Single or Married?

CheshireCat · Post by **CheshireCat** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 6:39 am

Just wondering.............. Sometimes I feel like an odd duck in here. I know Snooze and Minks are single, but every one else seems to be married or otherwise engaged.

woppy71 · Post by **woppy71** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 6:41 am

I'm married

wah:;)

zinkyusa · Post by **zinkyusa** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 6:43 am

I'm married but don't want you to feel like an odd duck C2. I'm actually on my second marriage and was single a long time in between so I can certainly remember that time. We're all single sometime in our leaves. Don't worry about girl..

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 6:45 am

Let's see . . .

You know, I just went over my Buddy List and almost everyone on it is married/involved. Not all, but most of them.

I hope this doesn't affect your comfort level here.

Because we like you :-6

CheshireCat · Post by **CheshireCat** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 6:47 am

zinkyusa wrote: I'm married but don't want you to feel like an odd duck C2. I'm actually on my second marriage and was single a long time in between so I can certainly remember that time. We're all single sometime in our leaves. Don't worry about girl..

I'm not worried about it, really. But it makes me think sometimes.

I've actually been asked, "So you're in you 30''s good looking girl, no kids never been married, What's wrong with you...."

It's either that or they tell me i'm smart!

zinkyusa · Post by **zinkyusa** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 6:50 am

My second wife was 34 when we got married. It was her first marriage. It's better to wait until you find the right person than make a mistake or settle for something less. I waited 10 years to find her and it was wotrh the wait..

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 6:50 am

I remember when I was single, between my two marriages, I would get similar questions as well. So I definitely understand how you feel.

The world travels in pairs, doesn't it? It's quite unfortunate sometimes. :-6

CheshireCat · Post by **CheshireCat** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 6:55 am

Oh my goodness, my Grandmother!!

I think my Dad's side of the family thinks i am a lesbian or something. All my cousins were married and pregnant by 20, most of them right out of high school.

I went to school and got a job. Hmmm....

I get " You need a man" thing all the time.

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 6:57 am

A lesbian -- that's funny! People just don't understand it that you aren't married, so therefore they think maybe you like girls :rolleyes:

People need to expand their definitions of what is allowable and acceptable -- without putting others in little defined 'boxes' :-6

zinkyusa · Post by **zinkyusa** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 6:58 am

LOL, sounds like North Carolina:wah:

woppy71 · Post by **woppy71** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 7:06 am

CheshireCat wrote: Oh my goodness, my Grandmother!!

I think my Dad's side of the family thinks i am a lesbian or something. All my cousins were married and pregnant by 20, most of them right out of high school.

I went to school and got a job. Hmmm....

I get " You need a man" thing all the time.

A lesbian??!!! Can I watch?? can I, can I??!! Please??!!:wah:

CheshireCat · Post by **CheshireCat** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 7:08 am

woppy71 wrote: A lesbian??!!! Can I watch?? can I, can I??!! Please??!!:wah:

Saucy boy! :sneaky:

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 9:14 am

Married, going on 5 years.

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 9:17 am

woppy71 wrote: A lesbian??!!! Can I watch?? can I, can I??!! Please??!!:wah:

tsk, tsk, tsk, now what would your wife say to this, young man???:yh_wait :yh_silent :yh_shame

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 9:32 am

married-been with hubby for 12 years and married for 9 years. :-6

CheshireCat · Post by **CheshireCat** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 9:37 am

sunny104 wrote: married-been with hubby for 12 years and married for 9 years. :-6

That's awesome.

CheshireCat · Post by **CheshireCat** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 12:01 pm

Hamster wrote: Hey CC I am 31 and single-mother of 3!!

Best thing I ever did....but sometimes you have to make your own cup of tea :wah:

People keep giving me the "when are you gonna settle down?" look....:-5

I don't knowif i could do that. I know there are women that are raising children on thier own and I have the upmost respect for them.

I'm gonna get my self into trouble, I know it, but I would not have a child without a father. Not just so I can be a mother. i think that's a little selfish. No husband, no babbies.

zinkyusa · Post by **zinkyusa** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 12:06 pm

CheshireCat wrote: I don't knowif i could do that. I know there are women that are raising children on thier own and I have the upmost respect for them.

I'm gonna get my self into trouble, I know it, but I would not have a child without a father. Not just so I can be a mother. i think that's a little selfish. No husband, no babbies.

Well dang, there goes that idea out the window:sneaky:

CheshireCat · Post by **CheshireCat** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 12:11 pm

Hamster wrote: CC I did have a father for my kids when they were younger and he is very much still in their lives... But things change and I cannot accept a life of boredom and routine for the sake of the kids when neither of us were happy...We are much happier now..and so are the kids truth be told...

Oh, I meant no offense. Not at ALL.

i maent that I wouldn't go and get insiminated to have a child.

Oh, my apologies, I meant no harm

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 12:15 pm

woppy71 wrote: A lesbian??!!! Can I watch?? can I, can I??!! Please??!!:wah:

Down boy...you're a MARRIED man

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 12:19 pm

Bez wrote: Down boy...you're a MARRIED man

Doesn't mean he can't have a dirty mind though

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 12:21 pm

I'm 59 and married 40 years.

At the end of the week I am moving out on my own and will ultimately divorce.

It feels like I've been single for years (without the pleasure of independence).

If you're happy CC, that's all that matters....go where your heart takes you..

zinkyusa · Post by **zinkyusa** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 12:22 pm

Bez wrote: Down boy...you're a MARRIED man

Just cuz you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu..

cherandbuster · Post by **cherandbuster** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 12:25 pm

Bez wrote: I'm 59 and married 40 years.

At the end of the week I am moving out on my own and will ultimately divorce.

It feels like I've been single for years (without the pleasure of independence).

If you're happy CC, that's all that matters....go where your heart takes you..

Bez

I think that was just a lovely post :-6

My friend :-4

CheshireCat · Post by **CheshireCat** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 12:25 pm

Bez wrote: I'm 59 and married 40 years.

At the end of the week I am moving out on my own and will ultimately divorce.

It feels like I've been single for years (without the pleasure of independence).

If you're happy CC, that's all that matters....go where your heart takes you..

I enjoy being single, I do what I please and don't have to run it past anyone before I do it. It would have to be a pretty fantastick man to get me to settle down for good. He'd also have to have the patience of a saint!:p

I'm sorry to hear about you divorce. I hope everything goes your way!

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 12:33 pm

cherandbuster wrote: Bez

I think that was just a lovely post :-6

My friend :-4

When I was 'just a gal' in the 1960s it was 'expected' that you got married, had kids and lived happly ever after....I was always one to 'conform' ...ha ha ha ! Folks have more freedom of choice now....that can only be a good thing.

If I had been born 30 years later I might have trodden a different path, but who knows !

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 12:35 pm

CheshireCat wrote: I enjoy being single, I do what I please and don't have to run it past anyone before I do it. It would have to be a pretty fantastick man to get me to settle down for good. He'd also have to have the patience of a saint!:p

I'm sorry to hear about you divorce. I hope everything goes your way!

That's exactly what I'm looking forward to CC....freedom....and if you ever do find that fantastic man.....ask him if he's got an older brother

CheshireCat · Post by **CheshireCat** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 12:39 pm

Bez wrote: That's exactly what I'm looking forward to CC....freedom....and if you ever do find that fantastic man.....ask him if he's got an older brother

I think you should get a 25 year old boy toy! have a little fun! :sneaky:

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 12:44 pm

CheshireCat wrote: I think you should get a 25 year old boy toy! have a little fun! :sneaky:

..:yh_rotfl

CheshireCat · Post by **CheshireCat** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 12:49 pm

Bez wrote: ..:yh_rotfl

Hey, I want one of those for myself! :wah:

zinkyusa · Post by **zinkyusa** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 12:57 pm

CheshireCat wrote: Hey, I want one of those for myself! :wah:

Looks like someone has her hormones in an uproar:rolleyes:

CheshireCat · Post by **CheshireCat** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 12:59 pm

zinkyusa wrote: Looks like someone has her hormones in an uproar:rolleyes:

Oh, only........................................................ always!

zinkyusa · Post by **zinkyusa** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 1:04 pm

CheshireCat wrote: Oh, only........................................................ always!

Nice tail...:yh_worshp

CheshireCat · Post by **CheshireCat** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 1:12 pm

zinkyusa wrote: Nice tail...:yh_worshp

Thanks Doll!

zinkyusa · Post by **zinkyusa** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 1:14 pm

helefra wrote: Single - but will soon be married to my current partner.

Congratulaions Helefra:)

CheshireCat · Post by **CheshireCat** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 1:15 pm

Congradulations!

CheshireCat · Post by **CheshireCat** » Mon Aug 28, 2006 2:11 pm

We'll hafe to throw a FG bachlorette party!

chrisb84uk · Post by **chrisb84uk** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 2:29 am

Single here, but what with all my good friends and loving family I'm never alone, so I'm happy being single.

Oh and congrats on the engagement Helefra!!!

Tigerlily · Post by **Tigerlily** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 3:02 am

I'm on my second husband - the most unsociable man in the universe so most people I meet think I'm a single mother and I've stopped telling them I'm not. I have recently told him this so he's making a bit more of an effort to be visible. I have many single friends of both sexes and have a very lively social life. I'd hate to live in a 'couples-only' environment.

My 'best' friend (if you can have a best friend when you are over 40!) is also married to an unsociable man so we go all over the place together. She worries that people think we're a pair of lesbians but it doesn't bother me as long as people don't think I'm the man.

So stay single until that perfect companion comes along, and enjoy it!!

theia · Post by **theia** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 3:08 am

Tigerlily wrote: She worries that people think we're a pair of lesbians but it doesn't bother me as long as people don't think I'm the man.

I find that so, so funny, Tigerlily :wah: ...thank you for making me laugh :-6

zinkyusa · Post by **zinkyusa** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 5:39 am

helefra wrote: Thank you for your kind comments Zink, CC, Hamster and Chris. A date hasn't been set yet but there's no real rush at the moment. It may be sometime next year and the honeymoon will be a week of bonking in Devon.

Bonking??? Sounds like fun.:sneaky:

chrisb84uk · Post by **chrisb84uk** » Tue Aug 29, 2006 5:50 am

helefra wrote: Thank you for your kind comments Zink, CC, Hamster and Chris. A date hasn't been set yet but there's no real rush at the moment. It may be sometime next year and the honeymoon will be a week of bonking in Devon.

:wah: Hahaha crikey now that is one kind of a honeymoon hahaha. But why Devon?? :sneaky: