided me with perspective and right thought on a number of occasions. I keep them on the kitchen table and try to remember to draw a card every morning. The thoughts and advice here do not have to be Buddhist...it is just a place to start.

    Randomly choosing a starter thought, I drew the following:


    Understanding

    What happens to you does not matter; What you BECOME through those experiences is all that is significant. This is the true MEANING of life.

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    Good Gal. You always bring a little peace into our lives.








    He who is outside the door has already a good part of his journey behind him.

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    Capt. it is nice to think that is true.

    As for the zen thought: I find that a lot of anxiety can come from jumping to conclusions. When something happens or someone says/does something negative to us we think it is reflective of who we are or of what our life will be like in the future. I like to think of everything as an opportunity. I can not control what others do and say but I can control my own reaction. As I grow as a person, my reactions, generally, become wiser and more peaceful. There are a lot of bad things that happened in my life but each one has helped to shape who I have become. If I do not like what I am becoming I have the opportunity to rethink my perspective and the way I react. If we are nothing but an accumulation of our experiences then each one becomes sacred whether it is deemed positive or negative.

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    Quote Originally Posted by koan
    It was suggested that a thread be started to discuss how to resolve stress and live a peaceful life. I figured Body, Mind & Soul would be the right place for this. Figuring out where to start is always the hardest part. Luckily I have a tool to help. The Zen Cards by Daniel Levin. These cards have provided me with perspective and right thought on a number of occasions. I keep them on the kitchen table and try to remember to draw a card every morning. The thoughts and advice here do not have to be Buddhist...it is just a place to start.

    Randomly choosing a starter thought, I drew the following:


    Understanding

    What happens to you does not matter; What you BECOME through those experiences is all that is significant. This is the true MEANING of life.
    To each his own, but rather than resolving stress, how about finding the cause of the stress and elimanating it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lon
    To each his own, but rather than resolving stress, how about finding the cause of the stress and elimanating it?
    I think that is part of resolving stress. Eliminating stressors can take great strength and maturity, it can be part of character building, but there are also stressors in life that we have no choice but to learn to tolerate and cope with.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lon
    To each his own, but rather than resolving stress, how about finding the cause of the stress and elimanating it?
    Would you like a semi automatic for that?

    How you deal with the cause of stress is how you grow from the experience. Sometime you just can't turn the other cheek. Do I owe Kenny Rogers for that?

    I think walking away is appropriate...some of the time. I must also remember to defend my own rights and the rights of people, in general. But is the fight worth the cost? It is a necessary assessment. Most of my battles have resulted in me feeling good about defending myself whether I win or not. When I walk away I walk with dignity. I must admit to having stretched the battle out too long sometimes, though. I lost my peacefulness and sense of rightness and so next time I hope to be wiser.

    Note. I usually win. (let me believe this at least for a while)

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    Quote Originally Posted by koan
    Would you like a semi automatic for that?

    How you deal with the cause of stress is how you grow from the experience. Sometime you just can't turn the other cheek. Do I owe Kenny Rogers for that?

    I think walking away is appropriate...some of the time. I must also remember to defend my own rights and the rights of people, in general. But is the fight worth the cost? It is a necessary assessment. Most of my battles have resulted in me feeling good about defending myself whether I win or not. When I walk away I walk with dignity. I must admit to having stretched the battle out too long sometimes, though. I lost my peacefulness and sense of rightness and so next time I hope to be wiser.

    Note. I usually win. (let me believe this at least for a while)
    I am not trying to be hard headed Koan, but could you give me a couple of examples of stressors that can not be eliminated?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lon
    I am not trying to be hard headed Koan, but could you give me a couple of examples of stressors that can not be eliminated?
    A child.
    A parent.
    The trucks that used to hitch behind my house that the city and courts wouldn't do anything about unless I shelled out a fortune to a lawyer to cross all the "t"s and dot all the "i"s even though I had all the precedent cases and spent two years building my case.

    That should be a good start.


    The only reason I say "used to" is because I moved, also at great expense.

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    It's impossible to avoid stress in life...... it's finding the coping mechanisms to deal with the stress that's the real issue.....

    I have no easy answers..... I've just bought a yoga video..... unfortunately I won't be able to start using it until I've recovered from the torn muscle in my neck.....
    and how did I get that ...... Stress... what else ???

    Ommm.....

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    Quote Originally Posted by koan
    A child.
    A parent.
    The trucks that used to hitch behind my house that the city and courts wouldn't do anything about unless I shelled out a fortune to a lawyer to cross all the "t"s and dot all the "i"s even though I had all the precedent cases and spent two years building my case.

    That should be a good start.


    The only reason I say "used to" is because I moved, also at great expense.
    Thank you Koan----I guess because of my tendency to either ignore stress or automatically deal with it as part of life, I am not recognizing the effect that it can have on another persons life. I didn't mean to make lite of it.

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