advice please!

A Karenina · Post by **A Karenina** » Mon Jan 31, 2005 9:00 pm

When did you lose that loving feeling? It's hard to answer without knowing more facts. Go for it, Bratgirl. Talk it through.

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Mon Jan 31, 2005 9:15 pm

Hasn't worked since September, mopes around. I guess you are supporting the two of you then, other than mabe his unemployment benefits. You need him like a whole in the head. KICK HIM OUT!!!!

A Karenina · Post by **A Karenina** » Mon Jan 31, 2005 9:17 pm

If you've fallen out of love and don't think there's any future...then you have your answer.

I imagine you waited to make sure you no longer loved him, and then he lost his job, and now you feel responsible for him, guilty.

The only thing you're guilty of is waiting to see how it would play out. If you left him before he lost his job, and then you found out about it, would you still feel bad?

It's never easy to tell someone you don't love them anymore.

It's even more difficult when they already have problems. Is there any way to find a middle ground? Be upfront with him about your feelings for him, and yet let him stay on for 30 or 60 days (some kind of time limit) until he gets back on his feet?

A Karenina · Post by **A Karenina** » Mon Jan 31, 2005 9:19 pm

Lon wrote: Hasn't worked since September, mopes around. I guess you are supporting the two of you then, other than mabe his unemployment benefits. You need him like a whole in the head. KICK HIM OUT!!!!
Know what? Men are always able to get directly to the point and call it like they see it. I admire that!

So ignore my thoughts, and listen to the men here. They are really great people.

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Mon Jan 31, 2005 11:14 pm

He may be down, but it wasn't your doing. We're talking survival here lady. The love is gone. KICK EM OUT FAST!!! Be strong!!!! Life is to short to spend on losers.

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Tue Feb 01, 2005 4:15 am

asking someone to leave is a difficult thing to do.......But 6 months becomes six years rapidly. Living with resentment, and no love does more damage to peoples psyches the longer it goes on. When you support anyone financially for an extended period of time.. They wind up resenting it. And I agree from life experience.. If HE wanted to go, for any reason..... Hed be out of there in a heart beat.