Ignorance is bliss?

koan · Post by **koan** » Sun Aug 20, 2006 7:24 pm

If your spouse/partner had a one time, one night affair would you want to know?

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Sun Aug 20, 2006 8:11 pm

Yes and I won't need to reload either.

Rain · Post by **Rain** » Sun Aug 20, 2006 8:15 pm

(:wah: LMHO @ RG)

Yes that way I'd know where I stood in his life. In front of the Judge!

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Aug 21, 2006 9:56 am

Been there done that, kicked his sorry ass out.

If you want to remain blissfully ignorant over this then so be it but what about STD's if nothing else???????

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Mon Aug 21, 2006 9:59 am

OK, if I don't tell about mine, I won't ask about his. Seriously...When Rick and I were early in our relationship....but that is water under the bridge.

woppy71 · Post by **woppy71** » Mon Aug 21, 2006 10:00 am

Well, yes, I think. How would I feel about it? Don't know, probably all the usuall emotions, but, I could never bring myself to leave Carrie or throw her out, I love her to much.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Aug 21, 2006 10:02 am

Cheating is not tolerated in the work place, school, sports, etc, so why is it tolerated in a relationship.

RedGlitter · Post by **RedGlitter** » Mon Aug 21, 2006 4:57 pm

I can't relate to that at all. When he's with me, what he has is for me only and vice versa. Even without love there is an intimacy in taking someone into your own body or entering that of another. As there should be. Thefact that he would get pleasure from or give it to anyone other than me is unforgivable. He would never use it again, I tell you.

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Tue Aug 22, 2006 8:22 am

Pinky wrote: TBH, if it was only physical, and he was careful, I wouldn't be that bothered.

I know that sounds strange to most people, but I have a strange way of looking at things. I don't see sex as purely linked to love, so as long as that wasn't an issue, he could tell me anything. I don't have a jealousy problem on any score.
that's how I feel too, I'm just not a jealous person.....and I think there would be a difference between a drunken one nite stand as opposed to an affair that's been going on for months or years.....

but still....I can't know for sure what I would do in that situation unless I was in it...

I voted for knowing about it though.....

koan · Post by **koan** » Tue Aug 22, 2006 11:03 am

I think that even in a relationship where a couple allows each other to "wander", there should be openness and honesty.

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Tue Aug 22, 2006 11:20 am

koan wrote: I think that even in a relationship where a couple allows each other to "wander", there should be openness and honesty.

Sunny raised a good point, if, in a loving relationship where your partner would not be tolerant, you got drunk one night (extenuating circumstances) and ended up being persuaded into a one night stand.

The next day you regret it deeply and are totally ashamed and vow it will never be repeated.

Do you tell your partner in the name of honesty, knowing that it would destroy your relationship or would you keep quiet?

As the partner, would you want to know.