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Why is it that people think that I am weak or scared of them, just because I am quiet? They are so ignorant. I'm not weak or afraid of anyone, actually. When you've been through all that I've been through, fear like that takes a back seat. Intelligence is more my game, and quiet does not equal weakness or being afraid. It also doesn't mean that I'm shy. It just means that I don't have to constantly be flapping my jaw, bragging about how big and bad I am to prove myself, like so many idiots do. I'm confident enough about myself that I don't have to put on a show for other people to ewe and awe over. Get a clue!

P.S. Oh, and by the way, dealing with bad nerves is something completely different. It's not from fear of you or anyone else. Try dealing with a divorce, your father's death, your family falling apart, having no boyfriend or children, moving 900 miles from north to south all by yourself, meeting your mom's new boyfriend and family, losing a career, starting a new career and then trying to rebuild a new life all in the matter of three or four years. Then come and talk to me about how wonderful your nerves feel.

And if you want to punch me in the face, since you're all so big and bad, go ahead. I'd love to press charges on you for assualt and battery, turkey!

Valerie100 wrote: Why is it that people think that I am weak or scared of them, just because I am quiet? They are so ignorant. I'm not weak or afraid of anyone, actually. When you've been through all that I've been through, fear like that takes a back seat. Intelligence is more my game, and quiet does not equal weakness or being afraid. It also doesn't mean that I'm shy. It just means that I don't have to constantly be flapping my jaw, bragging about how big and bad I am to prove myself, like so many idiots do. I'm confident enough about myself that I don't have to put on a show for other people to ewe and awe over. Get a clue!



P.S. Oh, and by the way, dealing with bad nerves is something completely different. It's not from fear of you or anyone else. Try dealing with a divorce, your father's death, your family falling apart, having no boyfriend or children, moving 900 miles from north to south all by yourself, meeting your mom's new boyfriend and family, losing a career, starting a new career and then trying to rebuild a new life all in the matter of three or four years. Then come and talk to me about how wonderful your nerves feel.



And if you want to punch me in the face, since you're all so big and bad, go ahead. I'd love to press charges on you for assualt and battery, turkey!


Wow Val, I'm glad you've got that off your chest. Your description sounds a bit like me. I keep my own council, but I can go like a Rottweiler when I need to.!!!

Going through bad stuff makes you a stronger person, but it also makes you more thoughtful.

Whoever wants to punch you in the face...send 'em to me...I'll bite their fist off.... :-4

Rrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!! Thanks, Bez.

She's in her 40's, still has that I'm going to kick your a@@ mentality and not worth your time, energy, or even taking a chance of damaging a tooth over.

Don't you think that being in her 40's, she should have outgrown that "Ms. Tough Woman" act? I mean really, "Who cares?"

Valerie100 wrote: Rrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!! Thanks, Bez.



She's in her 40's, still has that I'm going to kick your a@@ mentality and not worth your time, energy, or even taking a chance of damaging a tooth over.



Don't you think that being in her 40's, she should have outgrown that "Ms. Tough Woman" act? I mean really, "Who cares?"


Who IS this person ?

*** but I can go like a Rottweiler when I need to.!!!

Whoever wants to punch you in the face...send 'em to me...I'll bite their fist off.***



I did not know this about you Bez. Things seem a little different now, Im not so cavalier and free wheeling with my tongue. I fear you now.





















NOT:p

Nomad wrote: *** but I can go like a Rottweiler when I need to.!!!



Whoever wants to punch you in the face...send 'em to me...I'll bite their fist off.***



I did not know this about you Bez. Things seem a little different now, Im not so cavalier and free wheeling with my tongue. I fear you now.





NOT:p


Have no fear....this is an extreme trait that only emerges in dire circumstances. I'm a soppy labrador type really....but I still can BITE...:p

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And if you want to punch me in the face, since you're all so big and bad, go ahead. I'd love to press charges on you for assualt and battery, turkey!


Where did that come from???

Valerie, why so angry?

Is it someone here on FG that has upset you?

Valerie100 wrote: Why is it that people think that I am weak or scared of them, just because I am quiet? They are so ignorant. I'm not weak or afraid of anyone, actually. When you've been through all that I've been through, fear like that takes a back seat. Intelligence is more my game, and quiet does not equal weakness or being afraid. It also doesn't mean that I'm shy. It just means that I don't have to constantly be flapping my jaw, bragging about how big and bad I am to prove myself, like so many idiots do. I'm confident enough about myself that I don't have to put on a show for other people to ewe and awe over. Get a clue!



P.S. Oh, and by the way, dealing with bad nerves is something completely different. It's not from fear of you or anyone else. Try dealing with a divorce, your father's death, your family falling apart, having no boyfriend or children, moving 900 miles from north to south all by yourself, meeting your mom's new boyfriend and family, losing a career, starting a new career and then trying to rebuild a new life all in the matter of three or four years. Then come and talk to me about how wonderful your nerves feel.



And if you want to punch me in the face, since you're all so big and bad, go ahead. I'd love to press charges on you for assualt and battery, turkey!
Whoa.

What BabyRider said!!! :-2

People will mistake silence for a lot of things.

Fear, sadness, shyness, snobbiness...

My mom told me today that people who always want you to be talking about your business want to know because that information gives them power. She said that keeping things to yourself can be very intimidating to busybodies.

Embrace your silent mystique! Remember: it's none of anyone else's business.

SnoozeControl wrote: Hey girlfriend, I moved from my beloved homestate of California to Utah since my job was relocated. In the mean time, I went through a divorce, bankruptcy, foreclosure and a death in the family. I still feel I'm very fortunate to be employed and healthy. Get over yourself.
Hey now, that's not cool. I'm sure there have been times you've ranted about something other people could have thought were petty. And Valerie's never really ranted before. She's definately not a whiner. I think she's due.

And Valerie's never really ranted before.
Actually Steph, she has. This bizarre, paranoid "just-enough-info-to-sound-mysterious" kind of thing is not new for her. If you ask me, it's weird.

FarRider, awesome words of wisdom, and you're right. As you said, you can see it with your own son that quiet does not equal weakness. Thank you for the nice words.

No, I'm not mad at anyone in the Garden. How could I be? Everyone's too nice here. Some people in the real world, though, are so clueless. It just makes me angry at their ignorance, especially, when they think they know things that they do not.

Floppy, I have tried keeping a journal. I never stick with it. I enjoy posting on the net, because I enjoy the input from others. I'm glad you enjoy my posts, by the way.

My aggrevation is mostly with my job. I need it to survive, like everyone else, but a lot of the people are so out-of-line, to say the least. I live alone, so I'd much rather post than walk around talking to myself.

There's this big-mouthed woman at work, who made a comment that she felt like popping me in the face. I forget about what now. Anyway, she's not that important to me, but I just needed to vent. I've overheard other people at work comment about my being weak, behind my back. Like I said, I'm just quiet, and there is a difference. And you know that these same people are extremely nice to my face. That's because we all have personal power, and when you're directly face-to-face with a person, then you can see a person's true power. I'm just waiting for one of them, any of them, to get a spine and confront me already, instead of talking about me behind my back.

This one woman, in particular, likes to walk around like she's big and bad, when she's not. Adults are supposed to act like adults, and not have to put on shows, like teenagers, to prove that they are big and bad. I think it's so immature, especially, in an office setting. Is she a professional graphic designer or a professional wanna-be bad a@@?

I really dislike it when women don't act like women, anyway. I'm a woman, and I sure as heck don't want to act like a man!

P.S. It's not a not divulging enough info sort of thing. It's not weird. I'm just extremely cautious, because quite frankly, you never know who is reading the stuff that is posted here. And, well, you never will know everything that there is to know about a person, anyway. And maybe, just maybe, there is more to me and going on in my life than meets the eye or that I care to divulge. It's not weird. I'm just a complex person -- that's what my mother always said, anyway. Take my posts however you want to, but there's more to me than meets the eye!

quote..I really dislike it when women don't act like women, anyway. I'm a woman, and I sure as heck don't want to act like a man!....there's a whole new subject! LOL what DOES a woman act like? in my career i have surely not always been the lady my parents raised me to be! (or i'd be dead)...then again, womanly attributes have helped in many volatile situations where testosterone would have escalated the matter. as to your co-worker...a verbal threat is assault "putting in fear", she does not need to lay a finger on you. it's a charge if you wanted to press it.

I get what your sayin hun, its just sometimes we know what we want to say, but others read it differently.

Its no ones fault, its just one of those things..

And your right that woman should get over herself, if their is no reason to act tough and ott than dont. Its not like your likely to pull a knife or gun on her for crikeys sake..

Have met a few of these in my time and they get right up my nose...

Lc beat me to it..

Its true though, we all have sides to us and they are there for a reason, but there is a time and place. This woman sounds more like a bully wanna be..

LC, it's different for you, though. You can't act like a girly-girl woman on the job with lace lined handcuffs and all. That's for sure.

Although, I did see a woman police officer in her car putting lipstick on while waiting at a red light!

After just reading your post, I guess you do kind of have to slip in and out of different roles, though, huh?

Valerie100 wrote: LC, it's different for you, though. You can't act like a girly-girl woman on the job with lace lined handcuffs and all. That's for sure.



Although, I did see a woman police officer in her car putting lipstick on while waiting at a red light!GUILTY!!! i keep my nails long and red too.

And l bet Bothwell loves em:sneaky:

Men love red...

Am a lady in red too LC, us Brunettes look really damn good in it, and lve seen pics of you to prove it.

venus wrote: And l bet Bothwell loves em:sneaky:



Men love red...

Am a lady in red too LC, us Brunettes look really damn good in it, and lve seen pics of you to prove it.:Dyou're a wise lady Venus! ...and he does.

Valerie100 wrote: FarRider, awesome words of wisdom, and you're right. As you said, you can see it with your own son that quiet does not equal weakness. Thank you for the nice words.

No, I'm not mad at anyone in the Garden. How could I be? Everyone's too nice here. Some people in the real world, though, are so clueless. It just makes me angry at their ignorance, especially, when they think they know things that they do not.

Floppy, I have tried keeping a journal. I never stick with it. I enjoy posting on the net, because I enjoy the input from others. I'm glad you enjoy my posts, by the way.

My aggrevation is mostly with my job. I need it to survive, like everyone else, but a lot of the people are so out-of-line, to say the least. I live alone, so I'd much rather post than walk around talking to myself.

There's this big-mouthed woman at work, who made a comment that she felt like popping me in the face. I forget about what now. Anyway, she's not that important to me, but I just needed to vent. I've overheard other people at work comment about my being weak, behind my back. Like I said, I'm just quiet, and there is a difference. And you know that these same people are extremely nice to my face. That's because we all have personal power, and when you're directly face-to-face with a person, then you can see a person's true power. I'm just waiting for one of them, any of them, to get a spine and confront me already, instead of talking about me behind my back.

This one woman, in particular, likes to walk around like she's big and bad, when she's not. Adults are supposed to act like adults, and not have to put on shows, like teenagers, to prove that they are big and bad. I think it's so immature, especially, in an office setting. Is she a professional graphic designer or a professional wanna-be bad a@@?

I really dislike it when women don't act like women, anyway. I'm a woman, and I sure as heck don't want to act like a man!

P.S. It's not a not divulging enough info sort of thing. It's not weird. I'm just extremely cautious, because quite frankly, you never know who is reading the stuff that is posted here. And, well, you never will know everything that there is to know about a person, anyway. And maybe, just maybe, there is more to me and going on in my life than meets the eye or that I care to divulge. It's not weird. I'm just a complex person -- that's what my mother always said, anyway. Take my posts however you want to, but there's more to me than meets the eye!


Val, after reading this post I see your point, & have to tend to agree with you. About not divulging too much personal info. As you said, you never know who may gain access to this site, and recognize that you are talking about them! You are wise & prudent to be some what cautious. It's better to be safe than sorry!

As far as the bully at work, like LC said, you can press her threat charges to you, against her. If you choose, You actually don't have to really do it. But you may just let others at work know you're contemplating that course of action. And you can be sure it will get back to the bully, & that should back her off a few steps.

Good luck! (Keep us posted)

I'm with you regarding the divulgence of information, I find that most folks don't have a clue as to how much information they divulge already, for those of us that know how to retrieve it. Not to name drop, but... I'm certain there is at least one shady individual on this forum, but he appears to be behaving himself at the moment on here, at least... and regarding the threat of physical violence... don't return threats... put an end to it then and there! Personally, I take this sort of thing seriously and everyone else should too. I can guarantee you that this miscreant would not be there now if it were ever brought to my attention.

As for me, my intelligence scares and intimidates folks even more than physical presence... which is somewhat imposing in itself. I find that I have to downplay that fact more than anything else... despite the fact that I have a very friendly, approachable and positive personality. :wah:

quote As for me, my intelligence scares and intimidates folks even more than physical presence... which is somewhat imposing in itself. I find that I have to downplay that fact more than anything else... despite the fact that I have a very friendly, approachable and positive personality. ...anyone intimidated by my intelligence was otherwise known as "the defendant". i never downplayed it, even when it scared the crap out of my "superiors". :rolleyes:

It's different for cops, too. They have to be strong and not take any stuff. And I don't think acting stupid is really an option for a police officer, unless, of course, it's going to save lives by playing that part.

A security guard once told me -- he was a retired police officer -- that criminals can actually "smell" fear. I believe it, too. It's kind of the way a dog can sense when you're afraid of it.

very true! i have done corrections, and the prisoners could smell the officers who were afraid of them...they would circle like sharks if that officer went in the blocks. those people washed out very quickly.

Ya know...this too has happened to me...I walked into Casey's just this morning, had a lot on my mind with my moms surgery and me getting ready to go back to the hospital this next week..feeling petty and sorry for myself, I must have RUDELY walked past an acquaintance and before I got to the hospital my cell rang- only to get my BUTT ripped by a friend that said she got a phone call and I was being a bit** to .....blah blah u get my drift..Anyway- I know people can read other people, but the sad thing is over 85% of the time I feel it is unjust and they should not judge or perceive another's feelings or actions as a vendetta against them.....

Ok I am DONE ranting now!!!!!!!! Many HUGS to you and I am out for the night!:-4