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Your Space, Relaxing Time, Alone Time, Me Time!!!

How do You React to Someone Who Invades It?

It depends who invades it.....................

*like relaxing time? Maybe my computer time, everything else is free to invade*

If it's the kitty, I say jump on my lap little kitty.

If it's the kids, it depends on how fast the requests are being shouted.

If it's my husband, he has no concept of free time for me.

Usually a good glare is enough for anything else.

Your Space, Relaxing Time, Alone Time, Me Time!!!

How do You React to Someone Who Invades It?


With patience, well I try to anyway.

It depends on who it is and what they want

I try to make time though and show respect. The people who interrupt me are the ones I love after all.

There is only me and my hubby at home though, I think it would be harder if I had kids etc and this time would be more valuable

Friends, neighbours, loved ones, strangers in need, and so on are welcome into my free time.

But, if it's a sales call, they'd better be able to run as fast as they can talk!!!:mad: :yh_frustr :yh_angry :yh_beatup

And those phone calls always show up at dinner time too....................

I snarl.. and hiss at them.. !! :p I really don't have any "My Space time" I have my daughter and grand daughter living with me.. No place to run or hide..

I do like quite time.. I love it when I can do nothing in absloute quite for any amount of time.. I don't require lots of chat with anyone. I have been told I can sit still longer than a cat and be just as quite..:-3

I can say I hate to hear the phone ring at home.. puts me in a bad mood espcially when I just walk in the door.. :-5

SnoozeControl wrote: I find a vicious elbow jab into the gut works amazingly well.


A chain saw is far more effective. And the look of fear on their faces becomes permanent.

CARLA wrote: I snarl.. and hiss at them.. !! :p I really don't have any "My Space time" I have my daughter and grand daughter living with me.. No place to run or hide..



I do like quite time.. I love it when I can do nothing in absloute quite for any amount of time.. I don't require lots of chat with anyone. I have been told I can sit still longer than a cat and be just as quite..:-3



I can say I hate to hear the phone ring at home.. puts me in a bad mood espcially when I just walk in the door.. :-5


Well, I'm not the most restful of people, but I know exactly what you mean. I have a fax machine. Only my friends know about this. Sales callers hang up. If the machine continues ringing, I know it's a friend.

My home is my sanctuary. I don't think that salespeople understand this concept.

Conversely, I get relaxation through using my hands.

This is a very good question. I used to have a female roommate who would invade my space, and then comment on it saying "yah I can see that you're uncomfortable" but then continue. She offended me in ways that I cannot write here. I finally just moved. She was shocked when I told her I was moving. Then I wrote her a letter telling all of the ways that she offended me and in great detail.....after I moved.:-2 :-1

Saffron wrote: This is a very good question. I used to have a female roommate who would invade my space, and then comment on it saying "yah I can see that you're uncomfortable" but then continue. She offended me in ways that I cannot write here. I finally just moved. She was shocked when I told her I was moving. Then I wrote her a letter telling all of the ways that she offended me and in great detail.....after I moved.:-2 :-1


I cannot share rooms, flats, etc. I established this when I first flew the nest. Nothing but hassle and arguments.

cars wrote: Your Space, Relaxing Time, Alone Time, Me Time!!!



How do You React to Someone Who Invades It?


PS.

Cars, why do you ask? Have you just been invaded?

Space invaders............................

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cars wrote: Your Space, Relaxing Time, Alone Time, Me Time!!!



How do You React to Someone Who Invades It?
With the unmistakeable sound of racking a shell into the chamber of my Mossberg.

BabyRider wrote: With the unmistakeable sound of racking a shell into the chamber of my Mossberg.BBAAAWWWWAAAAHHHHH!!!.... once i was out at a mall in my uniform, and this big guy kept sidling up next to me, very closely, for no apparent reason. i was sure he was going to go for my gun, and felt extremely uncomfortable. so i simply gave him 'the look' and he left. thankfully.

lady cop wrote: BBAAAWWWWAAAAHHHHH!!!.... once i was out at a mall in my uniform, and this big guy kept sidling up next to me, very closely, for no apparent reason. i was sure he was going to go for my gun, and felt extremely uncomfortable. so i simply gave him 'the look' and he left. thankfully.


I think Jab could do with some lessons from you LC.

OpenMind wrote: I think Jab could do with some lessons from you LC."the look" works best when accompanied by firearms.

lady cop wrote: "the look" works best when accompanied by firearms.


Somehow, I can understand that. You are too fair to give a fear-inspiring look.

forgive me, off-topic, but this brought to mind what could have been a tragedy. i was (DON'T LAUGH!!!:p ) in dunkin' donuts getting my usual iced coffee. a little boy about 4 years old came out of nowhere and grabbed my gun without warning. his mother went nuts and snatched him away, but i never forgot that. fortunately the guns are double-snapped in holsters. believe me, that day at briefing i gave everyone a warning about curious little half-pints who only reach our waistlines.

lady cop wrote: forgive me, off-topic, but this brought to mind what could have been a tragedy. i was (DON'T LAUGH!!!:p ) in dunkin' donuts getting my usual iced coffee. a little boy about 4 years old came out of nowhere and grabbed my gun without warning. his mother went nuts and snatched him away, but i never forgot that. fortunately the guns are double-snapped in holsters. believe me, that day at briefing i gave everyone a warning about curious little half-pints who only reach our waistlines.


The fascination of guns for little boys is only natural (little heathens we are).

OpenMind wrote: PS.

Cars, why do you ask? Have you just been invaded?


No not really, lately. I was going to add my input after reading some of the replies. Like someone standing too close while on a line, or continually bumping me with their shopping cart. For those too close, I start to stretch and get closer to them, even like brushing them away. Most times they get the message, and for those who bump me with their carts, I fake an injury like I was really hurt & then they become apologetic & stay away. And the people that are so important that they have no time to wait on a line & they try to cut the line & start a new one. Don't stand for that. For family & friends I can always find time for them, & have "me time" or "alone time" later on in the day or night. (Like now, is me time)

cars wrote: And the people that are so important that they have no time to wait on a line & they try to cut the line & start a new one. Don't stand for that.
I remember an occasion last year when I was standing in line waiting to be served. I was next in line. A guy just walked up and butted right in at the counter. Naturally, I piped up in my usual sardonic manner.

However, he was apparently already being served before I even got to the queue. The cashier backed him up. He had the wrong item and had simply gone off to change it rather than trouble an assistant.

OpenMind wrote: I remember an occasion last year when I was standing in line waiting to be served. I was next in line. A guy just walked up and butted right in at the counter. Naturally, I piped up in my usual sardonic manner.

However, he was apparently already being served before I even got to the queue. The cashier backed him up. He had the wrong item and had simply gone off to change it rather than trouble an assistant.


Sometimes things aren't always what they apear to be! :rolleyes:

Well I live in Los angeles and I am getting my space invaded almost every day. It seems I have become a little bit phobic of people. Even some people staring is an invasion of your space. I can always tell when certain people are from another country by the way they stare. It's more rude than actually bumping into you.:sneaky:

I usually start mumbling and talking to myself. Sometimes I even start acting like I have a really bad twitch. This usually has people back off a few steps.

:yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl Boy that will clear a room in no time..

[QUOTE]My ex used to fart if someone got too close in line. You'd be surprised how well that worked.[/QUOTE]

SnoozeControl wrote: My ex used to fart if someone got too close in line. You'd be surprised how well that worked.


My husband uses gas warfare to get me moving when out shopping with me.

cars wrote: No not really, lately. I was going to add my input after reading some of the replies. Like someone standing too close while on a line, or continually bumping me with their shopping cart. For those too close, I start to stretch and get closer to them, even like brushing them away. Most times they get the message, and for those who bump me with their carts, I fake an injury like I was really hurt & then they become apologetic & stay away. And the people that are so important that they have no time to wait on a line & they try to cut the line & start a new one. Don't stand for that. For family & friends I can always find time for them, & have "me time" or "alone time" later on in the day or night. (Like now, is me time)


My space ahahaha oooo my beau would love to read this thread he knows I hate my space being invaded. And funny I tune in to this now, this weekend I had it happen 2 times. I was with the beau we were in a store looking at some things on a shelf and this woman was looking quite literally over my shoulder at something so I was thinking ok to be polite I will move over and offer up a little shared space then decided no. When we left she left too, she was not remotely interested in the same thing as us. Second incident, we were trying to figure something out and it was not working (in home depot) and this old bag kinda squeezes her way in to take a look see and didn't speak just snuggled up close to watch and when we stepped away she moved right in. She had been standing there before us totally uninterested in the item.

How do I handle it, I usually get annoyed but don't say anything. I hate line ups where someone is up my ass Sometimes I will step back and then forward like a warning. But generally I don't say anything though I feel like it. If I am having a quite time at home and Jr minks invades I give an annoyed look, but then will allow her to continue. I do get a tad angry when I am in my room reading and she burns in and has some lame conversation to carry on with me that can't wait hehehe.

Invading phone calls, get a simple, no thank you I am not interested and I hang up immediately.

FAR, Is that you...your back.. :guitarist :guitarist

CARLA wrote: FAR, Is that you...your back.. :guitarist :guitarist
the one the only hehehehe

eh hem you cowboy dude...outta my space hehehehe or else!!!!!

People invading "me space".... not good. There's a reason we need "me time", and that's to get away from everyone and everything! I enjoy it way too much, and so probably don't deal as patiently as I perhaps should if anyone interrupts!

If '24' is on and I am in my bedroom watching it and one of my familly members dare to intrude with a knock I yell

GO AWAY!!!!!!!!!

When touched or pushed in public I often will make a big to do with apolozing to them for dong what they did to me :sneaky: they really back off fast then . Kill 'em with politness............... :-6

SOJOURNER wrote: If '24' is on and I am in my bedroom watching it and one of my familly members dare to intrude with a knock I yell

GO AWAY!!!!!!!!!

When touched or pushed in public I often will make a big to do with apolozing to them for dong what they did to me :sneaky: they really back off fast then . Kill 'em with politness............... :-6


Good one SOJO, I'll have to try that one out next time. And I'm sure there will be a next time! :guitarist

cars wrote: Your Space, Relaxing Time, Alone Time, Me Time!!!

How do You React to Someone Who Invades It?


Simple. I turn off the phone and don't answer the door.

Saffron wrote: This is a very good question. I used to have a female roommate who would invade my space, and then comment on it saying "yah I can see that you're uncomfortable" but then continue. She offended me in ways that I cannot write here. I finally just moved. She was shocked when I told her I was moving. Then I wrote her a letter telling all of the ways that she offended me and in great detail.....after I moved.:-2 :-1






Roomates are just no damned good !



If someone invades my space they get this

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i'm a bachelor. when i get home the whole night is "me time"

which is great for naked laundry and vacuuming.

Wolverine wrote: i'm a bachelor. when i get home the whole night is "me time"

which is great for naked laundry and vacuuming.
Hmmmmm.....interesting, very interesting!

Lil~Basco wrote: Hmmmmm.....interesting, very interesting!
and how's that?

i highly recommend in home "naked" anything. it takes a little bit to get used to. at least it did for me. but it is quite relaxing.

but again, i'm a bachelor. i'm sure for the ladies out there with hubbys and live-in BFs, it would be much more difficult to strut around naked.

I know Betty Boop likes to strut around nekkid.

Wolverine wrote: i'm sure for the ladies out there with hubbys and live-in BFs, it would be much more difficult to strut around naked.
NOT difficult at all! Doesn't any man like less than more?

Hmmmm....interesting cuz I'm trying to visualize you running that vacuum n-a-k-e-d! :-4 Sweet! *Bad Basco, bad!*

Lil~Basco wrote: NOT difficult at all! Doesn't any man like less than more?

Hmmmm....interesting cuz I'm trying to visualize you running that vacuum n-a-k-e-d! :-4 Sweet! *Bad Basco, bad!*
i meant that if you were running all over the house doing things naked, you'd have a hell of a time. Cuz i'd be right there behind you acting as your personal Bra.

Naykid Wolvie? yeah right. you're just impressed that a bachelor owns a vacuum, let alone knows how to use it.

Wolverine wrote: i meant that if you were running all over the house doing things naked, you'd have a hell of a time. Cuz i'd be right there behind you acting as your personal Bra.

Naykid Wolvie? yeah right. you're just impressed that a bachelor owns a vacuum, let alone knows how to use it.
Hahaha....brings back lots of fun memories. Been there, done that. :-4 Miss those days.

nah....not impressed. Most men are great with power tools.

My daughter-in-law will act as if she has turrets syndrome. The first time she did it, I almost died. It did clear her space though. :wah: I made her promise never to do it again. I guess she and her sisters use to do that all the time at the mall when they were younger. Oh to be young and stupid again.

Lil~Basco wrote: Most men are great with power tools. :wah: :wah:

Nomad wrote: I know Betty Boop likes to strut around nekkid.




:yh_rotfl Hey you!!! Stop telling my secrets!!