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Pinky wrote: :-4 That's so sweet!

Lucky, lucky Cher!


You're supposed to say that my husband is the lucky one :rolleyes: :p

Pinky wrote: Well of course he is!!! That goes without saying.


Girlfriends RULE! :guitarist

i mean, once all the cakes been eaten, there's kids, ironing, washing- the only chemistry i get is when i accidently mix bleach with mould spray.:wah:

Hamster wrote: Thanks for being so honest! It makes you wonder if you two would of had a real chance together if it weren't for the drugs?? Something I am sure you have wondered already-sorry for digging it up...:-5

And yes the common theme seems to be that it is always gonna be an itch you can't scratch even after months or even years apart...


I wonder that alot, but the ex would still be a factor... they are still very close.

No biggie, i have moved on in my life and am with someone now who although sometimes isn't the best man to have around, tries his damedest to make me happy. :-4

Hamster wrote: It is a grey area though isn't it??

And it seems that everyone who is replying seems to say they feel this way for someone they can't have??


Often makes me wonder why we waste our time But the good feels so darn good.

orbulus1 wrote: i mean, once all the cakes been eaten, there's kids, ironing, washing- the only chemistry i get is when i accidently mix bleach with mould spray.:wah:


Surely there must have been chemistry once though??

Betty Boop wrote: Surely there must have been chemistry once though??


Hmmm there makes you wonder how in a marriage the chemistry can wear off....

minks wrote: Hmmm there makes you wonder how in a marriage the chemistry can wear off....


Familiarity can do it. It's hard to keep the spark there when you watch him floss, walk around in his boxer shorts, skip a shower or have gas!

You've really gotta try to recreate the chemistry on a regular basis. Try to look at your partner the way you *used to* look at him.

Either that or get really drunk and have sex. :rolleyes: :p

cherandbuster wrote: Familiarity can do it. It's hard to keep the spark there when you watch him floss, walk around in his boxer shorts, skip a shower or have gas!

You've really gotta try to recreate the chemistry on a regular basis. Try to look at your partner the way you *used to* look at him.

Either that or get really drunk and have sex. :rolleyes: :p


CHER!!! Drunk men do not = good sex bah bleck zzzzzzzzzzzzzz I would rather read a good book ahahahahaha

I am sorry that was just plain funny. I shan't ex bash but I think my ex thought he was don Juan after a few beers OMG it was sad and pathetic ahahahaha

I agree you have to keep the spark and chemistry up in any good relationship between partners. There always has to be intrigue.

minks wrote: There always has to be intrigue.


Great point, Minxsy

That's really hard to do. But it's great if you can do it :guitarist

cherandbuster wrote: Great point, Minxsy

That's really hard to do. But it's great if you can do it :guitarist


complacency is a killer, you gotta go for adventure and intrigue and spice.... and fun... gosh what a lot of work, maybe I will just get another dog ahahahaha

I wish I could do that!! I know thats one thing my relationship has never had, Yet we are both extremely happy. So maybe its not always something every relationship needs...I know Ive never done the sexy pajamas or the striptese and the two of us are happy. In 3 years I have gotten flowers once. But yet again both extremely happy and extremely in love.

Hamster wrote: Ok here goes:

There is a person who comes into my life periodically and then seems to leave again... He is in no way "Mr Right" and my intellect knows that but somehow the rest of me seems to forget that. Logic, reasoning and everything just seem to leave as soon as he shows up!!

Have you ever met someone with whom the "Chemistry" is just amazing? Does all sense of logic and reason disappear when you are around this person?? You know...where time stands still and you can't seem you think of anything else??

:-5


i met my Mr. Chemistry on the internet.........I was bald and one breasted from chemo and he did not give a flying you know what..........We were married 8 months later.

John.............I loved him...he was my daughter's Godfather. He died 10 years ago. Killed by a teenage drunk driver.

We talked for years off and on about getting back together beause we never lost the love between us. He went a direction I could not follow but we stayed such close friends. He was always close to us.



Then he was dead........I sucked a lot of air over his death. He was a great loss to me.....................my best friend in the world was gone - my best friend in this world was GONE. We were friends for over 25 years. I guess I cannot tell you how much I miss him still.

So there........I still miss and love him

Do it in the chemistry lab....

Ah, my lucky ones who do well in chemistry.

My little Bunsen burner still warms my heart, when I go home after school everyday, and he smiles for me. One smile, and I am happy all day long.

Chemistry is more then the adrenalin, and the flow, it is what your heart feels for the other person.

chonsigirl wrote: Ah, my lucky ones who do well in chemistry.

My little Bunsen burner still warms my heart, when I go home after school everyday, and he smiles for me. One smile, and I am happy all day long.

Chemistry is more then the adrenalin, and the flow, it is what your heart feels for the other person.


What a wise woman you are

Our lovely Chonsi :-6

yep. i had that chemistry with my ex when i met him. when the chemistry died down, we realized we went together as well as a igloo in the bahamas. ha!!

Chonsi....I MUST know...who's your "little bunsen burner?"

come on....telllllll.....

If you don't ..... I'll tickle your bunny until he farts!

Hamster wrote: Ok here goes:

There is a person who comes into my life periodically and then seems to leave again... He is in no way "Mr Right" and my intellect knows that but somehow the rest of me seems to forget that. Logic, reasoning and everything just seem to leave as soon as he shows up!!

Have you ever met someone with whom the "Chemistry" is just amazing? Does all sense of logic and reason disappear when you are around this person?? You know...where time stands still and you can't seem you think of anything else??

:-5


I'll tell ya something Hamster, no matter what people say is the hardest thing in life you'll ever go through, it's love. It's really humiliating to say this, but the guy I dated in highschool wore a cologne that I still have to turn to see the face of whoever is wearing b/c maybe it's him. I'll never forget him, I came to terms with the fact that my heart would never come to terms with it. I'll tell you why though, most of the time it is because the person that is not meant to be a life partner, fits our fantasies. Fantasies are by nature purely ideas and notions of the things we view as perfect. The man to be MR. RIGHT is always the IMperfect one. The IMperfect one though is the true one of a kind. There are tons of fish in the sea, it's always bright colored small ones we tend to see, but the giant trophy who blends in the darkness are the ones we take home.

I don't think the chemistry is as real as the short lived feeling of lust that most commonly presents itself.If it was chemistry,than would be only reactive in person?Or would be transcended with out person too person contact?Say on line?

Some say it's possible,I don't believe that.As always,if you Finaly get together with a person,the chemistry wears off.such that can happen on line,but tends too stay active longer.Mandy people have found bonds playing the many role playing games out there and say that they have "chemistry"with a certain person.and then it starts too get old when one partner gets alittle over bearing with e-mails and Pm's and chasing you around from thread too thread,It gets old and you try too be nice and let them down easy because you exposed the person for what they are.a lunitic,in the worst way.This could happen anywhere and one has recognize the line between chemistry and puppy lust.Cooler heads must prevail.

Shweet tatersalad wrote: I don't think the chemistry is as real as the short lived feeling of lust that most commonly presents itself.If it was chemistry,than would be only reactive in person?Or would be transcended with out person too person contact?Say on line?

Some say it's possible,I don't believe that.As always,if you Finaly get together with a person,the chemistry wears off.such that can happen on line,but tends too stay active longer.Mandy people have found bonds playing the many role playing games out there and say that they have "chemistry"with a certain person.and then it starts too get old when one partner gets alittle over bearing with e-mails and Pm's and chasing you around from thread too thread,It gets old and you try too be nice and let them down easy because you exposed the person for what they are.a lunitic,in the worst way.This could happen anywhere and one has recognize the line between chemistry and puppy lust.Cooler heads must prevail.


Interesting theory. Speaking from personal experience? :-2

CheshireCat wrote: Interesting theory. Speaking from personal experience? :-2


Not really,but I can relate it too someone I just put on my blocked list because the e-mails got a little stupid for me,third grade childish ramblings I would guess.

Funny you ask though.

Shweet tatersalad wrote: Not raelly,but I can relate it too someone I just put on my blocked list because the e-mails a little stupid for me,third grade childish ramblings I would guess.

Funny you ask though.


I think you can get really close to people on line. It's happened to me through letters, Why not e-mails and chat? Just because someone sends you e-mail, trying to be nice to you doesn't mean they are stalking you! you should just take it as flattery.

CheshireCat wrote: I think you can get really close to people on line. It's happened to me through letters, Why not e-mails and chat? Just because someone sends you e-mail, trying to be nice to you doesn't mean they are stalking you! you should just take it as flattery.


There is difference between NICE and NUTS.

One needs too know the difference,understand?

Shweet tatersalad wrote: There is difference between NICE and NUTS.

One needs too know the difference,understand?


Maybe YOU could explain that to me? i'm lost. What's nuts?

CheshireCat wrote: Maybe YOU could explain that to me? i'm lost. What's nuts?




I don't think you wanna go with this where i think you do.

I don't want too air this out but if you feel the need,than will make a fool of your self.

Shweet tatersalad wrote: I don't think you wanna go with this where i think you do.

I don't want too air this out but if you feel the need,than will make a fool of your self.


I'm a fool? I'm airing this out here? Who started posting first genius?

Go ahead, throw stones!

Hamster wrote: Have you ever met someone with whom the "Chemistry" is just amazing? Does all sense of logic and reason disappear when you are around this person?? You know...where time stands still and you can't seem you think of anything else??
Do you mean as in soulmates of friendships and/or romance? I have experienced the "chemistry" feeling with friends (in a non-romantic sense) and also through crushes.

Shweet tatersalad wrote: I don't think you wanna go with this where i think you do.

I don't want too air this out but if you feel the need,than will make a fool of your self.


What's up big guy?

CheshireCat wrote: I'm a fool? I'm airing this out here? Who started posting first genius?

Go ahead, throw stones!




Yeah I did post first,big deal,Doesn't mean you have follow me all over the place and post where i post.You can just leave well enough alone. but no,because you have no other way too get too me you have too chase me down here and attack me.

You are walking a fine line between normal and Abby-normal.

you need too check yourself.And too too think I am out a plane ticket because of YOU.I guess i can call it money well spent for a lesson learned huh?:-5

Shweet tatersalad wrote: Yeah I did post,big deal,Doesn't mean you have follow all over place and post where i post.You can just leave well enough alone. but no,because you have no other way too get too me you have too chase me down here and attack me.

You are walking a fine line between normal and Abby-normal.

you need too check yourself.And too too think I am out a plane ticket because of YOU.I guess i can call it money well spent for a lesson learned huh?:-5


OMG! You went there! It was YOUR idea in the first place! Why am I being attacked? I'm not the one married with a kid!

I am NOT following you around the threads and attacking you?

Please. That's what you want!

If you're worried about the stupid plane ticket, I can pay you back! But I think it goes a little deeper than that! Shall I continue?

Cheshire Cat wrote: OMG! You went there! It was YOUR idea in the first place! Why am I being attacked? I'm not the one married with a kid!

I am NOT following you around the threads and attacking you?

Please. That's what you want!

If you're worried about the stupid plane ticket, I can pay you back! But I think it goes a little deeper than that! Shall I continue?




Ha,at your age I am surprised you can remember too continue,how many other men have you caught in your web Charlotte? I can't call you a black widow because you have too be married too get that title,any one who does marry you will suffer that fate.and you will get your title.

Shweet tatersalad wrote: Ha,at your age I am surprised you can remember too continue,how many other men have you caught in your web Charlotte? I can't call you a black widow because you have too be married too get that title,I'm the one who does marry you will suffer that fate.and you will get your title.


The steroids are affecting you brain! You need to stop NOW!

Shweet tatersalad wrote: Ha,at your age I am surprised you can remember too continue,how many other men have you caught in your web Charlotte? I can't call you a black widow because you have too be married too get that title,any one who does marry you will suffer that fate.and you will get your title.


I sure had you didn't I? You are all p**sed off now, but I had you eating out of my hands! You are too easy, predictable like all men!

CheshireCat wrote:

I sure had you didn't I? You are all p**sed off now, but I had you eating out of my hands! You are too easy, predictable like all men!




You,don'y know CRAP about men.

Shweet tatersalad wrote: You,don'y know CRAP about men.


It's obvious that I don't know you like I thought I did! I didn't think you were the type to go off and throw a hypo hissy fit! Really! Grow up! You wish you were here to kiss the ground I walk on. Get over your little fragile little ego and stop tripping!

Um......... don't really know what to say but maybe you two would like to just back down here before you both regret it

tmbsgrl wrote: Yep- I was kinda thinking the same thing.


Sorry guys! Hate to bring you into this. He's just being very hard headed.