getting your life back into shape

mikeinie · Post by **mikeinie** » Wed Mar 26, 2008 8:17 am

For me it was the book Illusions by Richard Bach. A very basic and simple book but this is how I interpreted the meaning of it and it changed the way I was heading in life at the time.

In a nutshell, we are responsible for everything in our own lives, our happiness, our sadness are achievements and our failures. Everything you do is by choice. If you don’t like your life, change it. If you are unhappy with your circumstances, either change them, or accept the fact that you choose not to change them and find happiness within your choice.

In the end it is all up to you and what you do with your life, don’t blame anyone else or try to hold anyone else responsible. You are in total control. Take responsibility.

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Wed Mar 26, 2008 8:22 am

mikeinie;816745 wrote: For me it was the book Illusions by Richard Bach. A very basic and simple book but this is how I interpreted the meaning of it and it changed the way I was heading in life at the time.

In a nutshell, we are responsible for everything in our own lives, our happiness, our sadness are achievements and our failures. Everything you do is by choice. If you don’t like your life, change it. If you are unhappy with your circumstances, either change them, or accept the fact that you choose not to change them and find happiness within your choice.

In the end it is all up to you and what you do with your life, don’t blame anyone else or try to hold anyone else responsible. You are in total control. Take responsibility.

that sums it up perfectly! I've always thought that way, too. :-6

moonpie · Post by **moonpie** » Wed Mar 26, 2008 8:27 am

sunny104;816752 wrote: that sums it up perfectly! I've always thought that way, too. :-6

I like that too. It is exactly the way I feel too.

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Wed Mar 26, 2008 8:35 am

mikeinie;816745 wrote: For me it was the book Illusions by Richard Bach. A very basic and simple book but this is how I interpreted the meaning of it and it changed the way I was heading in life at the time.

In a nutshell, we are responsible for everything in our own lives, our happiness, our sadness are achievements and our failures. Everything you do is by choice. If you don’t like your life, change it. If you are unhappy with your circumstances, either change them, or accept the fact that you choose not to change them and find happiness within your choice.In the end it is all up to you and what you do with your life, don’t blame anyone else or try to hold anyone else responsible. You are in total control. Take responsibility.

Wow! I'm always saying that! Good post Mike:D:-4

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Wed Mar 26, 2008 1:49 pm

In other words, do not be the victim in your life.........be the hero.

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Wed Mar 26, 2008 2:03 pm

An ancient proverb says, "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Success starts with taking one small step toward your goal. Goals can be immediate or long term. If you get overwhelmed easily, it's helpful to have both immediate and long term goals. Pick daily, weekly and monthly goals, and reevaluate your goals periodically to make sure they're still in line with your desired outcome.

If your goals overwhelm you, break them down into more reasonable chunks and work on them first. For example, if you want to lose 40 pounds, that number may seem intimidating and daunting. Breaking it down into 5 pound increments sounds much easier and less discouraging. Small victories lead to major triumphs.

Many times people use their circumstances as an excuse for not meeting their goal. Outside circumstances such as kid's activities or sickness can't always be controlled, but there are two other things that drive success; motivation and goals. Even if circumstances can't be changed, goals can be changed and motivation can be increased. Circumstances may seem like a stumbling block, but if you work within your circumstance and have a clear vision of what you want in your future, you will succeed.

And Remember Rome wasnt built in a day:D

Clodhopper · Post by **Clodhopper** » Wed Mar 26, 2008 3:48 pm

Jimbo: Sympathy. I've been there, or somewhere like it. Lost wife, career and what little self respect I'd managed to develop. I think Chezzie's advice is very good - one step at a time.

You must have some idea what the issues in your life are. If you can identify one small thing that you could change for the better now, start on that. Don't try to do everything at once.

If serious drug or alcohol abuse is involved, talk to your doctor. Giving up is tough, but the rewards are enormous. It sounds as though you have ample motivation and that always helps.

Clodhopper · Post by **Clodhopper** » Wed Mar 26, 2008 4:44 pm

having had two brothers and a daughter die i guess when my girl goes missing for three months my mind is allready in grief mode

!!!! Man, that's tough. I'm not surprised you were going nuts when this daughter disappeared. I don't think you ever "get over" that sort of thing but you can, I think, learn to live with it.

Chuckle. I "coped" with the demon drink by smoking cannabis. It's only in the last six months that I've felt strong enough to try to give it up. Failed once, but have started again and am now er, 9 days in. If I fail again, I'll just have to start again and the thought of that is helping me stay off this time. Just have to cope with the three minute madnesses when frankly I'd smoke the carpet if I could get the damn thing to light!:wah:

Best of luck, old thing. :driving: You know we're here if you want to scream and shout for a bit. (Haven't been here long, but have gathered there are other good people happy to help if they can)

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Wed Mar 26, 2008 10:42 pm

Great post Jimbo me lad, I read those 7 points, hard to argue with any of them is it? :-6

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 1:07 am

jimbo;817659 wrote: thanks hoff me old mucker

:)

indeed you must know how i feel after sunderlands win over your villians last week , very sporting of kazalalalala not to gloat i feel :-6

mind you the less said about Englands loss to france the better :rolleyes:

Yes the Sunderland match was a black day for the Vanilla, we have definitely gone off the boil, still there is time to turn it around before the end of the season.

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 4:47 am

jimbo;817491 wrote: thanks for your reply buddy

i have beaten my demon , drink

i have spoken to my daughter again tonight on the phone , i just have keep my big yap shut and let my daughter live her life her way if i want to stay in it

its just so hard to keep it shut when she is having tattoo's etc that i know she will bitterly regret later in life

but i am now free of the worry of if she is ok , having had two brothers and a daughter die i guess when my girl goes missing for three months my mind is allready in grief mode

but i feel like i have been given my life back now , i can live it for me again and it feels great

now to take that first step on my journey

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tut its only tattoo's JImbo... stop being such a big dad:rolleyes: you of all people know theres worse things than getting a tattoo's

keep the contact, it'l get better:-4:-4