To Change Just One Thing In Your Life.

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 12:23 pm

As you look back on your life what is the one thing you would change if you could...........

kayleneaussie · Post by **kayleneaussie** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 12:25 pm

Nothing

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 12:27 pm

kayleneaussie;1176192 wrote: Nothing :DWell that was short and sweet....bet that took ages to write:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

G#Gill · Post by **G#Gill** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 12:30 pm

Can I change two things please?

kayleneaussie · Post by **kayleneaussie** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 12:32 pm

Carolly;1176193 wrote: Well that was short and sweet....bet that took ages to write:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Well I answered your question didnt I :guitarist

My opinion is why would you want to change anything....sure I probably have regretted things that have happened in my life but it has all been a learning experience which has made me what I am today

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 12:32 pm

G#Gill;1176195 wrote: Can I change two things please?No thats cheating:-5 Id be here typing all day if I didn't make a limit:wah:

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 12:33 pm

kayleneaussie;1176196 wrote: Well I answered your question didnt I :guitarist

My opinion is why would you want to change anything....sure I probably have regretted things that have happened in my life but it has all been a learning experience which has made me what I am today :DYe well:rolleyes: I will say no more:wah::wah::p

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 12:42 pm

Carolly;1176197 wrote: No thats cheating:-5 Id be here typing all day if I didn't make a limit:wah:

:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 12:44 pm

to actually do as mom advised me with my first marriage......when you get married, have your own bank account on the side......just in case.

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 12:50 pm

Odie;1176211 wrote: to actually do as mom advised me with my first marriage......when you get married, have your own bank account on the side......just in case.;)Totally agree with that....or at least abit put away somewhere;)

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:03 pm

I would have take Spanish in High School instead of French.

Je vais bien.

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:05 pm

kayleneaussie;1176196 wrote: Well I answered your question didnt I :guitarist

My opinion is why would you want to change anything....sure I probably have regretted things that have happened in my life but it has all been a learning experience which has made me what I am today

That's a very wise reply. Just that there's at least one thing I wished I'd learnt before I'd had the lesson.

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:11 pm

along-for-the-ride;1176235 wrote: I would have take Spanish in High School instead of French.

Je vais bien.Gawd I hated French Lessons.....I have enough trouble with talking English fgs:-5:rolleyes:

G#Gill · Post by **G#Gill** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:19 pm

Some lessons you learn the hard way.................... I wish I had never got involved with a certain family near us - welcomed them in with open arms, and treated them like they were daughter and grandchildren. I shall never ever let myself become involved like that ever again. For their own ends, they are trying to destroy my family..............just don't know why they picked on us to further their nastiness.

:-1

So, Carol :p my second 'change things' would be to not make certain posts, and not upset people because I couldn't express myself better, so I was misunderstood. I have reaped the 'rewards' for that, and I shall for ever be sorry that I did that. I have an ordinary sized mouth but a very large foot.

I publicly say sorry, and just hope that the people I must have upset, will perhaps eventually forgive me. Forgive those posts that I wrote when I was particularly unhappy and down, and probably a little bit off my head. I am managing to cope with stuff a bit better now, and I can see a glimmer at the end of the tunnel, although there is still that small matter with that 'family' to sort out. God I shall never ever forgive them for what they are doing to my family.

Sorry, Carol, for disobeying your ruling. I'm afraid I had to quote the two things.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:21 pm

Carolly;1176189 wrote: As you look back on your life what is the one thing you would change if you could...........
I've been thinking.....Please Miss..... can i change 15 things?

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:28 pm

oscar;1176252 wrote: I've been thinking.....Please Miss..... can i change 15 things?Oh is that all.....thought there would be more:yh_rotflNO just one are you deaf or what woman:-5:-5

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:31 pm

OpenMind;1176237 wrote: That's a very wise reply. Just that there's at least one thing I wished I'd learnt before I'd had the lesson. :DGood reply that goes for alot of us I believe.

farmer giles · Post by **farmer giles** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:34 pm

apart from the obvios things like stopping members of your family dying

i would like to of never drank....ever

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:38 pm

G#Gill;1176250 wrote: Some lessons you learn the hard way.................... I wish I had never got involved with a certain family near us - welcomed them in with open arms, and treated them like they were daughter and grandchildren. I shall never ever let myself become involved like that ever again. For their own ends, they are trying to destroy my family..............just don't know why they picked on us to further their nastiness.

:-1

So, Carol :p my second 'change things' would be to not make certain posts, and not upset people because I couldn't express myself better, so I was misunderstood. I have reaped the 'rewards' for that, and I shall for ever be sorry that I did that. I have an ordinary sized mouth but a very large foot.

I publicly say sorry, and just hope that the people I must have upset, will perhaps eventually forgive me. Forgive those posts that I wrote when I was particularly unhappy and down, and probably a little bit off my head. I am managing to cope with stuff a bit better now, and I can see a glimmer at the end of the tunnel, although there is still that small matter with that 'family' to sort out. God I shall never ever forgive them for what they are doing to my family.

Sorry, Carol, for disobeying your ruling. I'm afraid I had to quote the two things.

:(I of course forgive you for those 2 things you have put instead of the one..I hear you loud and clear Gill and sometimes words even typed on here can hurt so much to the point of making one so unhappy and it takes time for that hurt to go away.....thats what it takes I guess.......time.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:42 pm

Carolly;1176189 wrote: As you look back on your life what is the one thing you would change if you could...........

c'mon, so what's yours?:sneaky::yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:43 pm

Carolly;1176258 wrote: Oh is that all.....thought there would be more:yh_rotflNO just one are you deaf or what woman:-5:-5 I'll have to work out which 14 to drop now

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:44 pm

oscar;1176266 wrote: I'll have to work out which 14 to drop now

Ok....we all wait with excitement.:-2

farmer giles · Post by **farmer giles** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:49 pm

oscar;1176266 wrote: I'll have to work out which 14 to drop now

you mean dress sizes dont cha:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:50 pm

Odie;1176265 wrote: c'mon, so what's yours?:sneaky::yh_rotfl:yh_rotflMine Odie......that is so so hard.....I guess it must to go back to my Childhood ....and wish I would have had one.I look at the kids today as I did then and realise what I missed.Yes Odie that would have to be mine.....my lost Childhood.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:53 pm

Carolly;1176272 wrote: Mine Odie......that is so so hard.....I guess it must to go back to my Childhood ....and wish I would have had one.I look at the kids today as I did then and realise what I missed.Yes Odie that would have to be mine.....my lost Childhood.

that is the best one I have heard here today, you did babe, have a rough childhood.:-4

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:55 pm

farmer giles;1176271 wrote: you mean dress sizes dont cha:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl
It would be hard to DROP to a 14 as I'm a 12. But just watch it Jimbo...... I'm on to you :yh_rotfl Now put your 'Scaraff' back on and shuddup :yh_rotfl

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 2:04 pm

Odie;1176274 wrote: that is the best one I have heard here today, you did babe, have a rough childhood.:-4Still thats then and this is now and guess we have to move on or all our lost yesterdays will make unhappy tomorrows.

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 2:25 pm

farmer giles;1176260 wrote:

i would like to of never drank....ever3 very dear people in my life have said the same.....one no longer lives and another ones brother was killed by it

and nearly killed him also....the other one lost so many years because of it and so much happiness.

farmer giles · Post by **farmer giles** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 3:15 pm

Carolly;1176290 wrote: 3 very dear people in my life have said the same.....one no longer lives and another ones brother was killed by it

and nearly killed him also....the other one lost so many years because of it and so much happiness.

i started drinking at 27 when my daughter died ,to blot out the pain a frontal lobotomy or a bottle in front of me it was much the same ,i had stopped then my brother died if i dont stop i think i will die

i think its time to stop

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 3:21 pm

farmer giles;1176299 wrote: i started drinking at 27 when my daughter died ,to blot out the pain a frontal lobotomy or a bottle in front of me it was much the same ,i had stopped then my brother died if i dont stop i think i will die

i think its time to stop :)Chris hasnt had a drink for 27 years....he wont even have it in his food in any form.He went through hell to get to where he is today and even though his had many tragedies in his life since he stopped drinking he has never had a drink since.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 10:15 pm

I dont care for the question. I dont mean that in a snide way. All of the events of our lives for better or worse gradually or suddenly if perhaps a traumatic experience changes our outlook become the sum of who we are. I accept that.

Kathy Ellen · Post by **Kathy Ellen** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 10:42 pm

I will always regret not moving to California to study marine biology. I wanted to work in SeaWorld in San Diego while studying our beautiful ocean.

Guess it just wasn't meant to be for me:p

mrsK · Post by **mrsK** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 11:29 pm

If I could stop my parents:-4getting old & sick I would but that is about it:-6

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Fri Apr 17, 2009 1:28 am

mrsK;1176401 wrote: If I could stop my parents:-4getting old & sick I would but that is about it:-6Fabulous answer my Friend and so true:-4

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Fri Apr 17, 2009 3:12 am

Nomad;1176378 wrote: I dont care for the question. I dont mean that in a snide way. All of the events of our lives for better or worse gradually or suddenly if perhaps a traumatic experience changes our outlook become the sum of who we are. I accept that.
yep i agree,,we are who we are because of everything thats happened in our lives so far, because of choices we have made, events we have had no control over all of ifes little incidents:) but,,,,,,,,,, some people are not happy with who they are

I know i sometimes do not like certain facets of my personality, certain ways i feel or react about things,, I dunno ,,lack of patience, insecurity etc, but they are there because of lifes lessons.

Kathy Ellen;1176387 wrote: I will always regret not moving to California to study marine biology. I wanted to work in SeaWorld in San Diego while studying our beautiful ocean.

Guess it just wasn't meant to be for me:p
Kathy im always saying you should never regret the thngs you do, only the things you do not do

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Fri Apr 17, 2009 6:39 am

new parents?? :rolleyes: :wah:

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Fri Apr 17, 2009 6:54 am

Every day I want to change something but I'm to old and you can't go back so I accept it for what it is and keep moving forward. It is what it is my life and all the stuff associated with it makes me who I am.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Fri Apr 17, 2009 9:47 am

CARLA;1176480 wrote: Every day I want to change something but I'm to old and you can't go back so I accept it for what it is and keep moving forward. It is what it is my life and all the stuff associated with it makes me who I am.

Im gasping !

Seriously.

You cant go back but you have all that forward ahead of you.

Thats when you get the chance to change.

Thats your gift !!!

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Fri Apr 17, 2009 10:02 am

Nomad;1176544 wrote: Im gasping !

Seriously.

You cant go back but you have all that forward ahead of you.

Thats when you get the chance to change.

Thats your gift !!!

Hindsight is a wonderful thing and we all learn from hindsight. Sometimes, though, it's just too late and when another life is involved, you can only pray for a miracle and hope for the best for that other life.

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Fri Apr 17, 2009 11:38 am

I love some of the answers here.....some are so spiritual and so true and honest.

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Apr 17, 2009 1:20 pm

I would have changed my career choice and gone with what I love most.... some kind of job outdoors. I have always wanted to be a forest ranger... sigh....

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Fri Apr 17, 2009 1:27 pm

minks;1176667 wrote: I would have changed my career choice and gone with what I love most.... some kind of job outdoors. I have always wanted to be a forest ranger... sigh....

I would have never known Minks:rolleyes:. I always wanted to a mail carrier and ended up as Mrs. Exciting.

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Sat Apr 18, 2009 12:01 am

minks;1176667 wrote: I would have changed my career choice and gone with what I love most.... some kind of job outdoors. I have always wanted to be a forest ranger... sigh....

I thought about doing that.

But I'm not much good at climbing trees. A big problem for a forest ranger that is.:rolleyes:

pinkchick · Post by **pinkchick** » Sat Apr 18, 2009 3:10 am

I wouldn't change anything in my life. As so many have said, the things that have happened to us and the experiences we've had all make us who we are. I'm quite happy with who I am. I'm finally quite comfortable in my skin:)

Sure, I have regrets but who doesn't?

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Sat Apr 18, 2009 7:53 am

Carolly;1176189 wrote: As you look back on your life what is the one thing you would change if you could...........

My diapers:wah:

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Sat Apr 18, 2009 3:57 pm

farmer giles;1176299 wrote: i started drinking at 27 when my daughter died ,to blot out the pain a frontal lobotomy or a bottle in front of me it was much the same ,i had stopped then my brother died if i dont stop i think i will die

i think its time to stop

You will die Jimbutt. It's time to stop. Even when hubby died, I had the strongest urges to use again...but I chose NO. I knew it would kill me if I didn't stop...that was my inspiration. At 5 1/2 yrs clean, it's amazing to know that you have a choice...and if you can't do it by yourself, go into a treatment center, that's what I had to do.

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Sat Apr 18, 2009 4:08 pm

My biggest regret is taking that damn pain med that didn't help the pain, but put me into a really deep sleep. My hubby took too many meds and he passed out on our bedroom floor and I didn't hear him. Maybe I could have gotten him help in time, and if not, I could have at least been with him when he died. :-1

princessladedah · Post by **princessladedah** » Sat Apr 18, 2009 4:39 pm

My financial situation, I wouldnt be filthy rich I would choose to be poor:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Sun Apr 19, 2009 9:08 am

Lon;1176960 wrote: My diapers:wah::yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Sun Apr 19, 2009 9:11 am

shelbell;1177106 wrote: You will die Jimbutt. It's time to stop. Even when hubby died, I had the strongest urges to use again...but I chose NO. I knew it would kill me if I didn't stop...that was my inspiration. At 5 1/2 yrs clean, it's amazing to know that you have a choice...and if you can't do it by yourself, go into a treatment center, that's what I had to do.I know your story Shel and you also know what ive been through having had so many people close to me with drink problems.You have been through something that was so bad and tested you big time regarding the drink......you didn't let yourself down and you should be so proud of yourself as I know your dear hubby must be looking down on you:-4:-4