Sad Thought

Uncle Fester · Post by **Uncle Fester** » Sun May 06, 2007 7:50 am

I am in one of those strange moods and this sad though came into my mind , you are a member of a nice forum FG for example and you fall off your perch

and no one knows anything about it , all that happens some one posts " have not seen so and so for a while " unless you are known personally by another member you just disappear into cyberspace , :-1

pinkchick · Post by **pinkchick** » Sun May 06, 2007 7:54 am

You know what??? I was thinking the same thing this morning! It is a very sad thought:-1

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Sun May 06, 2007 8:03 am

I see what you are saying Unc, we all have a special friendship that you would only expect in a physical friendship (can't think what to call a none on-line friendship). With a non-online friendship if your friend disappeared you are able to try and find them or find out what happened to them, and possibly help them. Here if they disappear you are powerless - however strongly you felt for that person.

I guess we cannot change this - even though it hurts. I quote 'better to have loved and lost than never loved'. I think the joy, fun and friendship we get here is worth the risk. :-6 :-4 :-4

pinkchick · Post by **pinkchick** » Sun May 06, 2007 8:08 am

ThePheasant;607607 wrote: I see what you are saying Unc, we all have a special friendship that you would only expect in a physical friendship (can't think what to call a none on-line friendship). With a non-online friendship if your friend disappeared you are able to try and find them or find out what happened to them, and possibly help them. Here if they disappear you are powerless - however strongly you felt for that person.

I guess we cannot change this - even though it hurts. I quote 'better to have loved and lost than never loved'. I think the joy, fun and friendship we get here is worth the risk. :-6 :-4 :-4

I totally agree Pheasy!! I think we all add SOMETHING to each others lives here - although I haven't figured out what yet!:-4

koan · Post by **koan** » Sun May 06, 2007 8:37 am

I think online friendships require diligence to turn into anything significant. It's the same way with real life friendships. I've left this forum before for a time period with no announcement of my leaving and no checking back to see if anyone asked where I was. Regardless, a few people kept in touch with me and, eventually, one of them talked me into coming back at which point a thread was started about my my return but I didn't know it until months after the thread had been sent to the dirt pile. Yep. That kind of thread.

Having said that, I've been here since the early days of the forum and invested a lot of energy for better or worse. The better and worse seem to alternate depending on the current climate. You will be amazed how much your persona evolves over time. If you invest the time.

It is your persona, not you. No one online will ever really know who you are unless they go further and invest the energy to meet you.

In real life, I've spent a year or more developing close friendships that I've walked away from and not looked back. Sometimes for a very good reason and sometimes because we grew in different directions. I've also gone for many years not speaking to close friends who are still close friends. We always meet up again and I find it fascinating to see how much we have both changed, but our fondness for each other remains.

There isn't a hell of a lot of difference between what is required to maintain online friendships and real life comparisons. I've also known a number of people who might have thought they knew a fair bit about me but really just knew a persona. If you meet one person in real life or online who actually understands what you are about then count yourself lucky. If you have more that one person who really understands you multiply how lucky you are.

Then don't worry about it.

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Sun May 06, 2007 3:37 pm

I agree with Pinky. I have me a couple of people in RL (not from here) and found them nice, but to be honest did not consider them any more or less "friends" than folks I have not met.

Like Pinky, I do have a couple of people set up to let the garden know if something were to happen to me....as with Cheshire Cat and when BR had her crash.

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Sun May 06, 2007 5:10 pm

Pinky, I do miss CC too. We were starting to become friends...we PM'ed often while we were supposed to be working.

koan · Post by **koan** » Sun May 06, 2007 6:37 pm

I missed the bit about this being about dying somehow.

In that case, I think you've got bigger problems than disappearing from cyberspace. :wah:

sorry, that did strike me as funny.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Mon May 07, 2007 4:26 am

I left for awhile & now I'm finding out that some of my best buds have dropped.

Where's Nomad & Flopstock?

Post by **spot** » Mon May 07, 2007 4:44 am

Round the back of the bike sheds, of course. You can see the smoke from here.

SlipStream · Post by **SlipStream** » Mon May 07, 2007 5:02 am

I tend to get on with most people. respect's the name of the game be it in RL or cyber space!

Uncle Fester · Post by **Uncle Fester** » Mon May 07, 2007 6:18 am

I have let it be known that I must be buried with my Laptop :driving:

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Mon May 07, 2007 6:19 am

the people who've left here have chosen to do so....but it's still sad :-1 .......like we meant nothing to them...........*sunny throws herself upon Uncle Fester, sobbing*.....

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Mon May 07, 2007 6:22 am

Uncle Fester;608102 wrote: I have let it be known that I must be buried with my Laptop :driving:

Where exactly will you be buried? I need exact location ( graveyard, plot number etc.) :wah: :-4 :-4

Uncle Fester · Post by **Uncle Fester** » Mon May 07, 2007 6:24 am

ThePheasant;608104 wrote: Where exactly will you be buried? I need exact location ( graveyard, plot number etc.) :wah: :-4 :-4

I will PM you when I get there :p

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Mon May 07, 2007 6:25 am

Uncle Fester;608105 wrote: I will PM you when I get there :p

:wah: Okay Unc. Don't die anytime soon. I need time to get my grave robbing kit together :wah: Pheasy:-4

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Mon May 07, 2007 6:31 am

Accountable;608060 wrote: I left for awhile & now I'm finding out that some of my best buds have dropped.

Where's Nomad & Flopstock?

I should've kept you updated.....

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon May 07, 2007 8:49 am

Uncle Fester;607603 wrote: I am in one of those strange moods and this sad though came into my mind , you are a member of a nice forum FG for example and you fall off your perch

and no one knows anything about it , all that happens some one posts " have not seen so and so for a while " unless you are known personally by another member you just disappear into cyberspace , :-1

yes that is sad isn't it.

I am fortunate to have my daughter keeping in touch with Angeleyes and between the 2 of them, word would get out if anything happened to me.

I dunno Uncle Fes, I would suggest if you have any kind of family or friend support system, be sure to include FG's website as a "please contact" listing. Folks do not need to sign into your profile they could just come on and let others know what has gone on.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon May 07, 2007 8:50 am

Accountable;608060 wrote: I left for awhile & now I'm finding out that some of my best buds have dropped.

Where's Nomad & Flopstock?

we wish we knew.

beautyful · Post by **beautyful** » Mon May 07, 2007 9:02 am

Its quite sad to think one day we could just disappear and no-one would know where we had gone (or miss us?) I come and go sporadically on here so i guess people wouldn't notice i'd gone :-1

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon May 07, 2007 9:41 am

beautyful;608210 wrote: Its quite sad to think one day we could just disappear and no-one would know where we had gone (or miss us?) I come and go sporadically on here so i guess people wouldn't notice i'd gone :-1

Awww we always wonder where our good members get to.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon May 07, 2007 9:46 am

minks;608230 wrote: Awww we always wonder where our good members get to.

Yeah, one of the reasons they call me "Wonder Wendy"...ha ha ha ....okay getting old I know.

Seriously, I think we all get concerned if anyone really cares, and I for one at times think that I get on everyones nerves, but then again....well it's all good in the hood init???

Hopefully we will all grow old together with our PC's in working order!!:-4

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon May 07, 2007 9:48 am

WonderWendy3;608238 wrote: Yeah, one of the reasons they call me "Wonder Wendy"...ha ha ha ....okay getting old I know.

Seriously, I think we all get concerned if anyone really cares, and I for one at times think that I get on everyones nerves, but then again....well it's all good in the hood init???

Hopefully we will all grow old together with our PC's in working order!!:-4

hun somebody always cares, here in FG your friends care, anyone who isn't your freind well then who cares right....

We all have at least one person here that cares about us.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon May 07, 2007 9:51 am

minks;608241 wrote: hun somebody always cares, here in FG your friends care, anyone who isn't your freind well then who cares right....

We all have at least one person here that cares about us.

Yeah, you have a point, I have Uncle Fester keeping an eye on me through his telescope!! At least I think thats what that is!!

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon May 07, 2007 10:00 am

WonderWendy3;608245 wrote: Yeah, you have a point, I have Uncle Fester keeping an eye on me through his telescope!! At least I think thats what that is!!

stalker

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon May 07, 2007 10:03 am

minks;608251 wrote: stalker

yep, get your own please!! :wah: :wah:

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon May 07, 2007 10:14 am

WonderWendy3;608253 wrote: yep, get your own please!! :wah: :wah:

I want one, I want one hehehehe

Or not.

Uncle Fester · Post by **Uncle Fester** » Mon May 07, 2007 10:29 am

minks;608261 wrote: I want one, I want one hehehehe

Or not.
You are just jealous :p I will add you to my Perv list if you want , you will have to provide a neckid piccy :sneaky: ( did I just say that ) too lazy to edit , piccy's are optional , remember though WW3 is my number one :-4

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon May 07, 2007 10:33 am

Uncle Fester;608266 wrote: You are just jealous I will add you to my Perv list if you want , you will have to provide a neckid piccy :sneaky: ( did I just say that ) too lazy to edit , piccy's are optional , remember though WW3 is my number one :-4

Awww, Uncle:-4 It's so nice to be loved by a Pervert!! My day is made now, first Minks shows me my favorite Monkey and my Stalker whispers sweet nothings on the computer screen...what more could a girl want???:D

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon May 07, 2007 10:33 am

Uncle Fester;608266 wrote: You are just jealous :p I will add you to my Perv list if you want , you will have to provide a neckid piccy :sneaky: ( did I just say that ) too lazy to edit , piccy's are optional , remember though WW3 is my number one :-4

aw Fester I'd love to be second best but ummmm NOPE hehehehehe:wah: