Long lost children coming home

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Jun 26, 2007 3:29 am

For the men - do you ever wonder if a teenager will knock on your door one day & say hi im your son or daughter?

How do you think you would feel? What if you couldent remember who the mother was, would you admit that or play along to the kid that you did know?

For parents separated from young children to hook up later, did your kids look like you thought they would or would you have passed them in the street not knowing them. Did they turn into the type of people you thought they would? Is it difficult to build bonds after long separations?

Carl44 · Post by **Carl44** » Tue Jun 26, 2007 3:38 am

buttercup;646192 wrote: For the men - do you ever wonder if a teenager will knock on your door one day & say hi im your son or daughter?

How do you think you would feel? What if you couldent remember who the mother was, would you admit that or play along to the kid that you did know?

For parents separated from young children to hook up later, did your kids look like you thought they would or would you have passed them in the street not knowing them. Did they turn into the type of people you thought they would? Is it difficult to build bonds after long separations?

as you know my girl has come home after 12 years

what amazes me is she is exactly like me mannerisms i do mean exactly and my ways .... poor thing but it shows just how much genes do play in a persons make up emotionally huh :-3 :-3

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Jun 26, 2007 3:45 am

Jim what if a complete stranger turned up & said - your my dad?

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Tue Jun 26, 2007 7:43 am

I have that thought enter my head every once in awhile. I would have no problem knowing who the mother was, as the child would be "unique" looking compared to any of the others that could have happened. The only problem I would have would be the missing years.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Jun 26, 2007 7:59 am

Thanks Jim & KB, i hoped a few more men would enter this thread, maybe its just too scary a topic to think about.

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Tue Jun 26, 2007 8:01 am

buttercup;646361 wrote: Thanks Jim & KB, i hoped a few more men would enter this thread, maybe its just too scary a topic to think about.

It don't scare me, I've known for a long time how babies are made. I'll quote Dylan (Bob) "You can play with fire, but you'll get the bill".

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » Tue Jun 26, 2007 8:10 am

The wondering of what his reaction might be, is what has kept me from locating my biofather!

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Tue Jun 26, 2007 8:20 am

How about a srange man attending your Mother's funeral when you're 19 years old. Your Grandfather see's him and starts telling him to get the F out. then shoves him out the door.

You run after him, already drunk from too many shots of Chivas at the pub next door which were free cause you went to high school with the pub owner and the funeral director.

You look at the man and say, "Who are you?"

:-5

THAT is why I fight to be near my son. As long as I live I shall be with Him.

Thank you. Rant over.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Jun 26, 2007 8:21 am

Has your mother given you much info Sheryl or is it a taboo subject?

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Tue Jun 26, 2007 8:32 am

JacksDad;646375 wrote: How about a srange man attending your Mother's funeral when you're 19 years old. Your Grandfather see's him and starts telling him to get the F out. then shoves him out the door.

You run after him, already drunk from too many shots of Chivas at the pub next door which were free cause you went to high school with the pub owner and the funeral director.

You look at the man and say, "Who are you?"

:-5

THAT is why I fight to be near my son. As long as I live I shall be with Him.

Thank you. Rant over.

That sir sounds like a story, go write one. Ooops, sorry I called you sir, sir.

JacksDad · Post by **JacksDad** » Tue Jun 26, 2007 8:39 am

KB.;646386 wrote: That sir sounds like a story, go write one. Ooops, sorry I called you sir, sir.

:wah:

Lot's of stories, KB.

Just lost my Muse and can't seem to find her.

Thanks for letting me get that out of my system.

KB. · Post by **KB.** » Tue Jun 26, 2007 8:44 am

JacksDad;646393 wrote: :wah:

Just lost my Muse and can't seem to find her.

Hate when that happens.

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » Tue Jun 26, 2007 9:20 am

buttercup;646376 wrote: Has your mother given you much info Sheryl or is it a taboo subject?

I know his name, and his occupation. That's it though. I asked her after my son was born what he looked like. Her response was "How the hell should I remember, I was drunk that night" Yea made me feel and inch tall.

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Tue Jun 26, 2007 9:34 am

Well there's nothing i'd like better right now than to wrap my arms round you & give you a big hug Sheryl& down a few bottles of wine with you.

Fluck your mother

probably irritates her you turned out such a phenomenal woman despite her showering you with venom.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Jun 26, 2007 9:45 am

Sheryl;646418 wrote: I know his name, and his occupation. That's it though. I asked her after my son was born what he looked like. Her response was "How the hell should I remember, I was drunk that night" Yea made me feel and inch tall.

Oiy how bloody awful

Im the flip of the coin, I shan't go looking for the one I gave up it's their right to choose not mine. Sure curious, sure worried, but again I don't feel it's my right to disrupt their life.

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » Tue Jun 26, 2007 9:52 am

It's ok Buttercup, I've cut her out of my life. I've got some great parents now, even though they are my aunt and uncle. But they treat my kids like their grandkids, and that is what matters most!

SuzyB · Post by **SuzyB** » Wed Jun 27, 2007 12:25 pm

I think it all depends if my partner had been unfaithful, If a child turned up saying that Jim was their Dad and they had been conceived before we met, then I would fully support both of them. If the child was through Jim being unfaithful then I would be majorly pissed off with him, not quite sure that I could forgive him, but I would be supportive to the child and a friend to Jim.