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Accountable wrote: I'm pretty sure there's an apology at the top of the next page of one of those links. I also apologised in a PM, which she quite graciously turned down.


Oh dear, this is quite embarrassing. I did not post a goodbye in order to have people beg me to stay, as has been suggested, I just thought it rather rude to vanish without a word.

There are, however, a few things in this thread that need clearing up: Accountable, please do not say things that are not true. I replied to your PM (is it not customary to regard the contents of PMs as confidential?) by thanking you most sincerely for your apology. I now thank you again, in public. It was decent of you and I have no further issues in this respect.

Another poster has said that nobody was rude. I beg to differ:

"I'M QUITE SURE BOTHWELL'S RESERVES

THE RIGHT TO REFUSE SERVICE TO

ANYONE, I KNOW THE PROPRIETOR AND

HONEY, I'M MAKING SURE YOU GO TO THE HEAD OF THAT LIST!

"

Originally Posted by Ruth

What an extremely vulgar outburst. Don't you find it just a teeny little bit embarrassing that you have failed to detect the ironic humour in my message?



"ME? EMBARRASSED?



Don't YOU find it embarrassing that out of all the thousands and thousands

of posts in our beloved Pub, yours is the first and ONLY one to mention

a "mess"?

If that's humor, we don't need it. Okay, right, I shouldn't speak for others.

I'll come right out and say *I* don't need it. But I know for a fact"

I'm not alone in this.

__________________

I will not comment on the stupidity of the above; some things are better glossed over. Or should I endeavour to explain the joke? That I was taking the **** out of myself, that I was the one who made the virtual mess in the virtual pub that stirs such violent passion? That far from my callous sarcasm that one poster has mentioned, it was all self-mockery, I "disgraced myself" and shocked the civilised locals by getting virtually drunk on my first visit to the virtual pub and made a mess. It was a joke - oh god, this is excruciating!

Then the mid-thread instructions, the proprietary attitude to the forum:

"I think it is just common courtesy to let the person who started the

thread sort of direct it... "

"Uh, I thought LadyCop started the thread? What am I missing?"

"We quite often have lively debate around here, but for the most part

we refrain from unequivocally stating another's intent or premise

without that person's knowledge or input."

(I laboured in vain here to explain that there was no premise stated in the opening post of the thread, so if there was no premise, then I felt safe to assume there was none, without being told there was none by the person who started the thread. . . ):-5

There is something incestuous and oh-so-heavy in all these bizarre messages and misunderstandings. This is why I decided I did not want to stay with the forum and tip-toe through the labyrinth of unspoken understandings and complicated status systems and alpha-female rivalries.

My e-mail inbox is full of notifications that I have not been able to access, sorry, but thanks to all for the unread messages.

Ruth

Ruth wrote: Oh dear, this is quite embarrassing. I did not post a goodbye in order to have people beg me to stay, as has been suggested, I just thought it rather rude to vanish without a word.



There are, however, a few things in this thread that need clearing up: Accountable, please do not say things that are not true. I replied to your PM (is it not customary to regard the contents of PMs as confidential?) by thanking you most sincerely for your apology. I now thank you again, in public. It was decent of you and I have no further issues in this respect.





Another poster has said that nobody was rude. I beg to differ:



"I'M QUITE SURE BOTHWELL'S RESERVES

THE RIGHT TO REFUSE SERVICE TO

ANYONE, I KNOW THE PROPRIETOR AND

HONEY, I'M MAKING SURE YOU GO TO THE HEAD OF THAT LIST!



:mad: "



Originally Posted by Ruth

What an extremely vulgar outburst. Don't you find it just a teeny little bit embarrassing that you have failed to detect the ironic humour in my message?





"ME? EMBARRASSED?





Don't YOU find it embarrassing that out of all the thousands and thousands

of posts in our beloved Pub, yours is the first and ONLY one to mention

a "mess"?



If that's humor, we don't need it. Okay, right, I shouldn't speak for others.

I'll come right out and say *I* don't need it. But I know for a fact"

I'm not alone in this.

__________________



I will not comment on the stupidity of the above; some things are better glossed over. Or should I endeavour to explain the joke? That I was taking the **** out of myself, that I was the one who made the virtual mess in the virtual pub that stirs such violent passion? That far from my callous sarcasm that one poster has mentioned, it was all self-mockery, I "disgraced myself" and shocked the civilised locals by getting virtually drunk on my first visit to the virtual pub and made a mess. It was a joke - oh god, this is excruciating!



Then the mid-thread instructions, the proprietary attitude to the forum:



"I think it is just common courtesy to let the person who started the

thread sort of direct it... "



"Uh, I thought LadyCop started the thread? What am I missing?"



"We quite often have lively debate around here, but for the most part

we refrain from unequivocally stating another's intent or premise

without that person's knowledge or input."



(I laboured in vain here to explain that there was no premise stated in the opening post of the thread, so if there was no premise, then I felt safe to assume there was none, without being told there was none by the person who started the thread. . . ):-5



There is something incestuous and oh-so-heavy in all these bizarre messages and misunderstandings. This is why I decided I did not want to stay with the forum and tip-toe through the labyrinth of unspoken understandings and complicated status systems and alpha-female rivalries.



My e-mail inbox is full of notifications that I have not been able to access, sorry, but thanks to all for the unread messages.

Ruth




See you tomorrow Ruth:)

Have a good rest

SCT:-6

Ruth wrote:

that I was the one who made the virtual mess in the virtual pub that stirs such violent passion? That far from my callous sarcasm that one poster has mentioned, it was all self-mockery, I "disgraced myself"


I recently suggested some newbies might like to pooper-scooper the garden. I'd like to point out here that I did not 'disgrace myself' by producing the stuff that needed pooper-scoopering.......just in case ya thought it was me! hehehehehe

As for the rest....it's easy to misunderstand others when you can't see their faces or hear their tone of voice!

Some people see manure.........some people see the beautiful roses that grow from it!

Personally, I think we've had enough manure delivered recently to feed the roses til next year. So, as we're all adults here (physically at least! hehehe ) why not just shake hands, agree it was a misunderstanding between "cousins" from either side of the pond, then go and drink some of that pond water....erm...I mean, delicious brew, of course (hehehe *whew*) and chill out together? hmmm??

Rapunzel wrote: I recently suggested some newbies might like to pooper-scooper the garden. I'd like to point out here that I did not 'disgrace myself' by producing the stuff that needed pooper-scoopering.......just in case ya thought it was me! hehehehehe



As for the rest....it's easy to misunderstand others when you can't see their faces or hear their tone of voice!

Some people see manure.........some people see the beautiful roses that grow from it!



Personally, I think we've had enough manure delivered recently to feed the roses til next year. So, as we're all adults here (physically at least! hehehe ) why not just shake hands, agree it was a misunderstanding between "cousins" from either side of the pond, then go and drink some of that pond water....erm...I mean, delicious brew, of course (hehehe *whew*) and chill out together? hmmm??


and hash omelets for all :sneaky: -Ruth can bring the hash

Ruth wrote: Oh dear, this is quite embarrassing. I did not post a goodbye in order to have people beg me to stay, as has been suggested, I just thought it rather rude to vanish without a word.

There are, however, a few things in this thread that need clearing up: Accountable, please do not say things that are not true. I replied to your PM (is it not customary to regard the contents of PMs as confidential?) by thanking you most sincerely for your apology. I now thank you again, in public. It was decent of you and I have no further issues in this respect.

Another poster has said that nobody was rude. I beg to differ:

"I'M QUITE SURE BOTHWELL'S RESERVES

THE RIGHT TO REFUSE SERVICE TO

ANYONE, I KNOW THE PROPRIETOR AND

HONEY, I'M MAKING SURE YOU GO TO THE HEAD OF THAT LIST!

"

Originally Posted by Ruth

What an extremely vulgar outburst. Don't you find it just a teeny little bit embarrassing that you have failed to detect the ironic humour in my message?



"ME? EMBARRASSED?



Don't YOU find it embarrassing that out of all the thousands and thousands

of posts in our beloved Pub, yours is the first and ONLY one to mention

a "mess"?

If that's humor, we don't need it. Okay, right, I shouldn't speak for others.

I'll come right out and say *I* don't need it. But I know for a fact"

I'm not alone in this.

__________________

I will not comment on the stupidity of the above; some things are better glossed over. Or should I endeavour to explain the joke? That I was taking the **** out of myself, that I was the one who made the virtual mess in the virtual pub that stirs such violent passion? That far from my callous sarcasm that one poster has mentioned, it was all self-mockery, I "disgraced myself" and shocked the civilised locals by getting virtually drunk on my first visit to the virtual pub and made a mess. It was a joke - oh god, this is excruciating!

Then the mid-thread instructions, the proprietary attitude to the forum:

"I think it is just common courtesy to let the person who started the

thread sort of direct it... "

"Uh, I thought LadyCop started the thread? What am I missing?"

"We quite often have lively debate around here, but for the most part

we refrain from unequivocally stating another's intent or premise

without that person's knowledge or input."

(I laboured in vain here to explain that there was no premise stated in the opening post of the thread, so if there was no premise, then I felt safe to assume there was none, without being told there was none by the person who started the thread. . . ):-5

There is something incestuous and oh-so-heavy in all these bizarre messages and misunderstandings. This is why I decided I did not want to stay with the forum and tip-toe through the labyrinth of unspoken understandings and complicated status systems and alpha-female rivalries.

My e-mail inbox is full of notifications that I have not been able to access, sorry, but thanks to all for the unread messages.

Ruth
In my opinion, you are not the one that needs to be embarrassed in this situation. Please stay and sing in the chorus. Just ignore the ones that try to steal the spotlight. The audience usually does.

DesignerGal wrote: Ruth is being a baby. Did anyone see me start the "Im leaving, Im a victim thread" when sheryl_b went off on me about being bitter because I cant have my own children and that if I do adopt that child will never be mine? No. Get over it people! You are going to come across people that you dont ever agree with, you are going to come across people who have been here along time and know the rules and/or etiquette and sometimes you are going to come across people who are complete a$$holes. If you dont like it, LEAVE, thats your free will.

Im sick of seeing this crap. This is a forum where people discuss things from serious to non-sensical. Most of us make friends and some of us dont. Its just the way life is. ANd if you come here and cant make even one friend, its probably you, because there are over a thousand different people here. Valerie was completely polite to her (I cant speak for any PM's because I didnt see them).

I think its nice that everyone is supportive (I got alot and appreciate it more than you know) but do we really have to beg someone to stay that has been here a few days?


[QUOTE] but do we really have to beg someone to stay that has been here a few days?[QUOTE]

A few days or a year, it doesn't make one member more important than another.

not that I know anything about the current issue but I've decided to paste this delicious item whenever I see one of these from now on.

You've joined the ranks of the best Ruth. I clearly recall BR and LC (twice) saying 'goodbye, cruel world'. Then Captn Buzzard. Recently, Jives. (how ya doin'?) When people mean to leave the usually just do. If you actually do leave, perhaps I will be worse off for not having really gotten to know you. If you stay, have a good chuckle and shake it off.

the following attachment goes out to all the great speeches that have come and gone. (and then come back)

Attached files

koan wrote: not that I know anything about the current issue
That says something right there.



koan wrote: You've joined the ranks of the best Ruth. I clearly recall BR and LC (twice) saying 'goodbye, cruel world'. [.....] the following attachment goes out to all the great speeches that have come and gone. (and then come back)
If you care to re-hash old "goodbye" threads, then maybe you should have all the information. You do not know what went on behind the scenes in that particular instance (and it was once, not twice, as if that matters somehow). I will not re-hash them now for several reason, one being it's none of your business, another being I don't wish to embarrass anyone. Just next time, have all your facts before you prattle on.



As to the original topic and why it was brought up, I'd consider someone referring to being in the pub as "slumming" rather offensive myself. And since we don't know Ruth well yet, it was her obligation to make it clear she was joking, and not being an ass.

Wow that was something... misunderstandings tend to occur often with text... that's one of the reasons for the introduction of emoticons. I tried to speed read over it and there seems to be plenty of contradictions... maybe things will work themselves after the smoke clears?

To answer Snooze... actually, it is a copyrighted image... I got this info out of your avatar.

"... All artwork within is copyrighted by Lisa Victoria.



For permission to display Lisa's images please contact her via e-mail at lisa@lisavictoria.net. "

If your prone to quitting easily then how do you ever get anywhere ?

Sometimes you just have to shake it off and give it another go. You havent been here long enough to make enemies nor long enough to make a valid asessment of us.

Don't worry Snooze, no one will tell her........................

We'll hide at Clipper's, if he would only show up to feed us!

SnoozeControl wrote: Crap, now I'm getting all nervous that Lisa's gonna hunt me down for the dog that I am.:(I thought that was a hippo. This isn't another ostrich/emu thing again, is it? :-2

[QUOTE=Peg] but do we really have to beg someone to stay that has been here a few days?[QUOTE]

A few days or a year, it doesn't make one member more important than another.


What I meant to say was that Jives has been around along time and has forged some friendships and didnt make quick judgements about anyone like I FEEL Ruth might have. I didnt mean for it to sound like I thought anyone was more important than the other. Please forgive me.

Is she staying or not?

DesignerGal wrote: Ruth is being a baby. Did anyone see me start the "Im leaving, Im a victim thread" when sheryl_b went off on me about being bitter because I cant have my own children and that if I do adopt that child will never be mine? No. Get over it people! You are going to come across people that you dont ever agree with, you are going to come across people who have been here along time and know the rules and/or etiquette and sometimes you are going to come across people who are complete a$$holes. If you dont like it, LEAVE, thats your free will.

Im sick of seeing this crap. This is a forum where people discuss things from serious to non-sensical. Most of us make friends and some of us dont. Its just the way life is. ANd if you come here and cant make even one friend, its probably you, because there are over a thousand different people here. Valerie was completely polite to her (I cant speak for any PM's because I didnt see them).

I think its nice that everyone is supportive (I got alot and appreciate it more than you know) but do we really have to beg someone to stay that has been here a few days?


DG, I have two adopted daughters, & believe me don't let anyone tell you anything else, they are mine, & they feel the same way about me being their father. Anyone can make a baby, but not everyone can be "parents"!!!!

cars wrote: DG, I have two adopted daughters, & believe me don't let anyone tell you anything else, they are mine, & they feel the same way about me being their father. Anyone can make a baby, but not everyone can be "parents"!!!!






.......................................

StupidCowboyTricks wrote: .......................................


Look at DG's post (in BOLD) quoted in mine. :-2

cars wrote: DG, I have two adopted daughters, & believe me don't let anyone tell you anything else, they are mine, & they feel the same way about me being their father. Anyone can make a baby, but not everyone can be "parents"!!!!
You better believe it mate! My dad adopted me when I was 4. (product of moms first marriage.) I was calling him daddy BEFORE they were ever married! LOL! He's the only man I will EVER call daddy! (lovingly called popadopolis) hehehe And by gosh I'm HIS DAUGHTER!!:-4

Thanks Raven and cars! See, Ruth? Endless support here!

DesignerGal wrote: Thanks Raven and cars! See, Ruth? Endless support here!
Adopt all you want to darling! Those babies are yours from the minute you clap your eyes on them! And they will claim you theirs from the first cuddle! I promise!:-4

DesignerGal wrote: Thanks Raven and cars! See, Ruth? Endless support here!


and this has to do with what? Not the same.

StupidCowboyTricks wrote: .......................................
What is confusing about what cars posted?

BabyRider wrote: What is confusing about what cars posted?


Nothing, the thread shifted.........:sneaky:

StupidCowboyTricks wrote: Nothing, the thread shifted.........:sneaky:


OK Stupid, the thread did not shift, it only pointed out what DG said that Ruth had said to DG that upset DG. Where was the humor in that Stupid? :-2

cars wrote: OK Stupid, the thread did not shift, it only pointed out what DG said that Ruth had said to DG that upset DG. Where was the humor in that Stupid? :-2


It shifted at post #66 on down.....what does humor have to do with it?:-3

StupidCowboyTricks wrote: It shifted at post #66 on down.....what does humor have to do with it?:-3


Look at the very 1st post mid way down Stupid! :-2

cars wrote: Look at the very 1st post mid way down Stupid! :-2


Yeah, I know that, there were quite a few post between that and post #66, what is the "BIG issue here?

:-3 Here we go again!

StupidCowboyTricks wrote: Yeah, I know that, there were quite a few post between that and post #66, what is the "BIG issue here?


The big issue here is that my adoption reference was regarding a post where I was HARRASSED as Ruth claims to have been. My point was you didnt see me running around saying Im leaving. Once again, I got more support and tried to point out to Ruth that there are also nice things being said here. Are you reading ALL of the posts ALL the way through?

DesignerGal wrote: The big issue here is that my adoption reference was regarding a post where I was HARRASSED as Ruth claims to have been. My point was you didnt see me running around saying Im leaving. Once again, I got more support and tried to point out to Ruth that there are also nice things being said here. Are you reading ALL of the posts ALL the way through?


I read that and it still wasn't the same thing that happened.....

ChiptBeef wrote: One of the "senior" forum members, Jives,


Awwww. That was nice of you to call me a senior member, chip

What they heck is going on in this thread?

abbey wrote: :-3 Here we go again!


No Abbs, I'm tired of this crap.



however Ruth made a very valid point and observation.



Quote:

There is something incestuous and oh-so-heavy in all these bizarre messages and misunderstandings. This is why I decided I did not want to stay with the forum and tip-toe through the labyrinth of unspoken understandings and complicated status systems and alpha-female rivalries.

Frazzled nerves.

Accountable wrote: Frazzled nerves.


It's 'c cos you're lonely ACC.:-3

StupidCowboyTricks wrote: I read that and it still wasn't the same thing that happened.....


I am totally lost at what you are trying to say. Im sorry. I used myself as an example and people were replying to that example. Ruth is gone, so oh well. Lets move on...

Excellent Idea! Now everybody say goodbye to this thread.







Bye Bye thread!

Accountable wrote: Excellent Idea! Now everybody say goodbye to this thread.







Bye Bye thread!


Love, Peace and Hair Grease! B-ravo Y-ankee E-cho, thread!

Jives wrote:

What they heck is going on in this thread?


We're saying goodbye to Ruth.



Goodbye Ruth !

Bez wrote: We're saying goodbye to Ruth.



Goodbye Ruth !


What Bez said.

.......and still we post..... :yh_rotfl

I miss Ruth.

I guess in my own way Ill always miss Ruth.

I feel like the song from Sound of Music is playing, So Long, Farewell....................ha-ha, now you will all hear that melody all night long!:sneaky:

Do-re-mi..............................

Oh, that is the best one.

The Lonely Goatherd

Yo-da-laddy..............................

StupidCowboyTricks wrote: No Abbs, I'm tired of this crap.



however Ruth made a very valid point and observation.



Quote:

There is something incestuous and oh-so-heavy in all these bizarre messages and misunderstandings. This is why I decided I did not want to stay with the forum and tip-toe through the labyrinth of unspoken understandings and complicated status systems and alpha-female rivalries.Apologies SCT, my post was'nt aimed at you in particular,

just at the thread turning to a crapfest.

I should mind my beeswax and say "So long Ruth".