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Barman;961204 wrote: Good on you. I prefer to give em a kick in the nuts.


A 'Scottish kiss' is more effective.:sneaky:

oscar;1027707 wrote: A 'Scottish kiss' is more effective.:sneaky:


Say that in American please...

oscar;1027707 wrote: A 'Scottish kiss' is more effective.:sneaky: OK let us all know what a Scottish kiss is??

southern yankee;1027715 wrote: OK let us all know what a Scottish kiss is??


I'm part Scottish......never heard of this kiss!:wah:

Odie;1027718 wrote: I'm part Scottish......never heard of this kiss!:wah: i am about a 1/4. i guess that is enough. Grandma was a Mac Dugal

southern yankee;1027721 wrote: i am about a 1/4. i guess that is enough. Grandma was a Mac Dugal


alright, the scottish tempers we have!

Anderson is my name as you know, nice to have my own tartan!

Odie;1027722 wrote: alright, the scottish tempers we have!

Anderson is my name as you know, nice to have my own tartan! I thought it was the change of life??:wah::wah:

southern yankee;1027724 wrote: [QUOTE=Odie;1027722]alright, the scottish tempers we have!

Anderson is my name as you know, nice to have my own tartan! I thought it was the change of life??:wah::wah:


I blame it on my dad, god rest his soul who is scottish and he temper of the scots!:wah:

A "Scottish kiss" is a head butt :-5 ouch:wah:

Kathy Ellen;1027730 wrote: A "Scottish kiss" is a head butt :-5 ouch:wah:


I will remember this!:sneaky::wah:

odie;1027736 wrote: i will remember this!:sneaky::wah:ouch!!!!

Kathy Ellen;1027730 wrote: A "Scottish kiss" is a head butt :-5 ouch:wah:
Somehow I didn't think it was a close relative of the french kiss...:p:D

southern yankee;961541 wrote: but there are those who have no clue how to treat people. i often wonder what happen in their lives to make them so mean or rude.


Aint that the truth southern yankee.....



I'm a genuinely 'nice' person.... those that know me from elsewhere will know that I go out of my way to help people forfeiting my own time to ensure others are happy and am very much a peace maker....

The people who aren't nice to me have all been female for some reason.... I'm a very forgiving person though and take quite a lot from people, but I only take so much before I react....

I don't play games, I'm straight talking and I'll deal with that person directly, nasty people usually need an audience for their cruelty and someone to hide behind when they can't defend themselves from the things they say.... I'll come alone and demand it stops... and if it doesn't stop, I'll do something about it.... Never violence though, that solves nothing.... if it's in RL it usually stops after being aproached and they realise I'm not taking it....If I'm on a forum, it's a little harder as some peeps think the saftey of a screen gives them the right to be a cruel as they like..... in these cases I let the board leaders take care of things

They forget that the people they are hurting are real, with real feelings and real lives!

So in answer to your question... NO!... you shouldn't be nice to people who aren't nice to you, why on earth should anybody have to deal with that?.... on the other hand though. you shouldn't be nasty back either, it makes you just as nasty a person as they are and you lose if you play that game....you should deal with that person in a sensible rational way and stop people like that from continuing to hurt others.....

I don't take rudeness very seriously most of the time. Sometimes the person may not have even meant to be rude. If someone is rude all the time then that is a problem. I am not shy about telling people just what I think of them. I can be rude too...if that's the game they want to play. I can "out rude" them.

I like to treat others the way they treat me.

If I don't like someone I stay well away but never intentionally go out of my way to hurt anyone.

I like to think everyone could be nice to each other,but that isn't going to happen either.

I have been guilty of not being nice a few times.

I am not perfect:-3 but like to think I have learnt from my mistakes.:-6

mrsK;1027770 wrote: I like to treat others the way they treat me.

If I don't like someone I stay well away but never intentionally go out of my way to hurt anyone.

I like to think everyone could be nice to each other,but that isn't going to happen either.

I have been guilty of not being nice a few times.

I am not perfect:-3 but like to think I have learnt from my mistakes.:-6




What MrsK said...:-4

One should always be assertive - considerate of others without being run over; going for what you want without running others over.

southern yankee;1027737 wrote: ouch!!!!


stand back!:wah:

Odie;1027718 wrote: I'm part Scottish......never heard of this kiss!:wah:


gmc is Scottish, he'll know :wah::wah:

jones jones;961200 wrote: people often ask me why i keep treating people who are nasty to me with kindness ¦ well i believe we should all treat others with kindness ¦ when someone is rude ... or nasty ... or is really aggressive... the best thing to do is smile and fall all over yourself being nice ¦ nothing makes rude and nasty people more frustrated ...



so i am generally always polite and use good manners ... out of respect for the human race i try to be nice to everyone¦ if i run across the occasional ass h . le ... i just let it roll off and keep smiling ... if there is someone i see that doesn’t have a smile ¦ i'll just give them one of mine¦ they are a dime a dozen ...



of course there are always gonna be some people who see kindness and being nice as stupidity ¦ or as a weakness and try to take advantage of you ¦



so what?



it’s just the way I am and I can't change ¦



mwaaaaaaaaaaaah!



Jj:-4


Funny I was just thinking about this. It would seem natural to dislike someone that disliked you because its an attack on your person, your existance.

I lean towards the way you feel but not always.

BTS for instance was an ass to me and I just jumped right in to the mix allowing myself to retaliate. I did that because I have no personal interest vested in him. Hes dispensable and I never cared for his personality anyway so what the hell, its kind of fun.

Floopy got mad at me awhile back and I realized my feelings towards her didnt change. I still liked her and respected her. Even if shed written me off my thoughts of her would have remained the same.

So for me its about how I feel about the person.

On the other hand in my job remaining professional isnt an option, I show respect to everyone and without fail I almost always get respect back.

Nomad;1027916 wrote: Funny I was just thinking about this. It would seem natural to dislike someone that disliked you because its an attack on your person, your existance.

I lean towards the way you feel but not always.

BTS for instance was an ass to me and I just jumped right in to the mix allowing myself to retaliate. I did that because I have no personal interest vested in him. Hes dispensable and I never cared for his personality anyway so what the hell, its kind of fun.

Floopy got mad at me awhile back and I realized my feelings towards her didnt change. I still liked her and respected her. Even if shed written me off my thoughts of her would have remained the same.

So for me its about how I feel about the person.

On the other hand in my job remaining professional isnt an option, I show respect to everyone and without fail I almost always get respect back.


Im jealous your unable to let people who you have no interest in or even dislike get to you or leave an impact. Im the other way entirely, always trying to please and I care 100% what people think of me physically, mentally and personally.

Its drives my hubby up the wall and if he knew that at times iv'e been left in tears due to someones harsh or critical words on a pc, I think he would rip the plug off the modem. Is this a woman thing or is it just a Chezzie thing.

Do you know I have let people on the net give me a sleepless night, one hurtful comment or a someone being nasty and mean can have my mind working overtime. When its so easy to be nice, why would you purposely choose to be nasty???

Treat others how you would like to be treated yourself.

Chezzie;1027929 wrote: Im jealous your unable to let people who you have no interest in or even dislike get to you or leave an impact. Im the other way entirely, always trying to please and I care 100% what people think of me physically, mentally and personally.

Its drives my hubby up the wall and if he knew that at times iv'e been left in tears due to someones harsh or critical words on a pc, I think he would rip the plug off the modem. Is this a woman thing or is it just a Chezzie thing.

Do you know I have let people on the net give me a sleepless night, one hurtful comment or a someone being nasty and mean can have my mind working overtime. When its so easy to be nice, why would you purposely choose to be nasty???

Treat others how you would like to be treated yourself.


Oh Chezz, your so sweet.

When i first joined, especially on the political threads where it can get quite heated, i was quite surprised about how open people were.

After a while, i found it a breath of freah air really, that people could disagree bitterly and debate another day with no hard feelings.

I like that.

The first time gmc called me a "Daily Mail" reader, i took it quite seriously.

The other day in a post, galbally called me a "Tea drinking, queen loving, morriss dancing nob head.

That is great fun. I love it. And that's why my hubby is furious with me... I am on here too much

oscar;1027962 wrote: Oh Chezz, your so sweet.

When i first joined, especially on the political threads where it can get quite heated, i was quite surprised about how open people were.

After a while, i found it a breath of freah air really, that people could disagree bitterly and debate another day with no hard feelings.

I like that.

The first time gmc called me a "Daily Mail" reader, I took it quite seriously.

The other day in a post, galbally called me a "Tea drinking, queen loving, morriss dancing nob head.

That is great fun. I love it. And that's why my hubby is furious with me... I am on here too much


And you actually forgave them for such harsh insults? :wah: You're too nice!

Gman, it's definately a woman thing. Now go watch The Jungle Book on the Pubnutter's TV.:wah:

G-man;1028182 wrote: And you actually forgave them for such harsh insults? :wah: You're too nice!


As you know, I'm a lady poster but only the other night Jester called me a 'British snob' and in another thread two weeks earlier he called me and Spot 'You blokes'. :wah::wah:

I did call galbally and gmc far worse ...... their lovely really but don't ever tell the haggis man or irish twerp i said that, they'll think i'm going soft

oscar;1028302 wrote: As you know, I'm a lady poster but only the other night Jester called me a 'British snob' and in another thread two weeks earlier he called me and Spot 'You blokes'. :wah::wah:

I did call galbally and gmc far worse ...... their lovely really but don't ever tell the haggis man or irish twerp i said that, they'll think i'm going soft


Oh I know what you mean Oscar. I call those polictical boards the guy zone. Alot of lady posters stay out of their. You must be very brave to go there and state your opinion. I've gone up against Jester, but we're fine now.:wah:

qsducks;1028314 wrote: Oh I know what you mean Oscar. I call those polictical boards the guy zone. Alot of lady posters stay out of their. You must be very brave to go there and state your opinion. I've gone up against Jester, but we're fine now.:wah:


I know what you mean, There was one recently called Hangin Saddam. I think Spot, Jester and me were up all night. It got really really heated.

I called Jester a 'gunslinger' last night in response to the 'British snob' :wah::wah:

Oh yeah, i told Quinnscommentry to sell his c.d's cos socialism was heading to America faster than a trident missile.

Oh yeah, and i called BTL an idiot.

oscar;1028333 wrote: I know what you mean, There was one recently called Hangin Saddam. I think Spot, Jester and me were up all night. It got really really heated.

I called Jester a 'gunslinger' last night in response to the 'British snob' :wah::wah:


:wah::wah:

Here in blighty, i'm just making a lovely pot of tea.... cuppa anyone????:D

Chezzie;1027929 wrote: Im jealous your unable to let people who you have no interest in or even dislike get to you or leave an impact. Im the other way entirely, always trying to please and I care 100% what people think of me physically, mentally and personally.

Its drives my hubby up the wall and if he knew that at times iv'e been left in tears due to someones harsh or critical words on a pc, I think he would rip the plug off the modem. Is this a woman thing or is it just a Chezzie thing.

Do you know I have let people on the net give me a sleepless night, one hurtful comment or a someone being nasty and mean can have my mind working overtime. When its so easy to be nice, why would you purposely choose to be nasty???

Treat others how you would like to be treated yourself.
Chez I think you know me pretty well now and know we are alike in so many ways.So many of your comments could have been made by me.People can hurt you online and Ive had my share of those sleepless nights you speak about.Some I guess are just nasty because its their nature or just plain jealous of you for whatever reason.I try to be nice to people and have been slapped in the face more than once because of itThing is Im to old now.......hell did I just say that:-5......to change and if somebody dont like me.....well thats their problem as the people that matter in my life here and in the RW...... you being one of them im proud to say......know the real me and yes I know I can be a right pain at times.....as Spot knows to well lol.....and I know Im far from perfect....very far at times.....but I have a few things going for me.......I better go and think what;):D:driving:

Carolly;1028377 wrote: Chez I think you know me pretty well now and know we are alike in so many ways.So many of your comments could have been made by me.People can hurt you online and Ive had my share of those sleepless nights you speak about.Some I guess are just nasty because its their nature or just plain jealous of you for whatever reason.I try to be nice to people and have been slapped in the face more than once because of itThing is Im to old now.......hell did I just say that:-5......to change and if somebody dont like me.....well thats their problem as the people that matter in my life here and in the RW...... you being one of them im proud to say......know the real me and yes I know I can be a right pain at times.....as Spot knows to well lol.....and I know Im far from perfect....very far at times.....but I have a few things going for me.......I better go and think what;):D:driving:


I've had dreams about this FG and some of the nasty things people say. And some people are really creepfaces here, but you have to get past them and focus of the ones that you love to chit chat with. Yeah, their are some old farts here on the FG, but I have learned to ignore them and have fun with my friends instead. Taking that month off in August did help. Helped alot.

qsducks;1028389 wrote: I've had dreams about this FG and some of the nasty things people say. And some people are really creepfaces here, but you have to get past them and focus of the ones that you love to chit chat with. Yeah, their are some old farts here on the FG, but I have learned to ignore them and have fun with my friends instead. Taking that month off in August did help. Helped alot.You get good and bad in all Forums or Chat Sites and yes yer right Ducky you have to ignore the bad as theres so many good and you focus on these only;):-4

Carolly;1028394 wrote: You get good and bad in all Forums or Chat Sites and yes yer right Ducky you have to ignore the bad as theres so many good and you focus on these only;):-4


Exactly Carol. Was just pm'g a friend here and we were chit chatting about the "good ole boy rooms", you know the political ones and how they gang up on a woman who speaks her mind. Windbags those dudes are. But you have to be strong and voice your opinion..a bit like voting.

Chezzie;1027929 wrote: Im jealous your unable to let people who you have no interest in or even dislike get to you or leave an impact. Im the other way entirely, always trying to please and I care 100% what people think of me physically, mentally and personally.

Its drives my hubby up the wall and if he knew that at times iv'e been left in tears due to someones harsh or critical words on a pc, I think he would rip the plug off the modem. Is this a woman thing or is it just a Chezzie thing.

Do you know I have let people on the net give me a sleepless night, one hurtful comment or a someone being nasty and mean can have my mind working overtime. When its so easy to be nice, why would you purposely choose to be nasty???



Treat others how you would like to be treated yourself.




I know how you feel Chezzie...I'm the same way. I wear my heart on my sleeve and get emotional about lots of things...especially about my country and the remarks made here sometimes about my home and what jerks we Yanks are:p

I'm not a debater and would never get involved in a Political or Religious debate...it would upset me toooooo much. So I don't post on those threads. I don't like to constantly argue when no one is listening to your point of view.

I just love FG members so much....well...maybe 90% of the members... and am in bits sometimes when I think that I've upset someone or visa versa. You are all as special to me as my RL mates. I've also had many a sleepless night here:p

But that's who I am....and seems like I will always be that way...loving, emotional and always way too sensitive:o

Kathy Ellen;1028591 wrote: I know how you feel Chezzie...I'm the same way. I wear my heart on my sleeve and get emotional about lots of things...especially about my country and the remarks made here sometimes about my home and what jerks we Yanks are:p

I'm not a debater and would never get involved in a Political or Religious debate...it would upset me toooooo much. So I don't post on those threads. I don't like to constantly argue when no one is listening to your point of view.

I just love FG members so much....well...maybe 90% of the members... and am in bits sometimes when I think that I've upset someone or visa versa. You are all as special to me as my RL mates. I've also had many a sleepless night here:p

But that's who I am....and seems like I will always be that way...loving, emotional and always way too sensitive:o


Lub you:-4

and I lub my Carol

and all you poohoooers who go pahhh she lub ems, she aint even met them...I have so there:p

chezzie;1028607 wrote: lub you:-4

and i lub my carol

and all you poohoooers who go pahhh she lub ems, she aint even met them...i have so there:p


:-6

qsducks;1028389 wrote: I've had dreams about this FG and some of the nasty things people say. And some people are really creepfaces here, but you have to get past them and focus of the ones that you love to chit chat with. Yeah, their are some old farts here on the FG, but I have learned to ignore them and have fun with my friends instead. Taking that month off in August did help. Helped alot.


there are good and bad on any forum and alot of crap does go on, what I hate is the allowing of forwarding pm's to other friends, and some here do that out of spite and sheer enjoyment, meanwhile you have no idea who is forwarding what you say to others, pm's are that, 'private messages' and should never be forwarded unless its to a mod to report it.......but that is my opinion, sometimes it can be safer to get an email address, but those can always be forwarded.



some days are good, some days are really bad, staying away from some of the debates is a good thing or pay the price for your input. Taking time off, really does help as you said, there will always be problems on any forum....stick with who you believe in and have a blast.



there have been alot of remarks I do not believe in, and I stay away from things that would bother me to avoid an attack, but all in all, I love the people here and have made tons of really good friends.

I lubs ya too my Chezzie:-4:p

We emotional peeps have to stick together:-6

qsducks;1028403 wrote: Exactly Carol. Was just pm'g a friend here and we were chit chatting about the "good ole boy rooms", you know the political ones and how they gang up on a woman who speaks her mind. Windbags those dudes are. But you have to be strong and voice your opinion..a bit like voting.


Creeps like that will eventually be shown to the door here on FG, just don't get involved with them and allow them to drag you down to their level. I just stay away from people like that in general and never hold any grudges against anyone no matter what they may have done to me.

Odie;1028616 wrote: there are good and bad on any forum and alot of crap does go on, what I hate is the allowing of forwarding pm's to other friends, and some here do that out of spite and sheer enjoyment, meanwhile you have no idea who is forwarding what you say to others, pm's are that, 'private messages' and should never be forwarded unless its to a mod to report it.......but that is my opinion, sometimes it can be safer to get an email address, but those can always be forwarded.



some days are good, some days are really bad, staying away from some of the debates is a good thing or pay the price for your input. Taking time off, really does help as you said, there will always be problems on any forum....stick with who you believe in and have a blast.


Hand on heart I can honestly say I havent had an ounce of trouble personally on a forum. The girls want to be me and the guys want to me...Im joking hah hah, not about not having trouble. I keep out of bitchfests...

I think the problem you mention stems from clicky little sets and jealousy sets in...Be friends with everyone and it doesnt happen or be Nomad and walk alone upsetting everyone:wah::wah::wah: (p.s. i love you Nommie, even your bellybutton fluff is godlike:o)

Kathy Ellen;1028620 wrote: I lubs ya too my Chezzie:-4:p

We emotional peeps have to stick together:-6

Stop chatting my woman up you:rolleyes::-5:wah::wah:;)

Carolly;1028629 wrote: Stop chatting my woman up you:rolleyes::-5:wah::wah:;)


:wah::wah:...she's my friend too:-6 And..so are you:guitarist

Chezzie;1028626 wrote: Hand on heart I can honestly say I havent had an ounce of trouble personally on a forum. The girls want to be me and the guys want to me...Im joking hah hah, not about not having trouble. I keep out of bitchfests...

I think the problem you mention stems from clicky little sets and jealousy sets in...Be friends with everyone and it doesnt happen or be Nomad and walk alone upsetting everyone:wah::wah::wah: (p.s. i love you Nommie, even your bellybutton fluff is godlike:o)


that's the word I wanted to say, bitchfests, heard alot about those yes indeed, and the forwarding of pm's to others is what makes a bitchfest........purely evil, underhanded and nasty!

you my dear are refreshing, honest, upfront and a sheer ball of fire to play with!:)

Chez, your a good egg!:-4

Kathy Ellen;1028637 wrote: :wah::wah:...she's my friend too:-6 And..so are you:guitaristKathy you are to me what the sun is to the sky:D:-6now wheres me cake:D:guitarist:guitarist

Carolly;1028646 wrote: Kathy you are to me what the sun is to the sky:D:-6now wheres me cake:D:guitarist:guitarist


I always have cake, go in my room and help yourself!:-4

just clean up the crumbs before you leave!:wah:

I cannot be nice to people who are nasty to me, or my friends no. I can be polite if I have to work with them. But is easier to ignore bullies, and liars and people set on being nasty to you. I'll fight and bite back when I'm really mad. But it's easier to walk away with the good company of people I love/like.

Carolly;1028646 wrote: Kathy you are to me what the sun is to the sky:D:-6now wheres me cake:D:guitarist:guitarist


You are my special friend Carol...always true blue:-4



Made you my Paula Dean's southern red velvet cake...manja...manja..

Violetmay;1028664 wrote: I cannot be nice to people who are nasty to me, or my friends no. I can be polite if I have to work with them. But is easier to ignore bullies, and liars and people set on being nasty to you. I'll fight and bite back when I'm really mad. But it's easier to walk away with the good company of people I love/like.


well said VM, tis best to walk away from bullies, liars and people that are purely out for the fun of being nasty to you.

no one likes a bully......no one.

Kathy Ellen;1028666 wrote: You are my special friend Carol...always true blue:-4



Made you my Paula Dean's southern red velvet cake...manja...manja..



Oh Boy....could I eat that right now......fanks babe:-4:-4:-4;)

Odie;1028651 wrote: I always have cake, go in my room and help yourself!:-4

just clean up the crumbs before you leave!:wah:Cleared the mess up fanks:D:driving: