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    How to earn a girl's trust?

    Hi there, I just joined these forums today, they seem like a good place to get positive advice.
    I am an Irish guy who makes most of his friends through the internet. I met this Dutch girl in an online game, she is very intelligent and friendly. We talk most days through text, usually about meaningful things like religion, languages, culture and science- normally things she is in to because they are things we can both relate to (I am not faking interest, they are things I'm interested in but I have not had a chance to study so I learn a lot from her).
    I would like to meet her but the problem is she is quite a shy girl so if I suggested it now she would probably decline the opportunity. Because of this I need to build more trust with her before I make the next step of asking for more personal information like a phone number. I don't think of her in a sexual way, that is not why I want to meet her; she is a lovely person who lives in a beautiful country and I love the adventure of meeting up with someone from online.

    Where she is at:
    She knows I trust her, I asked her to post me her favourite book but it turned out the cost of postage for a thick book would cost more than buying it. So she knows I'd tell her my address.
    She knows that I've been to Norway to meet a girl from the same game before so when I do ask her about meeting she should not have any doubt that I'm being serious and no doubts on my reasons for visiting her.

    I've come here looking for advice on how to build trust with women. I am not looking for a quick fix, these things take time and she is not going anywhere. I hope you can help me out

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    Re: How to earn a girl's trust?

    Hmmm. I don't know if you should read Oscar's thread "What Is It about the British?" Just kidding.

    How long have you & this 'girl' been communicating? You have heard of phishing scams & catfishing scams? I'm sure she has too. The internet may build intimacy (whether it is always real or not, it depends). Have you exchanged photos? Even they can be faked. I kind of think it's wise of her not to give her phone number. It's hard, IMO, to build trust this way, although I'm aware it works out often.

    What happened with the Norwegian girl? Do you still see her or speak with her? Why or why not?

    When you describe these women as 'girls' how old are they? A girl has to be more protective of herself, generally, than a male.

    What if she's not a girl at all?

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    Re: How to earn a girl's trust?

    Quote Originally Posted by Chakari View Post
    Hi there, I just joined these forums today, they seem like a good place to get positive advice.
    You asked for it.

    Quote Originally Posted by Chakari View Post
    I am an Irish guy who makes most of his friends through the internet.
    No pubs around? No the first place I would go. Been there done that.

    Quote Originally Posted by Chakari View Post
    I met this Dutch girl in an online game, she is very intelligent and friendly. We talk most days through text, usually about meaningful things like religion, languages, culture and science- normally things she is in to because they are things we can both relate to (I am not faking interest, they are things I'm interested in but I have not had a chance to study so I learn a lot from her).
    I would like to meet her but the problem is she is quite a shy girl so if I suggested it now she would probably decline the opportunity. Because of this I need to build more trust with her before I make the next step of asking for more personal information like a phone number. I don't think of her in a sexual way, that is not why I want to meet her; she is a lovely person who lives in a beautiful country and I love the adventure of meeting up with someone from online.

    Where she is at:
    She knows I trust her, I asked her to post me her favourite book but it turned out the cost of postage for a thick book would cost more than buying it. So she knows I'd tell her my address.
    She knows that I've been to Norway to meet a girl from the same game before so when I do ask her about meeting she should not have any doubt that I'm being serious and no doubts on my reasons for visiting her.

    I've come here looking for advice on how to build trust with women. I am not looking for a quick fix, these things take time and she is not going anywhere. I hope you can help me out
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    Re: How to earn a girl's trust?

    Quote Originally Posted by AnneBoleyn View Post
    Hmmm. I don't know if you should read Oscar's thread "What Is It about the British?" Just kidding.

    How long have you & this 'girl' been communicating? You have heard of phishing scams & catfishing scams? I'm sure she has too. The internet may build intimacy (whether it is always real or not, it depends). Have you exchanged photos? Even they can be faked. I kind of think it's wise of her not to give her phone number. It's hard, IMO, to build trust this way, although I'm aware it works out often.

    What happened with the Norwegian girl? Do you still see her or speak with her? Why or why not?

    When you describe these women as 'girls' how old are they? A girl has to be more protective of herself, generally, than a male.

    What if she's not a girl at all?
    I do know she is a girl, a Skype chat resolves that. I have known her for 3 years and she is 20 years old.
    Myself and the Norwegian girl are still great friends, which is how I'd like it to be.
    I know people are skeptical about Internet friends but I know how to weed out the catfish.

    Tude dog I am not looking for a girlfriend. you seem to think I've gotten myself into a friends zone and that's bad, well it's not.

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    Re: How to earn a girl's trust?

    I guess you'll just have to be patient with her.

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    Re: How to earn a girl's trust?

    do people still ask this stuff over the net ?

    chakari...As an Irishman do you have anything else to add to the forum? Or did you come to the forum to ask this particular question ? and why ?

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    Re: How to earn a girl's trust?

    Quote Originally Posted by AnneBoleyn View Post
    I guess you'll just have to be patient with her.
    All right thank you.

    Fuzzy I came here just to ask this because there are no girls I know close enough to ask them this and guys I ask would often pester me about trying to be friends with a girl instead of trying to sleep with her. I wanted to ask on some forums where people ask for friendship advice because they might be more used to discussing quirky situations like this.
    The reason i came here. Many forums only have a relationships forum not one for friendships, while it is true that a friendship is a type of relationship many people don't think of it that way when they hear the word and being able to post in a section for friendships would help avoid replies like the 2nd one I got. This particular forum was one of the top in a google search which was still had active posters.

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    Re: How to earn a girl's trust?

    How old are you ?

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    Re: How to earn a girl's trust?

    Quote Originally Posted by fuzzywuzzy View Post
    How old are you ?
    I'm 21. Are you surprised?

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