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Just wondering...I have a few mom friends who have daughters. I have 2 boys and a girl. My sons are 5 (soon to be 6) and 9....my friends daughters all range from 6-14.....My question is .....why are all these girls so dang competitive and mean? Are girls just hardwired to be this way? It is so bad that their mothers are even all in competition in a way. They say mean things about each other (to me) behind the others back....constantly comparing their daughters scores, abilities, even shoes!!!!! I am so bored w/ this constant banter I can't stand it. The girls are all so competitive that they will stab each other in the back. When I think of my sons, they would never be unkind to their friends for their own self promotion. in fact, they are most always helpful, kind and empathetic to others. For example my 9 yr old didn't have a clue what anybody else scored on a recent social studies test (nor did he care) but every little girl on this street was blabbing all about it right after school and one of the girls ran in crying. Is this normal?

I think girls ARE hardwired to be competitive. Its weird. My two old girlfriends and I just had brunch together when I went home. We havent seen eachother since high school and even though 4-6 of us hung out together for years, we were MEAN to eachother. Here is an example of what we did to eachother:

My friend "A" was over at "J"'s house and they decided to call my ex boyfriend's new girl. A pretended to be me and said "I have been sleeping with your boyfriend, blah blah blah" (which wasnt true). I found about this months later when I was at J's house. She confessed to me that they did it. SO to get her back, I called this guy A had a huge crush on for like 6 years and pretended to be HER!!!! I just acted really psycho and stupid. J and I finally came clean about it to her at brunch. We laughed but she was like no wonder he stopped talking to me. I thought it was for no reason!!!

Now we are all good friends and trying to keep in touch. We try to have a meal together when all of us are in the same town!!