Update from Peg

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Sun Apr 23, 2006 5:00 pm

As most of you know, my husband has been drinking after 23 years of sobriety. Here's the update. He will not go to AA or rehab. He says he knows the program and knows what he needs to do. They will tell him to quit his bartending job and he feels that at 53 years old, he couldn't find another job. I highly disagree. He worked with juveniles for 20+ years before becoming burnt out. But I cannot solve his problem for him. It is his problem and he must find a way to solve it hisself. Unfortunately, this also affects me and our children. I have to have faith in him. He beat it once, hopefully he can again. If he does take another drink though, I am prepared to do what I must for my survival and my children.

He was also a drug addict. The doctor recently prescribed a Duragesic patch. I have talked him out of using it. He has an appointment Tuesday and I told them he is diabetic and drinking again and that it's crazy to give a recovering drug addict a narcotic patch. They seemed unaware of the fact that he is a recovering drug addict and I know damn well that it was in his charts at one time.:-5

Thank you all for the pm's and kind words. Wish me luck. Wish US luck.

Maxi_Uno · Post by **Maxi_Uno** » Sun Apr 23, 2006 5:38 pm

Peg wrote: As most of you know, my husband has been drinking after 23 years of sobriety. Here's the update. He will not go to AA or rehab. He says he knows the program and knows what he needs to do. They will tell him to quit his bartending job and he feels that at 53 years old, he couldn't find another job. I highly disagree. He worked with juveniles for 20+ years before becoming burnt out. But I cannot solve his problem for him. It is his problem and he must find a way to solve it hisself. Unfortunately, this also affects me and our children. I have to have faith in him. He beat it once, hopefully he can again. If he does take another drink though, I am prepared to do what I must for my survival and my children.

He was also a drug addict. The doctor recently prescribed a Duragesic patch. I have talked him out of using it. He has an appointment Tuesday and I told them he is diabetic and drinking again and that it's crazy to give a recovering drug addict a narcotic patch. They seemed unaware of the fact that he is a recovering drug addict and I know damn well that it was in his charts at one time.:-5

Thank you all for the pm's and kind words. Wish me luck. Wish US luck.

Be prepared to stand by what you've said, there is no way he is going to get this under control on his own. Maybe he can collect SSI and get treatment and job reraining....Find out your options as it is a disease. How many children do you have?

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Sun Apr 23, 2006 5:54 pm

Wishing you both all the best! :yh_shamrk

cars · Post by **cars** » Sun Apr 23, 2006 5:56 pm

Peg wrote: As most of you know, my husband has been drinking after 23 years of sobriety. Here's the update. He will not go to AA or rehab. He says he knows the program and knows what he needs to do. They will tell him to quit his bartending job and he feels that at 53 years old, he couldn't find another job. I highly disagree. He worked with juveniles for 20+ years before becoming burnt out. But I cannot solve his problem for him. It is his problem and he must find a way to solve it hisself. Unfortunately, this also affects me and our children. I have to have faith in him. He beat it once, hopefully he can again. If he does take another drink though, I am prepared to do what I must for my survival and my children.

He was also a drug addict. The doctor recently prescribed a Duragesic patch. I have talked him out of using it. He has an appointment Tuesday and I told them he is diabetic and drinking again and that it's crazy to give a recovering drug addict a narcotic patch. They seemed unaware of the fact that he is a recovering drug addict and I know damn well that it was in his charts at one time.:-5

Thank you all for the pm's and kind words. Wish me luck. Wish US luck.

Sorry to hear the bad news Peg, just wondering do you know what set him off after "23" long years? 23 years was quite a significant accomplishment on his part, and it's now turining out to be such a sad turn of events. If we could only turn back the hands of time! As the song goes: What a difference a day makes, "24" little hours!

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Sun Apr 23, 2006 6:54 pm

He said it started out as a drink or 2 to unwind after work.

We have 2 teenagers Maxi.

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 12:25 am

You are in my thoughts Peg, :yh_flower

i hope your husband finds the strength to fight his demons.:yh_hugs

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 12:37 am

He does have to do this on his own, but with your support and firm hand, maybe he can make it. I wish you the very best luck with this, Peg. I know all too well what you're going through. Stick to your guns, as I know you will.

chrisb84uk · Post by **chrisb84uk** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 3:20 am

Sorry to hear about this Peg. I'm sure that what you are going through is tough, but I'm positive that everything will turn out well for both you and your family. Keep staying positive and best wishes to u all!!! :yh_hugs

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 3:32 am

My thoughts and prayers are with you all, Peg.:yh_hugs :yh_hugs

greydeadhead · Post by **greydeadhead** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 7:05 am

Hey Peg..

Tons of positive vibes for you and hubby.. if ya need anything, feel free, you know where to find me...

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 4:26 pm

If he wants it the pair of you can win.

He's shown before that he's the strength of mind, you can help him with the strength of will. If he wants to climb back on the wagon between you, you can do it.

The very best of luck to you both.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 4:33 pm

I have hope

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Mon Apr 24, 2006 7:11 pm

You are the only person who knows what is best for you and the kids. I know you have the strength to follow through on whatever decision you make. I'll be thinking of you. BTW......love your jokes.